People sometimes ask me why someone steals things they don’t even want. The question always sounds as if there must be one correct answer…
People sometimes ask me why someone steals things they don't even want. The question always sounds as if there must be one correct answer waiting somewhere. Every time I hear it, I find myself thinking that this is exactly where the misunderstanding begins.
I've long since stopped believing that kleptomania begins with the hands. The hands arrive at the very end. They're simply carrying out something that started much earlier. Sometimes a few hours before the theft. Sometimes several days. And sometimes, if we're being honest, many years before the person ever slipped their first item into a pocket.
I remember one woman. I've changed the details because other people's stories aren't mine to tell. But one part of her story has stayed with me. She regularly stole small paper notebooks from stationery stores. Cheap ones. Plain ones. By the time she came to therapy, she had enough notebooks to stock a small shop. She never wrote in them. Not a single page. They just sat in neat piles around her apartment.
















