You know the really tender soft “I am in love and am so happy” expression where their eyes shine and they smile so gently and can’t stop looking at their object of affection as they wag their tail and fall in love more?

Irish is the native language of Irish people. It’s an ancient language that is on the brink of extinction as a direct result of colonialism and cultural and physical genocide.

Names like Saoirse (freedom), Áine (radiant), Aoife (beautiful) etc are traditional Irish names. They’re spelt “funny” because Irish is a different language from English, and has some sounds that aren’t found in the English language.

There are bisexuals who are not attracted to men.

There are bisexuals who are not attracted to binary genders at all.

You can say “nonbinary people can be bisexual” or “bisexual isn’t nonbinary-exclusionary” all you want, but until you stop positing “MEN AND WOMEN!” as the Unifying Bisexual Experience, you’re just paying lip service.

If we accept that it is impossible to tell if someone is nonbinary—and the premise that looking is the only contributing factor to attraction—then we have two possible conclusions:

Everyone is bi, and attracted regardless of gender;

People attracted only to men or only to women are also attracted to one of two sets of nonbinary people.

Admittedly, the simplification of only two possible “sex morph”s here has the drawback of belying the bimodal spectrum of ways sexual phenotypes can present, but phenotypes still present as unambiguously “male” or “female” 99% of the time. And in instances of ambiguity or mixed characteristics, the dimorphism of the individual is still predominantly “one or the other”. It’s an effective model to use for sexual orientation, which in itself is hardly binary or easily delineated.

When it comes to nb people, the nature of one’s sexual characteristics does not necessarily correlate to a non-binary identity the way it does for binary gender identities. Whereas those with a female gender identity (cis women and trans women alike) most typically present with female sexual characteristics/phenotypes (and similarly with cis/trans men and male sexual phenotypes), there is no “alternative” sexual phenotype that non-binary people generally present as. Which is what I assume @transmedicalism-saves-lives meant when they said “it’s not possible to tell if someone is non-binary” [therefore, it’s impossible for people to consider themselves categorically attracted to nb people, because they don’t have a sexual phenotype disparate from ‘male’ or ‘female’].

Yes, I believe transwomen should be considered women socially. Their sex incongruence/dysphoria warrants—and sometimes necessitates—medical intervention in the form of transitioning to present, and socially assimilate, as female. The gesture of acknowledging transwomen as female, in that sense, is not only in service and respect to their mental health and desires, but also socially utilitarian. the vast majority of transwomen pass as their gender, it makes no sense to insist they all be referred to as males or with male pronouns when they are perceived by everybody to be female, and when they want to be perceived as female.

And before you object on the grounds that “people who aren’t of the female sex shouldn’t be called females or women”—sex, and what it means to be considered “female” or “male” socially and medically—is hardly as clearly delineated as you probably think.

For example: genotypic males with the DSD/intersex condition called Androgen Insensitivity Disorder develop a female phenotype. The degree to how “female” their phenotype is varies depending on the severity of their insensitivity, but in instances of complete androgen insensitivity, they can develop whole female genitalia (vagina, etc.), but maintain an internal pair of testes without the development of any uterus or ovaries. AIS males are almost always raised as females because of their female phenotype, and so they’re “socialized female” as you like to say.

And.. I’m not using intersex people “as a pawn”, although I know that’s the excuse y’all jump to nowadays when you can’t rebut relevant arguments that so much as reference the existence of intersex conditions. I was not attempting to use AIS as “proof” that sex is a spectrum or something—I’m just saying that there are individuals of the [genotypic] male sex that are reared, from birth, as females (AFAB), and whom you would consider a woman that can be included in your feminism.

not at the expense of writing butch lesbian characters, it shouldn’t be one or the other. (hell, it’d be interesting to have both a butch lesbian and a butch straight woman in the same cast.) but i keep seeing people say “make this butch character a lesbian! if you make her straight that’s boring and cowardly!”

and… i don’t know what fucking planet those people are living on where media is full of butch women, like actually butch women, not just Furiosa and Gwendolyn Christie’s oeuvre. I don’t know on what fucking planet media regularly has women who don’t perform femininity shown in loving relationships with men, and their lack of femininity isn’t A Thing. 

 how many girls are growing up and seeing that if they want to be A Woman who Loves Men they have to be femme? seeing that the only people who are dressing and acting and existing the way they want to are lesbians and trans men? while… you know, not being lesbian or transmasc, or not knowing that they’re lesbian or transmasc. 

“We play for different teams.”

“Oh, so you’re straight and she’s….” 

Yes, I believe transwomen should be considered women socially. Their sex incongruence/dysphoria warrants—and sometimes necessitates—medical intervention in the form of transitioning to present, and socially assimilate, as female. The gesture of acknowledging transwomen as female, in that sense, is not only in service and respect to their mental health and desires, but also socially utilitarian. the vast majority of transwomen pass as their gender, it makes no sense to insist they all be referred to as males or with male pronouns when they are perceived by everybody to be female, and when they want to be perceived as female.

And before you object on the grounds that “people who aren’t of the female sex shouldn’t be called females or women”—sex, and what it means to be considered “female” or “male” socially and medically—is hardly as clearly delineated as you probably think.

For example: genotypic males with the DSD/intersex condition called Androgen Insensitivity Disorder develop a female phenotype. The degree to how “female” their phenotype is varies depending on the severity of their insensitivity, but in instances of complete androgen insensitivity, they can develop whole female genitalia (vagina, etc.), but maintain an internal pair of testes without the development of any uterus or ovaries. AIS males are almost always raised as females because of their female phenotype, and so they’re “socialized female” as you like to say.