chronically silly & chronically illy

if your conditions make it hard for you to follow through with plans, you deserve friendship anyways.

if you use equipment like mobility aids, aac, ventilators and oxygen, feeding tubes, insulin pumps, etc, you deserve friendship anyways.

if your conditions make you have to cancel last minute a lot, you deserve friendship anyways. if your conditions make you have to leave early a lot, you deserve friendship anyways.

if you're housebound/bedbound, you deserve friendship anyways.

if you need caregiver support to hang out with friends, you deserve friendship anyways AND you deserve the caregiver support you need to enjoy time with them.

if you have a service dog, you deserve friendship anyways.

if your conditions cause "scary" medical episodes like seizures, fainting, meltdowns and shutdowns, etc, you deserve friendship anyways.

i am chronically ill. my chronic illnesses do not have a cure. this is my life. i am doing the best i can. it is so profoundly unhelpful for people who claim to love me to tell me that i’m suffering bc i’m not trying hard enough or i dont want it badly enough or because i somehow want to be sick. and it makes me so miserable, bc its not that i don’t WANT to do things. i miss traveling. i miss going for runs. i miss spontaneity. but the stakes are so much higher now. if i overdo it now, i won’t just be a little tired the next day. if i overdo it now, i risk being bedridden for weeks. but people don’t see that. they just think i’m hiding away at home, as if this is something anyone would choose.

i am chronically ill. my chronic illnesses do not have a cure. this is my life. i am doing the best i can. it is so profoundly unhelpful for people who claim to love me to tell me that i’m suffering bc i’m not trying hard enough or i dont want it badly enough or because i somehow want to be sick. and it makes me so miserable, bc its not that i don’t WANT to do things. i miss traveling. i miss going for runs. i miss spontaneity. but the stakes are so much higher now. if i overdo it now, i won’t just be a little tired the next day. if i overdo it now, i risk being bedridden for weeks. but people don’t see that. they just think i’m hiding away at home, as if this is something anyone would choose.