ZUKO THROUGH OZAIāS EYES
[or: what could drive a man to hate his young son so much that heād burn off half his tear-stained face and send him away forever?]
so ozai clearly had a lot of reasons to hate zuko, the central, most obvious of which is zukoās personality. ozaiās son is the exact opposite of everything he values. zuko isnāt calculated or cunning or cruel. heās so much the opposite that he canāt even pretend to be any of those things. because of this ozai sees zuko as weak.Ā
but this explanation leaves something to be desired, because it only does half the work. it doesnāt explain why zukoās āweaknessā would inspire hatred so strong that ozai would look for years for the opportunity to exorcise his son from his bloodline ; a hatred so strong that he would burn off half the boyās face and send him away so as to never lay eyes on him again. the personality-clash explanation doesnāt get to the root of ozaiās hatred.
clearly, to understand the cause of their dysfunctionalĀ downright disastrous relationship, we should look less at zukoās psyche and more at ozaiās. iād argue that it is ozaiās own insecurity, stemming from his own family dynamic, that caused him to despise his son and favor his daughter.
yeah, i know, insecurity seems like a cop-out of an explanation. how many times have we heard the ābullies/stalin/[insert cruel person here] were just insecureā spiel? but hear me out.
set aside, for a sec, the fact that ozai is clearly a power hungry, megalomaniacal tyrant and the fact that zuko, to him, is a subpar heir for his empire. thatās more of a pragmatic (in a really loose sense of the term) explanation for ozaiās hatred. letās take a minute to forget power politics and just look at the human reasons āthe sub-rational, emotional, psyche-driven reasonsāwhy ozai despises his firstborn.
it starts with ozaiās own father. azulon clearly favored his firstborn, iroh. judging by their age difference (iroh is what, fifteen years older than ozai at the least?) my headcanon is that ozaiās conception was an accident. azulon had no need for a second son, surely not when iroh was nearly an adult already and shaping up to be a fine heir. iām sure iroh outshone ozai at every turn. how could he not, when he was so much older? he was probably off achieving military victory and slaying dragons before ozai had a chance to come close to mastering firebending.
but we do know from the show that ozai is a gifted bender. he has to be. despite not being his fatherās favorite, iām sure ozai saw himself as the superior bender. clearly he thought very little of his brother, even before irohās ignominious defeat at ba sing se. ozai saw himself as the one fit to rule. he was the cold one, the calculated one, the cunning one. just look at his lightning, at how quickly and mercilessly and sharply he strikes. iroh, even before he turned against the fire nationās imperial conquests, had to have been kind at heartāa stark contrast to ozaiās cold ambition that surely ozai percieved as weakness and a sign that iroh was unfit to rule all along. iroh was the seemingly perfect older brother who got praise, attention and the birthright he didnāt deserve, and whom ozai hated and coveted with bitter passion.
from there, then, itās easy to see how this resentment might translate onto ozaiās own children. his firstborn is very much like iroh. zuko has that same softness in his heart, in contrast with his younger sisterās coldness that she seems to have inherited (or at least been open to learning) from her father. in zuko and azula, ozai saw iroh and himself: the weakling heir and the younger child truly fit to rule. with them, ozai becomes the father he wanted his own to be by rejecting the weak, soft firstborn and training the powerful and worthy secondborn as his heir. with his own children he rights the wrongs his father visited upon him.
ozaiās bitter hatred of iroh, hardened from decades of being looked over for and compared to his favored older brother, finds an outlet in zuko.
and then thereās the issue of ursa.
we know that ozaiās marriage to ursa was meant as a kind of experiment. azulon wanted to try to make his bloodline stronger by mixing it with the avatarās. surely, for ozai, there was no greater insult than being a guinea pig in his fatherās experiment and being given a wife from the bloodline of a reviled enemy of their nation. azulon would never have married ursa off to iroh. ozaiās resentment of taking the avatarās granddaughter as his wife probably contributed to how horribly he treated her. ursaās daily presense in ozaiās life stood as proof of his fatherās disregard and disfavor.
itās made pretty obvious in the series that zuko is a mommaās boy. he takes after his mother in personality and clings to her side, and to top it all off, ursa clearly favored zuko as he favored her. ozaiās firstborn became to him an extension of his hated wife, and therefore also a symbol of his fatherās disfavor and his unjustly inferior position in the royal family.
so combine that with the fact that zuko was born without the āsparkā, his firstborn a non-bender, the humiliation!, and the fact that zuko reminds him of iroh and it becomes pretty obvious why ozai wanted his firstborn gone.
zuko is the embodiment of everything that threatens ozaiās desire for power. he is everything ozai despises:
he is iroh, the weak firstborn poised to steal the crown from the truly worthy heir.
he is ursa, the symbol of his fatherās disfavor.
and last but not least, he is a representation of ozai. to have such a shameful creature, who doesnāt even have the spark, representing him to the world? it is unacceptable. ozai has spent his whole life trying to prove that he is the strong one, he is the powerful one, he is the ambitious one, he is the one fit for the throneā¦
and zuko threatens all of that.