ridley

i just love them so bad

Surprisingly I had so many people try to offer anything to help keep this alive even though I personally don't have much care for my art, I understand art is temporary and will be destroyed one day, so I always didn't care much if I lose my art. But like, dozens of people offered so much help to try and figure out how to keep this alive. and it was honestly really sweet.

Designed for Violence

JANE REMOVER — REVENGESEEKERZ (2025)

(Photography by Brendon Burton - @burtoo)

Firstly, in arguments and disagreements; other peoples trauma gets used as a point to make and nothing more. People, and entire groups of people, get boiled down to their experiences they've went through. Whenever people make sharing their friends trauma to others to make a point, I just wonder... do your friends know about this? Do they know you're sharing this information so you can win an internet argument?

Secondly, the scale of trauma. The internet cannot decide whether some experiences are objectively worse than others, and at the same time constantly design their points around the belief that there is an objective worse. On top of that, people get ideas in their head on what a traumatized person acts like. the more openly loud, abrasive, and kicking and screaming you are, the more traumatized you seem, the better the points you're making are to people. In a way, healing is actively discouraged. If you want to be heard, you have to get worse. more unstable.

I've often get put in discussions where they blatantly, clearly believe I have never been through anything traumatic, and cannot possibly know how painful it is, and therefore I have no ground in this argument. They want me to kick and scream. they want to know every personal detail. The trick is that they do not actually care, they know if they get me to react it will sting more once they say this point no longer matters.

Because trauma comparison is so encouraged and normal, its often prevented me from ever sharing anything about myself. I have gotten told, multiple times by multiple people, that they don't like hearing me talk about my trauma because they feel like nothing they've experienced matters in comparison. that instead of listening and giving a helping ear, they grow resentful and self-pitying.

The reason these arguments never go well is because no matter what, someone has to get their feelings hurt, and told their trauma doesn't matter in comparison. You are encouraged to spill your blood with the risk of being told it means nothing, and then made fun of for spilling your blood. The argument lives out its reactionary nature in the an extremely cruel way by making people expose the most intimate experiences of theirs and their friends lives. They may not have healed from it, but they will use it as a weapon to make others feel worse. If your reasoning behind your stance is your trauma, you automatically "win" a lot of the time.

There are some times where this doesn't "pay off" no matter what. if someone believes that all taboo media is self harm for traumatized people, then traumatized people get controlled and shamed for being traumatized. You are not trusted with your own agency, and need to taken away from you, "because someone with trauma cannot make a correct decision on their own feelings on sex. you have to be a certain type of sexually oppressed to heal, as anything abnormal will never let you heal." this is the thought process, and it gets people hurt, because they are being kept in a weaker, docile position.

Firstly, in arguments and disagreements; other peoples trauma gets used as a point to make and nothing more. People, and entire groups of people, get boiled down to their experiences they've went through. Whenever people make sharing their friends trauma to others to make a point, I just wonder... do your friends know about this? Do they know you're sharing this information so you can win an internet argument?

Secondly, the scale of trauma. The internet cannot decide whether some experiences are objectively worse than others, and at the same time constantly design their points around the belief that there is an objective worse. On top of that, people get ideas in their head on what a traumatized person acts like. the more openly loud, abrasive, and kicking and screaming you are, the more traumatized you seem, the better the points you're making are to people. In a way, healing is actively discouraged. If you want to be heard, you have to get worse. more unstable.

I've often get put in discussions where they blatantly, clearly believe I have never been through anything traumatic, and cannot possibly know how painful it is, and therefore I have no ground in this argument. They want me to kick and scream. they want to know every personal detail. The trick is that they do not actually care, they know if they get me to react it will sting more once they say this point no longer matters.

Because trauma comparison is so encouraged and normal, its often prevented me from ever sharing anything about myself. I have gotten told, multiple times by multiple people, that they don't like hearing me talk about my trauma because they feel like nothing they've experienced matters in comparison. that instead of listening and giving a helping ear, they grow resentful and self-pitying.

The reason these arguments never go well is because no matter what, someone has to get their feelings hurt, and told their trauma doesn't matter in comparison. You are encouraged to spill your blood with the risk of being told it means nothing, and then made fun of for spilling your blood. The argument lives out its reactionary nature in the an extremely cruel way by making people expose the most intimate experiences of theirs and their friends lives. They may not have healed from it, but they will use it as a weapon to make others feel worse. If your reasoning behind your stance is your trauma, you automatically "win" a lot of the time.

There are some times where this doesn't "pay off" no matter what. if someone believes that all taboo media is self harm for traumatized people, then traumatized people get controlled and shamed for being traumatized. You are not trusted with your own agency, and need to taken away from you, "because someone with trauma cannot make a correct decision on their own feelings on sex. you have to be a certain type of sexually oppressed to heal, as anything abnormal will never let you heal." this is the thought process, and it gets people hurt, because they are being kept in a weaker, docile position.

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