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happy disability pride month to those who didn’t make it, for whatever reason. you will not be forgotten.

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The final unit I taught this year in my ENL/ESL class was called What We Wear. It's all about how you wear different clothes and accessories in different situations and for different reasons. And it taught about different cultures too. The textbook actually talked about Indian women wearing henna for her wedding, and we discussed the other cultures we know or are from that use henna. It talked about Maori and Chin women who have culturally significant face tattoos and what they mean and if people still get them today. So we had a conversation about tattoos in each of their cultures. It talked about jewelry based traditions of the Ndebele and Navajo and Chinese peoples.

Something that really struck me, was when the textbook mentioned that in many cultures girls get their ears pierced as babies. I asked the girls if they had their ears pierced and how old when it happened. But then I asked the boys too and several of my boys from various African countries (Togo, Congo, Malawi) said they used to have a pierced ear but they took it out. One of the boys asked me, why in Africa can boys have pierced ears but in America (USA) people call you gay for it. Several other boys said yeah or otherwise indicated they had the same question and had experienced the same harassment. These kids are just 11 or 12. Not one of those boys still wears his earring.

#host #pancakes talk #I tried to explain this is why I tell them there's no boy or girl clothes #how this is the kind of harm they can do when they call people gay for how they look or act #in my classroom they honor each other's cultures but in the rest of the school they don't feel safe and conform to the pressures

queer-as-in-fuck-12

drug addicts deserve housing, food, water, and healthcare btw

#yes even 'those' addicts #addicts who relapse #addicts who don't want to get clean #addicts who haven't done everything 'right'#addicts are people and every person deserves to have their needs met

esthermika

even IF dude was gender neutral, you could make that trans girl so much happier by calling her 'girl', or 'lady', or anything else really.

rosey-thorns

even if dude was gender neutral, i am not!!

#even if dude was gender neutral if someone tells you they don't want to be called something you should respect them #host

esthermika

even IF dude was gender neutral, you could make that trans girl so much happier by calling her 'girl', or 'lady', or anything else really.

rosey-thorns

even if dude was gender neutral, i am not!!

#even if dude was gender neutral if someone tells you they don't want to be called something you should respect them #host

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prettycolors

#0057ff #L #good color

should-be-sleeping

"As a nonbinary person, what does your child or teachers etc. refer to you as?"

The Kid just calls me Mom, which is short for "Mombinary." Obviously.

should-be-sleeping

Teachers, etc. call me by my name? Idk, it'd be awkward if they wanted to call me mom or dad.

should-be-sleeping

On documents I'm listed as Parent. They don't need anything more than that anyway. It's unnecessary for a form (esp. about someone else) to ask you to explicitly gender yourself.

Example

Relationship to student: Parent

Relationship to student:

Mother

Father

Legal Guardian

Other: _________ <- I write "Parent" here.

should-be-sleeping

"What do your parents refer to you as?"

Their child.

Sometimes also "a nuisance."

should-be-sleeping

The only time someone will get a specified gender out of me is if I think it'll make them irrationally mad and I think that would be funny in the moment.

Like, if I'm dating your son and you wear the red baseball hat, I'm a boy for sure; but if I just killed you 10x in a video game and you rage broke your keyboard, a girl did that 100%. 💋

Likewise, if anyone asks you about my gender for some reason, I would absolutely want you to use whatever pronoun brings you the most joy depending on who is asking.

I know that pronouns are important to some folks and that is valid, I would never misgender someone else, but it's not for me.

I do not mind. You cannot gender or misgender me in any way that matters. What's in my pants? Idc, mycelium? My gender is The Bit and I'm nothing if not committed.

#host #this #all of this #gender is a game #gender is a playground for me and everyone should be having a great time playing with it

caintooth

you have to love trans women more than you hate transmisogyny, you have to love jews more than you hate antisemitism, you have to love Black people more than you hate white supremacy, you have to love Indigenous people more than you hate colonialism, you have to love the disabled and mentally ill more than you hate ableism, you have to love. you have to love.

#it's great that you want to punch a nazi but have you tried not being antisemitic #or speaking up against blatant racism #or holding the door for the person behind you #being nice to someone in your community does so much more than reblogging the “I punch nazis” post again

fravery

Noor Elaen

#pretty 💜💜💜#undescribed image

solarifle

"we have to accept the fact that the r word is coming back" NO WE DONTTTT NO WE DONT

#reminder that only intellectually disabled people can reclaim it and the vast majority agree it shouldn't be reclaimed #I don't care if you're disabled or mentally ill #I don't care if you've been called it before #it's not for you to say or try to reclaim #level 1 autistics without intellectual disability this word isn't for us

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aomitois

rb and tag your favorite song that's not in english, japanese or korean

#10.000 Tränen by Berge #is a German song #for Spanish it's so much harder to pick one #I'm just gonna say either Romeo Santos or Santana's music in general cause all the songs I'm thinking of rn are part in English

wheelie-sick

it bothers me (and I've seen Jewish people talk about this too) that when people are pointing out the hypocrisy of Christians saying they are "just following the bible" while not following the bible they use examples of laws in the bible that are just Jewish laws. they frame it as "no one does this, this is absurd" but people do, in fact, follow those laws. the people following them are just Jewish.

#thank you op #it's really bothersome but also makes me doubt if that person is a safe person for me as a Jewish person #christians have always cherry picked what of our rules they like and ignored or re-'translated' the rest #you can call out christians for being bigoted without being antisemitic

starsinoursystem

this pride month I'm gonna need everyone to be radically pro transgender and also pro intersex and also pro ace and aro spec peoples thanks

rainecats

Not having a binary gender can be really hard. Especially if you present more masculinely or femininely but your gender isn’t the same. I see you, I understand you. You’ll find people who get it. You don’t need to feel bad about not fitting the norm. Gender and sex are more complex than other people think- there’s nothing wrong with not fitting into a binary that barely exists in the first place. You deserve to feel safe. You don’t need to be a boy or a girl, you can be you, and that’s ok. I’m not a boy or a girl either, we’re in this together, ok? We’ll get through this.

calciumcryptid

I feel like a lot of people get "All Art is Political" confused with "All Art is made with Political Intentions" which is not the same.

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flowercrowncrip

I don’t know if it’s just me being sensitive, but I feel like wheelchairs and other disability equipment shouldn’t be common centres of small talk. Like, I would massively prefer that people don’t mention my chair unless I bring it up/ it’s urgently relevant.

Even “complements” about my chair feel a bit weird. Unless it’s about something I’ve very clearly chosen for aesthetics (like “I like the stickers on your chair” is okay for me) just don’t mention it please. Even if it’s to say it looks cool and futuristic, it’s just another reminder that people see my wheelchair and disability (things I don’t get a choice in) before they see me and that sucks.

This also extends to other wheelchair users, especially if they don’t use the same kind of CRT powerchair/ otherwise use a wheelchair that isn’t a small manual chair.

musashi

Would it be safe to say that it follows the general rules of complimenting women without being creeps? Like the standard protocol is to only compliment things the woman has control over, ie "your legs are amazing" = freak shit, "I love your hair" = just nice

You mentioned stickers and presumably other mods. I often see wheelchair users with coloured spokes and decorations and stuff and I loooove complimenting them but I don't want to make anyone upset.

Similarly I also have seen some REALLY fun mobility aides (there's a guy with a Segway at my apartment complex and I've asked him about it before) is that the kinda thing that would fall into uncool territory? I'm asking all this genuinely as a person who loves complimenting strangers and wants to hone my technique lol

flowercrowncrip

Speaking for myself I’d say that those are really good rules. Decorations like spoke covers or spoke guards, stickers and decorative patches are all safer territory than the type of mobility aid.

I’d be much more cautious around commenting on “unusual” mobility aids. It might be the first time you’ve seen someone use a Segway or powerchair with modified controls, but that person has probably had that exact same conversation multiple times a week. My powerchair isn’t that unusual and it’s a conversation I have most times I leave the house. And even when people are saying it’s cool or futuristic or technologically impressive it is still a reminder that for most people my wheelchair is the first thing they see when they look at me (and many people don’t look further than that).

It’s also worth bearing in mind that not everyone has a completely positive or neutral relationship with their mobility aid (and that’s okay). And what can look like luxury extras someone has chosen for their chair are often medically necessary features they have had no choice in having. I get a lot of people complement things like my wheelchair’s powered tilt and recline function or my tray mounted controller thinking that they are cool optional extras I’ve chosen to add to my chair to make it more comfy. But for me those things are associated with my health declining and losing the ability to sit upright unsupported and use a standard controller. Those losses take time for me to process and I often don’t appreciate them being pointed out repeatedly when I’m just trying to go to the supermarket or have a nice day out somewhere, even if someone means well by it.

#host #I feel similarly about commenting on the things I do in my chair #for example if I'm sitting in a wheelie you don't need to comment on how it makes you nervous seeing me do it #I'm perfectly capable and aware of how to do it safely #I don't have power recline on my manual chair but I still benefit from the pressure relief from leaning back when seated for a long time #trust us to know how to use our aids safely and the dignity to choose not to be safe when we need to as well

eldritchbauble

Rather die as a tranny faggot queer than live as a sanitized, palatable "LGBT+."

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