Runadaemon

How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions

Emotional regulation skills

Conflict resolution skills

Creating and enforcing boundaries

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills

Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for

Axes of self-care/wellbeing

Self-care self-evaluation (find out where you’re starting)

How to make a self-care checklist

How to start a self-care habit

Reparenting resources

Crash Course Psychology

KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)

Emotional education activities for children and teens

they were so adamant about "you HAVE to make a new schedule every week" that our director of ops basically had to say "just send me you permanent schedule every week and I'll say you're doing it"

always know when you're scheduled because it's the same every week

easy to track your hours because they're the same every week

don't need to worry about being scheduled when you're not available because it's the fucking same every week

easier to get time off and shifts covered in advance because you always know what days you'd need off ahead of time

easier to schedule around school

easier to have a second job since your availability here won't change

if you need to change your schedule you can just talk to one of the managers ahead of time

and from the management side:

pretty much all of the above makes our lives easier

always know how many people you have working

so we generally know ahead of time if we're gonna be short staffed and need to ask for extra help

we know if we should start hiring again/how many people we need to hire based on how many shifts are open on the schedule

also, it's strongly incentivized not to run low on staff since we have to be in the stores running them all the time, so if we're short it fucking sucks for us too

and, since we're in the store all the time, we can tell which shifts don't need any more people too

….almost like it was planned.

^audio quotes & info from first screenshot refer this investigation. Apart from it being "nearly 50" and not "50+" cardiac events, this is correct.

Can't find anything specific on amputees being denied their prosthetics but ICE has been accused of denying healthcare to people detained at their facilities

[2]

Core civic and Geo Group are the two largest private prison companies working with ice

Core civic has failed state audits repeatedly:

as has geogroup (though this article is from 2015):

And ICE has been proven to not hold contractors to it's own standards (Inspector General's office, 2019)

When an English teacher, or reader, taught or picked up 1984, it wasn’t with the intention they were going to love the protagonist. They picked it up with the intention of reading a whole story and trying to grasp the theme or catharsis from the story. If the protagonist was a *shitty* person it played into the the themes or the story, because it wasn’t about morally judging the book or *liking* or feeling attachment to the protagonist. Sometimes and often times, books were just about gaining another perspective. 

No one read Lolita expecting to endear, or like, or be inspired by Humbert. You are supposed to be upset by his behavior, you don’t read Lolita with the intention of being inspired. You read it to learn more about what the fuck is going on inside someone’s head when they behave like that. How children get sucked into abusive situations. Or read “The Great Gatsby” not because they want to fall in love with Gatsby or Nick, but to better understand and analyze the experience of the 1920s or destitution of the American Dream. 

A lot of internet and fandom culture has changed that though. When we say something like “I love the Great Gatsby” it comes with the idea or association that means you must *love* or relate to one of the characters. And maybe you do, but the first assumption is not longer about the quality of the work or themes, or cathartic impact-it’s about character admiration. And with that character admiration, in tumblr stan culture, or kin culture, or exalting characters with fanart/romance/so on you don’t just ‘admire’ or find that character ‘compelling’ it now translates to ‘you LOVE that character’ or you ‘DIRECTLY relate to that character.’ 

You can’t say “I love how Humbert is written, it’s so fascinating and dark”, without it directly translating you somehow relate to a child abuser or condone his actions. Taking in media has become an act of worship and connection. We no longer watch meant to just see the story as a whole, we watch expecting to connect to a character and if we offer them our “worship” as it’s become, as opposed to just attention or interest study as it traditionally was, it means we are condoning the character or saying we directly empathize with all their actions. 

I think that’s why there is often now so much fuss over *toxic* characters or not. Or whether that classical novel is showing good or bad things anymore. We’re treating the characters as people we should love or want to draw or write about. Sometimes a story is just about getting the the theme or catharsis or learning another perspective. We don’t NEED to like the character. Or we don’t HAVE to like a character to be impressed by how they’re written or intrigued by their behavior. 

6 meal boxes of BBQ drumsticks with mashed potatoes and corn. 2 drumsticks, 1 cup of mashed potatoes, and half a can of corn.

BBQ sauce = $2.50 (2 x $1.25 bottles) (aldi)

chicken drumsticks = $4.18 (4lbs x $0.99/lbs sale) (aldi)

mashed potatoes = $1.20 (6 cups prepped from a $10 bulk box of instant mashed potatoes) (costco)

canned corn = $1.50 (3 x $0.50 cans) (winco)

price per meal = $1.57

8 bean & cheese burritos. beans (1/4lbs dry, ???lbs cooked) in a 14" tortilla with a generous handful of cheese.

dry beans = $1.28 (2lbs from a $16 25lbs bulk bag) (costco)

some homemade stock + spices i'm honestly not sure how to budget (leftover rotisserie chicken carcass + an onion + a carrot + a celery heart + a few garlic cloves made like 18-20 cups and i used 4 cups & probably $0.10 of spices)

bacon = $1.07 (4oz from a $4.25 16oz package) (costco)

shredded cheese = $1.50 (8 x 1/3 cup servings from a $15 bulk bag) (costco)

tortillas = $2.66 (8 from a $4 pack of 12) (smart & final)

price per meal = $0.83

6 meals of bastard bangers and mash. 1 cup of mashed potatoes, 2-3 sausage links, and 1/2 cup of frozen peas with butter

breakfast sausages = $2.42 - $3.64 (12-18 links from $2.83 packs of 14) (aldi)

mashed potatoes = $1.20 (6 cups prepped from a $10 bulk box of instant mashed potatoes) (costco)

peas = $1.32 (about half a $2.42 2lbs bag of frozen peas) (walmart)

butter = $0.75 (6 tbsp of a $4.00 box of butter) (walmart)

price per meal = $0.95 - $1.15

canned tomatoes = $2.80 (4 x $0.70 cans) (winco)

butter = $1.75 (14 tbsp from a $4.00 box) (costco)

onion = $0.25 (1 onion from a $1.98 bag of 8) (winco)

bread = $0.27 (1/3 of an $0.80 batch of homemade bread) (costco/walmart)

cheese = $1.13 (6oz cheese from $15 bulk bag) (costco)

mayonnaise = $0.45 (1/2 cup from a $3.38 bottle) (walmart)

price per meal = $1.11

5 fish stick tray bake. 7 fish sticks with french fries, carrots, and corn.

fish sticks = $5.27 (35 sticks from a bag of 90) (winco)*

fries = $1.98 (1.7lbs of a $7 bulk bag) (costco)

corn = $0.80 (1/3 of a $2.42 2lbs bag) (winco)*

carrots = $0.67 (3/5ths of a $1.12 1lbs bag) (winco)*

price per meal = $1.74**

*lost the receipt but i think that's what the prices were. might be off by a few cents in either direction.

**could have knocked the price down to $1.44 per meal if i'd put 5 fish sticks in each but the protein content was pretty sad without the extra 2.

5 meal boxes of ravioli with meat sauce. 1 cup of ravioli, 1 cup of pasta sauce with ground turkey crumbles, and a roll.

ravioli = $3.58 (2 x $1.79 packs) (aldi's)

pasta sauce = $-.-- (got it from a food bank; walmart's version is $1.54)

ground turkey = $-.-- (got it from a friend's freezer purge; walmart's version is $1.98)

dinner rolls = $0.77 (5 rolls from this ~$1.84 recipe) (costco/walmart)

price per meal = $1.57 (speculative) / $0.83 (actual)

I can't be the only one who's noticed the trend of female-led media who give the female leads a male support who is basically just a punching bag or a jerk the girls put up with

It's so nice that Bobby isn't either of those

Bobby is out of the loop about their demon hunting, but he isn't bumbling or stupid about it. He's just unaware about that side of world. In their civilian and idol lives, he's very conscious about their well-being and makes efforts to make sure they're okay

It's also refreshing that while Bobby isn't traditionally masculine, he isn't emasculated if that makes sense. Like, yeah, he's comfortable with color coordinating with his girls and shamelessly dances along to their dances, but he's not treated like a purse puppy

Maybe it's just me, but it does feel like a lot of feminine guys usually get stuck being paraded as collectibles in groups like this. Like, "look at us. We managed to snag a girly guy." Does this make sense? I don't know if that made sense. It made sense to me so I said it

the fact that it's not a single chosen one but a group of three

the fact that the honmoon is not powered by the hunters themselves but by the energy and love of the fans

the fact that gwi-ma turns people into demons by promising that he is the only one who can help them when he is in fact reliant on his army of demons to collect souls for him

the fact that "your idol" is about surrendering yourself to a single higher power while "golden" is about soaring to new heights together

the fact that gwi-ma preys on people's individual insecurities and shame to get inside their heads while rumi, mira, and zoey set them free in the end by encouraging them to embrace their differences and reminding them that they're not alone

the fact that you can see the audience cheering individually and even pushing into each other to get closer to the stage during "your idol"

while they're linking arms and cheering together and hugging during "what it feels like"

i have not seen the live action lilo and stitch but it feels like that movie sits on the opposite end of the spectrum from kpop demon hunters as a case study for how to tell a story in way that is culturally authentic and still resonates with a broader audience

and i think given that the core theme of the movie is all about community over individualism, the ending, particularly as it relates to rumi and jinu's budding romance, is really the perfect culmination of that broader theme

rumi and jinu's connection has all the hallmarks of that all-encompassing, all-consuming, borderline co-dependent first love where you keep your relationship a secret and sneak out of the house to meet up and feel like the other person is the ONLY person who really gets you

i'm the only one who can understand you, i'm the only one who will love you is the kind of thing that sounds romantic when you're 16 until you get older and realize how toxic it actually is and i love that the movie counters that in "what it sounds like" with rumi realizing that she had that love and support all along from her girls, and later, from the fans who continue to cheer them on through their comeback

it's about connection and sisterhood and love and sharing your fears and lifting each other up and becoming stronger and better together

and as compelling as i found rumi/jinu and as much as i would like to see their relationship explored more in a sequel/series, i just really love that this movie, which is clearly targeted at young women, ends on the message that romantic love is not the end all be all, that friendship is just as important if not more so than a romantic partner, that single women can lead successful, fulfilling lives, that true happiness and freedom start from within