Roll for Perception

Do you gender trans people correctly even when they're being absolutely terrible people? Do you refuse to use the r-slur against someone who suicide baited you but is neurodivergent? Do you refuse to snark at a mentally ill person who is being genuinely unpleasant, "go take your meds!"

Do you allow members of marginalized groups to be terrible people without judging their entire demographic for it? One of the most invisible yet vital forms of privilege is the right to be terrible people as an individual rather than as a group. Do you acknowledge that there are bad people in every group, that it doesn't make their group less worth fighting for? Or do you shake your head if you happen to get mistreated by some who belong to a group and insist the entire group is awful and not worth your allyship?

are you gonna be weird about feeding tubes? are you gonna ask invasive questions about catheters and ostomy bags? can you cope with seeing someone give themselves an injection? could you walk up to someone with a tracheostomy and talk to them? how about someone with a central line?

Very briefly, a bunch of rabbis are arguing about how a kiln/oven should be kept pure. Rabbi Eliezer has his opinion, and all the other Sages disagree with him.

Eliezer tries every logical angle to convince them he's right. They won't budge. He declares that if he's right, a carob tree will uproot itself and move. The nearest carob tree uproots itself and moves 400 cubits. They still insist he's wrong, replying that we don't make laws based on trees. He declares that if he's right, the nearby stream will show it. The stream flows backwards. The Sages reply that we don't legislate based on streams. He declares that the very walls of the building will show it, and they begin to collapse inwards. Rabbi Yehoshua scolds the walls ("cut it out; this isn't your fight"), and in deference to his stature, the walls stop, though remain bent.

Finally, Rabbi Eliezer declares that if he's right, the Heavens themselves will confirm it. The sky parts, and the voice of God rings out: "Why do you disagree with Rabbi Eliezer? He is correct, as he always is in these matters."

Rabbi Yehoshua stands up, and replies. "The Torah is not in Heaven. We will decide the law based on majority rule, as it says in the Torah." (I.e. thanks for the Torah; we'll take it from here. The proper practice is whatever you can convince everyone it is.)

God smiles, and says to his angels, "my children have triumphed over me."

*pinches nose*

Fellas, is it cultural appropriation to inherit your family's culture but you don't pass the blood quantum test?

“You can’t compare sex work to other types of work because having sex you’re not enthusiastic about is really traumatizing”

I’m sure for a lot of people that’s true but for me sex and masturbation occupy a similar emotional space to brushing my teeth or doing the dishes and I certainly don’t feel traumatized about it and I know for a fact that I’m not the only person who feels this way.

Also I think that someone physically and violently forcing me to brush my teeth might end up being traumatizing.

Sex is so taboo and mythologized that people have forgotten the mechanics of it.

Yeah sex might be sacred and important to you. To me it’s a chore I’ve gotta do sometimes. Like cooking. I love cooking and put great importance on it and who I do it with. A lot of people just cook to live though.

also you are never going to be safe for people for whom english is their second language. if someone clarifies their meaning and apologises and you can't accept that over the original wording then don't bother pretending to be autism friendly.

and like part of my autism is that i become convinced that the way i interpret words is the way that they're meant. my autism is disabling to my communication abilities. i have poor emotional regulation, i jump to conclusions. a lot of my reactions are informed by prior negative experiences. i can and probably have been overly defensive in the past.

and i've been misinterpreted so much and had my words picked over and mocked for saying the wrong things and mocked for being unable to say anything at all and it always feels devastating. it's ironic that the same disability that has me treated poorly would have me react poorly to a similar situation, but that's just how it is.

audio jacks have become pretty much obsolete. Headphones that aren’t sensory hell are often expensive. If someone playing stuff out loud in a public area pisses you off while not being anything explicit/illegal. It’s a you problem, my friend. If you think good headphones should be easy to afford, buy yourself a pair of noise-cancelling ones

audio jacks have become pretty much obsolete. Headphones that aren’t sensory hell are often expensive. If someone playing stuff out loud in a public area pisses you off while not being anything explicit/illegal. It’s a you problem, my friend. If you think good headphones should be easy to afford, buy yourself a pair of noise-cancelling ones

Every single dad packed into the car:

Your husband and all his coworkers:

And while Manfriend or Ladyfriend could work, they have weird connotations.

I need you to understand that I have, like, an anthropological level fascination with this comic. From the perspective of someone who is also a comic artist and writer, two things delight me about it:

the fact that I understand completely how an artist gets from “the fans can have a little hint of skirted asscheek” to “the pussy is completely out on center page” over the course of 18 years; and

the way in which the pussy being out is treated by the characters and diegesis as being utterly unremarkable.