Because this is the pattern I noticed:
Every time that a fanon or AU Marinette meets their Canon version - it is always to criticize and say how wrong her decisions were (and always assuming the most selfish motivations) - no matter the point in the timeline or her mental state was at the moment.... Meanwhile, in the Paris Special, Canon Marinette tried to empathize with and help Shadybug...
I just wish to read at last one AU/Canon meeting where the AU!Marinette is honest enough to admit that if she was in the same position than Canon Marinette... she would have done the same decision - or at last understand why the canon self did that choice and not assume the worst.
"Meanwhile, in the Paris Special, Canon Marinette tried to empathize with and help ShadybugâŚ"
Didnt marinette literally lecture Alternette about how "Alternette hadnt really suffered as much as cannonette" and how alternette should understand how much stress cannonnette was under for having to deal with Chloe and Gabriel? About how Marinette's diary should've shown Alternette how cannonnette is the one who truly suffered amongst the two of them? I think @uwouldthink was the one who did a whole analysis of how much marinette spends her entire talk with Alternette speaking about her own struggles, and demanding that Alternette pity her about it while shaming her for reading the diary. About how she just kind of bragged about how much better Cannonette is for pulling herself up by her bootstraps for dealing with a cartoonishly inneffectual bully, which she insisted was totally worse then implied-dead-parents and a critically failing healthcondition and actively dystopian setting of the crossover.
Marinette: If you read my diary, then you'd know, it's not all that easy. Everything often hangs by a thread. I too was very angry, I too was hurt. I too was scared. And I still struggle with all of this everyday. You don't need any magic jewel. Powers didn't change my life. I changed the way I saw myself. I decided to love myself. To love the world around me. And I decided that I could fix what was wrong in it. I'm sure that if you changed the way you see yourself and your world, you'll be able to fix what's wrong with it too. Just like I do here, every time. You can fix it all.
Like yes, it ends on a note of "You can be better", but its not empathy or an understanding of Alternette's struggles that leads to that conclusion. Its "You're me, and I bootstrapped myself against Chloe who is so much worse, so you'd be a pussy if you couldnt bootstrap yourself too". Thats not empathy, its self agrandisation and bravado. Its a boast and a challenge, and it works because if there is one thing both Marinette's cant stand its feeling "lesser" then someone else. its alternette's pride and refusal to be "lesser" to cannonnette, not Marinette's empathy or understanding of Alternette's struggles, that changes her for the better.
Tell me, do you think Marinette was always that prideful, or only later on?
certainly grew with time. In that there was always at least a small degree to which she considered chloe more "insulting" then "scary".
But i do think the majority was a late-addition to the character.
Respectfully, I seriously question that take on the confrontation between Ladybug/Marinette and Shadybug - watching the scene, Maribug did not came as saying that her suffering was bigger, but she was saying that she passed through similar (not identical) experiences that Shadybug and that a different response was still possible for Shadybug. Marinette was using her own experiences, yes, but as a way to reach Shadybug - maybe there was better ways to frame or spell it? Yes, possibly.
But the empathy and the intent to reach out was still there.
It was seeing that a different response was actually possible - Marinette trying to reach her - that helped Shadybug to change for better.
