Mother Of The Earth, Slut Of The Universe

"you only like her because shes a woman" yup "you let female characters get away with too much" yes "if a man did this you would hate him for it" indeed

"JK Rowling's shitty books" 55% of readers of YA novels are now actually adults, a spike that occurred in 2012 - attributed to the Harry Potter series Harry Potter completely changed the publishing industry and spiked demand for long-form books for children. It was previously thought that children didn't have the attention span for longer novels. At the height of Harry Potter mania, there was a 115% increase in middle-grade, longer-form books for children and YA. Publishers were frantically searching for the next long-form YA sensation. No way in hell series' like Divergent, Twilight and The Hunger Games were getting written or picked up by publishers without the precedent set by Harry Potter. Countless other popular media cite HP as the direct inspiration-Avatar: The Last Airbender creators were directly instructed by Nickleodian producers to create "a Harry Potter-esq boy hero" animation. Prior to Harry Potter, children's literature wasn't considered a lucrative genre, it was assumed children just don't read anymore-since the publishing of Harry Potter in 2004, children's literature sales have steadily increased 2% every year, now 52% overall. In comparison, the overall book market has only increased 33%-making children's literature one of the more lucrative genres. She's quite literally the greatest alive to ever do it. Not even gassing her. Those are literally what the stats say. Cope and seethe.

One way people have normalized kink/fetish is calling every type of attraction a kink/fetish. You think people who wear glasses are attractive? You have a glasses kink. You find some people's hands attractive? You have a hand kink. You want to have children with your spouse? You have a breeding kink. These people will call anything a kink. And it's because of porn. Sex is no longer a mutual act of attraction and desire, it's deconstructed into specific actions that you play out on another person. That's what porn is like: you watch a "genre" of porn, where a specific action is done to a person (usually woman), or the person has a certain trait. It doesn't matter who that person is, they are just embodying an attribute or action. So these porn consumers aren't attracted to individual people, they're attracted to these attributes or actions, they have fetishes. And they project that onto other people. I once was talking to two friends very casually after we had seen a movie together. There was a scene where an attractive man was barefoot. I mentioned that I thought the guy was hot, and listed reasons why: his long hair, nice pecs, defined hands, nice arms, and cute feet in that one scene. And one friend was like, “You have a foot fetish??” At first I laughed, and explained that no, I don’t have a foot fetish; I don’t have a sexual fixation on feet. But he continued to insist that I had a foot fetish, and that pissed me off. My other friend also joined in and said there’s no shame in having a fetish, no matter how many times I explained that I’m not sexually attracted to feet, I just thought that someone had nice feet - the same way one would think someone has nice hands or arms or legs. I don’t want to suck on someone’s toes, or watch someone step in mashed potatoes and squish it between their toes, or have anyone’s feet come anywhere close to my genitals during sex. I just thought someone’s body looked nice. If I think someone’s hair is attractive, does that mean I have a hair fetish? No. If I was obsessed with hair to the point where I only wanted to focus on someone’s hair during sex, or was only attracted to people’s hair instead of their entire person, that would be a hair fetish. A fetish/kink isn’t just “liking a specific attribute of someone”/“liking a certain action during sex,” it’s a fixation on an attribute or action. I’m tired of people trying to normalize fetish and kink by pretending that everyone has their own fetishes and kinks. No, it’s not normal to obsess over an attribute or sex act to the point where you are using your partner as a vehicle for your fetish or kink instead of being wholly attracted to them. I’m not gonna pretend there’s no nuance, maybe you and your partner just loveee being mutually sexually fixated on each other’s armpits and are still super healthy and love each other or whatever but most fetishes and kinks are dysfunctional and when left to develop usually lead to dehumanization of other people (usually by men to women, or in women’s case they dehumanize themselves for the purpose of kink). The normalization of fetish and kink in this way is insidious and honestly has groomed many young, sexually developing people of my generation (and gen alpha sadly…). Is it any surprise that of the two friends who were insisting I have a foot fetish, one of them was a zoomer male, who frequently would casually mention fetish lingo in jokes, and the other was a zoomer girl who identied as asexual? they have obviously been exposed to porn, fetish, and kink on the internet. It's almost impossible for a young person with internet access to not have been exposed to porn. Throughout my childhood and teenage years I was exposed to absolutely horrific, stomach-churnning sexual content on the internet, and I’m not alone. This shit is affecting people's entire perceptions of sex. They think fetish and kink IS sex. And you either lean into it, or think you must be asexual for not wanting to participate in it.

PSA: don't blame yourself for feeling aroused by pornography and misogynistic kinks. First of all, the fact that you consciously dislike it already means you don't want it — everyone who tells you otherwise thinks like a rapist. And also we live in a society oversaturated with images of female sexual degradation — it would be more surprising if you actually weren't influenced by it in one way or another. Where are you even supposed to get an idea that it doesn't have to be that way? Even fem"dom" is hardly about women being dominant over men. You are not to blame for not developing a healthy sexuality in a world that desperately doesn't want you to. This can be fixed, but with a deliberate effort and power of will, because it requires going against the current.

It's absolutely insane that you can say something like "if you watch hundreds of hours of videos of women being beaten, choked, and raped, that says something about how you view women" and people on this website will categorise you with nazis doing book burnings or christians doing witch trials.

learned today that one of the hosts of a podcast I occasionally listen to was in the epstein files because of an incident wherein she was being sexually harassed/abused by a man who worked in her field -> she created a google doc for other women in said field to anonymously submit the names of men who had harassed/abused them -> one of these men sued for her for defamation even though she didn’t know him & didn’t even know who his victim was -> he couldn’t afford lawyers & reached out to epstein for funding -> epstein gave it to him -> after 5 years she was forced into a settlement & had to pay him over $100k. the way these predatory men find solidarity with each other is so so so profoundly evil