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• The invention of YouTube was because some gross nerd wanted to see Janet Jackson's nip slip from the Super Bowl.

• The invention of Google Images was because of some gross nerd wanted to see Jennifer Lopez jungle print dress.

• The invention of Facebook was because of some gross nerd wanted to rate the attractiveness of his female peers from college and it was originally called Facemash.

Maryann Brandon and Mary Jo Markey edited The Force Awakens. Maryann Brandon has worked on almost all of the shows and films Abrams has worked on and Mary Jo Markey is also a frequent collaborator.

Thelma Colbert Schoonmaker has edited all of Martin Scorcese’s films since Raging Bull and worked with him for around 40 years.

Sally Menke edited all of Quentin Tarantino’s films until her tragic death in 2010.

Julia Bloch is an editor gaining attention for her work on Blue Ruin and Green Room.

What matters to me in regards to bigotry is if they treat others badly based on immutable traits in everyday life, not in the privacy of their own bedrooms or in adult only-gated kink communities online.

All forms of kinkplay, but especially BDSM, are founded on consent and safety.

If something gets too heavy in regards to the couple's impactplay, whether or not it involves a kink you don't like, the concept of safewords exist to stop the play immediately to assess what went wrong.

If something was a little too raw in regards to the couple's degredation kinkplay, whether or not it involves a kink you don't like, the concept of aftercare exists to help the pair review their sessions to address what insults they were and weren't comfortable with.

Alongside consent and safety, risk-awareness is paramount to all kinkplay activities. So even if a couple decide to forgo safewords and/or aftercare, they are still able to assess the risks in doing so and can leave the relationship if their styles don't align.

Because if one person refuses to let the other leave or bring what should've been harmless roleplay into everyday life against their consent, then that person would be correctly identified as an abuser. Regardless of their skin color or whether or not they enjoy a kink you don't like.

if someone is only racist amongst their friends, is it judgmental to say that they're racist? they're not racist anywhere else right? how about if they're only racist on the internet, but not in real life? if they're only racist on a private forum but normal everywhere else, does it stop making the racism racist? if a white guy yells nigger in a forest and nobody is around to hear it... etc. etc. etc. the foundation of the idea that bigotry as expressed in sex is simply different from other expressions of bigotry is cognitive dissonance the whole way down.

All forms of kinkplay, but especially BDSM, are founded on consent and safety.

this is a giant cope. the reason why these kinks require everyone to harp on about how much they care about consent and safety is because they are so easily abused and continue to be so. the framework that these principles are fundamental to the practice simply exists to allow people to No True Scotsman their way out of acknowledging how rampant abuse is within kink dynamics by simply asserting that the people using them to abuse others aren't doing Real kink. they're Bad people doing Wrong and Abusive kink, there couldn't possibly be anything wrong with kink itself!

in spite of harping on about how consent and safety are paramount, in the same way that most society seeks to protect rapists and abusers while ostracising and blaming their victims, kink communities protect those who violate these "foundational" rules and actively work to push out their victims. the whole missing stair allegory was first written because a BDSM community that the guy who coined it belonged to kept a literal rapist around rather than rocking the boat. because that is what our misogynistic society does, and kink communities are no exception, even if many people like to pretend they're somehow better.

the fact that you're even bringing up safewords feels like kind of a joke. even active kink practitioners have written at length about how a safeword isn't some sort of panacea for all the potential of "consent accidents". here is just one point: if someone is deeply uncomfortable, in pain, or triggered, their first instinct is not to reach in their mind to yell Pineapple, it is to use the language they use in their everyday life. here here's a decade old article that I don't even fully agree with of a woman talking about that exact thing.

even in an attempt to show he “cares” about a woman’s pleasure, the male employs iconography of violence (“through the mattress”) and patriarchal domination structures (“beta”).

the main reason a male “cares” about a woman’s pleasure is because of what it says about him, not what it means for her.

for the male, a “great marriage” is synonymous with “great sex”.

I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.

Okay. So, assume every woman had her daughter at 20 instead. 

That’s five mothers in a century. 

Fifty mothers in a thousand years. 

One hundred mothers in two thousand years. 

That is five hundred and seventy five mothers since the dawn of agriculture. 

Less than six hundred women, between you and the dawn of civilization. 

is this your body? when you were 11 you had to start shaving your legs because other girls found it gross you were hairy. when you were 12, you had to stop wearing v-necks because of your chest - people were staring. your mother didn't let you dye your hair. your first boyfriend makes you dress up in skimpy clothes for him, then hated when other people coveted you. what you wear and how you present determine whether or not people find you funny or annoying or arrogant. other people get to determine if you are pretty, a court of opinion so loud it blots any good intent.

when is the body yours? magazines and instagram and tiktok endlessly advising you to "take care of" (starve) your body as if it is a weed. you must hack and slash at it, defend yourself from its wanton desires. it is a shameful, greedy thing. it is more like an art piece. you are keeping it or being kept-in-it.

you try to language it to your therapist - it's not that you don't recognize yourself in the mirror, it's more just that the thing that is in the mirror - it isn't you. that's why it's so easy to take apart: you're vaguely aware of the shape, but it feels like you are an animal hiding in the back of this cavern, snarling.

obviously you're like stuck in it. it often hurts a lot, buzzes with pain and a strange numbness. so it is your body when it's painful. that makes sense. otherwise - how many times have you been told to save yourself (your body) for marriage. for someone else. you are just borrowing it.

but i completely agree with the alienation many people esp women can feel for their bodies due to society that op is discussing

Because if it is RadNormal, you literally can't be terf and RadNormal. RadNormal is anti-terf/gen