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"you don't experience discrimination/bigotry based on your gender, you're a man."

"you couldn't possibly understand how women are objectified, you're a man."

"you don't face medical misogyny, you're a man."

For those of us raised as girls, we were told to sit down, shut up, and look pretty. Even if someone wasn’t specifically told that, it was obvious that it was being pushed by the people, media, and social norms around us.

So when we as transmascs and trans men are told /that exact same thing/, to sit down and shut up because someone “more important” is talking, it reminds us of how we were treated when we were little girls or when we were seen as little girls.

And the “look pretty” part doesn’t get left out either. The ratio I’ve seen of “shut up and sit down” in the same sentence as something referring to our genitals (or the genitals they expect us to have) is nearly 1:1.

We have to walk on eggshells constantly. We are either seen as confused and stupid little girls or scary and privileged cis men. I’ve seen countless posts saying something along the lines of “take away the trans part from trans men and it all makes sense” which is ridiculous, obviously. We are trans.

When we step outside that perfect model of either the stereotypical 14 year old with fluffy hair and a high pitched voice or the stereotypical cis man with all the power in the world, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst. When we fit into those stereotypes, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst.

We are treated like dress up dolls that are just a bit broken. We can’t be good enough for everyone, let alone anyone. People put their own perceptions of us above our experiences and then stick their fingers in their ears when we try to tell them that maybe we’re worth listening to.

We can’t be sorted into TMA or TME easily, so people who use those labels tend to sort us based on our assigned sex.

Labels commonly used by intersex trans people are called useless.

Nonbinary people aren’t even included in trans rights posts half the time.

Intersex people are used as a way to prove that trans people exist.

Nonbinary people’s identities are disregarded and we are either considered basically just our assigned gender/sex, or basically a trans man/woman, depending on which thing makes us easier to hate or disregard.

It feels like binary and perisex trans people don’t give a shit about us, and it also seems like they don’t think the specific oppression we face is real. If they do, they don’t fucking talk about it.

Accepting and supporting trans people means accepting ALL trans people. Not just the binary ones, not just the perisex ones, not just the white ones, not just the abled ones, not just the ones you’re comfortable with. ALL OF US.

I love my nonbinary and intersex community members and it really does suck that you’re left out of trans conversation so often

you’re awesome and I hope that queer communities can realize how harmful it is to force someone into gender binary

I see you intersex, nonbinary, and all other queer people who don’t adhere to binary terminology

transmasc is not a synonym for a trans person who was afab

Sexuality crisis triggered (I know…. the color scheme is pretty heavy handed but such is my right as an aroace person)

Whole thing under cut :)

mumbo does such an excellent job of highlining all his fellow hermits bases and building abelites and i am so happy he does.

go check out his video if you want to see what he does with these

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Oh you think I'm joking? That this is just a funny and didn't happen? Go to Grian's episode 21 at 18:15 and think again.