#trans solidarity

"transmasculine nonbinary people" and "transfeminine nonbinary people" with no mention of transneutral nonbinary people is creating a binary, actually.

shout out to all the trans men on this site that are normal about trans women

shout out to all the binary (+non GNC) trans folks on this site that are normal about nonbinary/genderfluid/multigender/GNC/etc trans people

shout out to all the perisex trans people on this site that are normal about intersex (and intertrans) people

Credit to Sabre (@/bottleneck_loser) on tiktok.

The points that she's making are super important and very true in the current disk horse around masculine identity, specifically but not limited to, trans men, in the queer community.

It will always need more happy men who love being men in it than it will miserable women who hate being women.

It will always need more happy nonbinary people who love life outside the binary in it than it will ever need miserable men and women who hate being binary.

I didn't have a lot of trans women in my life growing up, but I did have trans men/mascs. The first trans person I ever met was a trans man, he's my cousin. Trans men/mascs showed me that I don't have to live with the life that was assigned to me. My highschool sweetheart ended up being a trans man and so did my first husband. Dating a trans man is what first got me to question my gender (Thank you @gnomeskillet for dealing with my dumbass, I miss your face) and it was a trans masc nonbinary person who finally cracked my egg. For as long as I remember, it was trans men who were there for me and helped me discover who I really am. Not that trans women didn't help, they just weren't as much as a presence and the men were until recently.

So when I share my experiences and appreciation and another trans woman, a friend no less, responds with "Is this satire?" and tells me I'm throwing trans women under the bus and I "need to talk to more trans women" it pissed me off. We are literally fighting the same fight, why does it matter that men are who taught me what it means to be trans? And I know this isn't an isolated incident, I see so many trans men/masc talking about how they are treated like they somehow betrayed the community by finding their true selves or how a lot of the anti-men discourse hurts them as much as it does cis men (that's a whole other rant about how "All men are evil" is bioessentialism and that's terf talk) and all I can think is why? Those are our brothers and siblings. They deserve all the same care and compassion as we get, so why the fuck are we attacking them?

To my trans sisters who are participating in this hateful discourse, do better.