Gender Is Funky And Queer

If not, maybe you have followers who are?

The Gender Census releases all data collected every year so that people can process data about gender-divergent people in their home countries. However, when a country has less than 10 participants we redact the country information for their safety. These countries are all very close to having usable public data!

If you live in one of these countries and your gender is in a blender, please do take our survey. It takes 5-6 minutes, it doesn't collect any identifying information or ask any intrusive/personal questions, and it helps a lot. We have over 38,000 participants so far.

The others are still below 10 but they have mostly gone up a little bit as well. :)

So the new list of countries that are almost about to have findable gender info is now:

Bosnia and Herzegovina: 9

Cyprus: 9

Morocco: 8

Bahamas, The: 7

Ecuador: 7

Iran: 7

Panama: 7

Trinidad and Tobago: 7

Moldova: 6

Bangladesh: 5

Malta: 5

Saudi Arabia: 5

I haven’t seen a lot of posts that shed some positivity for non-binary Muslims who wear the hijab – I personally sometimes feel it’s frustrating that people see hijabi non-binary people as “female” just because the hijab is an obligation for women. My hijab does not define my gender; only my obligation to my God and my religion! 

1: A torso-up drawing of a person wearing a hijab and square glasses. They are waving and smiling. There is text above and below them that says, “My name is Helios. I am a Muslim.

2: A red arrow points at Helios, who is again drawn from the torso up. Next to them, there is a blue equals sign and a purple female/Venus symbol. The female symbol is surrounded by small blue question marks. The text above and below them says, “Since I wear my hijab 90% of the time, most people assume I am female.

3: A full body drawing of Helios holding a large genderfluid flag and standing with one foot raised on a rock. There are sparkles around their head, and their long coat blows in the wind. They are grinning. Text above and below them says, “But in truth, I am genderfluid!” The part that says, “I am genderfluid!” is written in large, orange capital letters.

4: Two full body drawings of Helios. In the first, they are wearing a long, flowy dress and a flower in their hijab. In the second, they are wearing long pants, a t-shirt, a jacket and their hijab. Text above them says, “My hijab does not define my gender!” Text next to the first drawing says, “I can be feminine-presenting” and text next to the second drawing says, “-or masculine-presenting.” Text below them says, “My hijab is my obligation to Allah!”

All resources linked were vetted by me, general resources are queer and disability inclusive, and cover the topic of abuse. Intersex resources are labelled by topic.

Text Resources

Scarleteen is a great youth focused platform, with everything from the basics to kink ed. Easy to navigate with an excellent search function.

For Planned Parenthood's sex-ed resources you can go to the LEARN menu.

Video Resources

AMAZE is a comprehensive catalogue of video resources.

Dr. Lindsey Doe runs the YouTube Channel Sexplanations, I have recommended her before and will continue to do so, also here on Tumblr @tumblingdoe

Pup Amp and Mr Christopher present Watts The Safeword, they tackle lgbtq+ sex ed and kink education/safety. If it's queer or kinky they have likely covered it.

Intersex Specific Resource

Intersex Human Rights Australia

some information may be region specific, but IHRA are the organisation I'm familiar with and that I trust

What is Intersex?

Intersex Youth

Intersex for Allies

Intersex people and Covid 19

Intersex for Parents

Bodily Integrity

All people have a tendency to be unconsciously biased toward seeing trans women as untrustworthy, unsafe, lacking vulnerability, the problem to be solved rather than a person to be taken care of. And this is not less true in trans and queer and feminist communities. It’s just more unconscious, and more propped up with social justice, feminism, queer lib, leftist, and anti-oppression beliefs. This book is talking about this in context to a physical public situation of harassment, but this is true of social conflicts too, including on social media, in friend groups, in all kinds of situations. The unconscious bias also gets taken advantage of by people who know what they’re doing and hide behind that bias to make their mistreatment of transfems seem reasonable—again, often supported with social justice and anti-oppression rhetoric. TERFs aren’t the only people who do this! It felt so incredible to see this spelled out in print, plain as day, an actual book calling out a real thing I’ve experience more times than I can count, that all transfems I know go through, and that I still feel crazy for seeing because there’s so much gaslighting about it. You know how when you KNOW something is real, but you feel defensive about that knowledge, like you have to be ready to hold onto it, and then you see something confirming that knowledge for you in no uncertain terms and it feels like “wow maybe I wasn’t crazy all this time!” That’s how I felt seeing this.

I'm currently running a survey about titles where anyone is invited to take part regardless of gender or location, but if a country has under 10 participants that country is obfuscated for privacy.

[ Survey ]

There have been 1,463 participants so far, and the following countries have 8 or 9:

🇦🇹 Austria 🇧🇷 Brazil 🇮🇹 Italy 🇳🇴 Norway 🇨🇭 Switzerland

If you're from one of these countries or you have followers who are, please participate and boost! It takes less than 5 minutes and closes no sooner than 14th August 2023.

I've just made a public participation and demographics spreadsheet, which you can check out here. According to that, there have been just under 2,000 responses and the next 5 countries that need a few more participants are:

🇩🇰 Denmark - 9 🇮🇱 Israel - 5 🇦🇷 Argentina - 4 🇭🇷 Croatia - 4 🇨🇿 Czech Republic (Czechia) - 4

You see someone from one of your classes in a public place with a different gender presentation/expression than they typically have? Mind your own business.

You discover that one of your coworkers is in a same gender relationship, but they aren't out at work? Not your place to share that information in the workplace.

You notice that your neighbor in a red state takes a road trip across state lines with their transgender child every 3-6 months? No you fucking didn't.

You overhear students in your classroom using a different name and different pronouns for one student than you are used to using? If you live in a state hostile to trans rights, pretend that you don't know anything about this and report nothing.

You suspect that an acquaintance of yours might be gay, but they deny it when asked directly? Leave them the fuck alone.

One of your friends refuses to publicly label their sexuality? Good for them, you aren't entitled to that information anyway.

Your sibling comes out to you as questioning, but isn't comfortable sharing that with your parents yet? Keep your fucking mouth shut.

Don't out people; coming out is a personal choice not a moral obligation. Don't demand personal information about other people's sexuality or sex lives. You aren't entitled to information about anyone's gender identity, assigned gender at birth, or transition.