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if you think all trans masc people are transmisogynistic, this is not the blog for you. bye.
im sterling! he/him/his or they/them/theirs pronouns, you can use one set or the other, or switch in between, whatever floats your duck. note: the fact i use âmasculineâ pronouns does not mean im a man. im non-binary, and only ever call myself trans masc bc im just not a girl. thank you for coming to my ted talk
yeah i did name myself after sterling archer. and all the customer reviews are things people have actually considered appropriate to say to a stranger on the internet.
screenshotting out of context posts is a massive loser move. commit to the bit and find another way to embarrass me.
if you send me an ask and the answer can be found here im replying with a star trek meme:
im 24 and donât tag nsfw. i donât post it often but youâve been warned
original posts are #sterling speaks asks are #answered + #anon when applicable
i add onto posts a lot, either to fact check or just say shit. itâs usually not directed at op or the above commenter i just like talking
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you can ask for trigger tags if you hang around my blog a lot
unless youâre gonna ask for queer to be tagged a slur bc im not doing that lol
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im a type one diabetic with complications from ketoacidosis (me/cfs and pots), and hEDS. occasional wheelchair user with a service dog in training named scout. adhd, bpd, and all sorts of other shit.
my qualifications when it comes to disability diagnosis are i have some and have read things on the internet. if you ask me âdo i have xâ i can give you some suggestions based on my personal experiences, but iâm not a doctor. grain of salt
i dont mind answering questions about disability/accessibility/mobility aids as long as questions are respectful
if i get into a fight with someone pls donât harass them on my behalf
feel free to send me fact checks for posts, iâll reblog with valid updates
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im not joking about blocking bigoted people on sight. if you follow you wonât be following for long.
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about self-dx: thereâs nothing wrong with identifying your own symptoms and determining possible reasons for those symptoms. however, you cannot say you have a diagnosis when you do not meet the diagnostic criteria. idc if you think you have some weird unique form of a condition-if you do not meet the criteria and have not been diagnosed after extensive work with a medical professional, do not represent yourself as an example of that condition. ex: you say you have a potentially disabling mental condition like bpd, but then have few or none of the nine diagnostic criteria.
about mental illness recovery: it is completely up to an individual to decide what this means for them. however, i do believe itâs in someoneâs best interest to at least find some kind of management plan that works for them, even if that doesnât include classical psychiatry. conditions like bpd and bipolar can be life ruining if you donât actively try and work with it, i understand this isnât possible for everyone but start with a dbt worksheet or smth. take care <3
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little bit of advice: if you can't tell if a post online is a joke, you should always assume that it is not a joke and the op is either an idiot with an inflated ego or is lying on purpose for malicious reasons. in both cases the best course of action is to aggressively correct them and insult them, maybe even threaten to kill them
Happy disability pride month to everyone with ptsd, happy disability pride month to everyone with complex ptsd, happy disability pride month to everyone who questions if their problems are big enough to count as a disability, happy disability pride month to anyone who questions if their problems count as a physical or mental disability, happy pride month to everyone who has a disability that causes people to stare, and to those whose disabilities are hidden, happy disability pride month to everyone who deals with any kind of disability physical or mental, youâre all badass and I want you to remember that this month okay
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I really can and will blame the 9-5 for everything. "We're in a loneliness epidemic" well, we have to spend a third of our day interacting with people in a professional way that makes forming real friendships difficult and then we're peopled out by the time we're done. "People are eating more and more unhealthily" people have to spend more than a third of their day doing work related tasks and they don't want to spend their tiny amount of free time making food. "People aren't involved in their local communities" after spending more than a third of their day doing work related things people are tired and also all those community events take place during normal working hours. "People need to get more hobbies" after spending more than a third of their day working, people are TIRED and don't want to do anything that takes yet more energy. "Literacy is dying" to maintain your critical thinking skills you need to read/watch things that make you think and after spending more than a third of your day doing work related stuff you are TIRED and don't want to expend even more brainnpower. "People need to get outside more" People. Are. TIRED. Because they have to spend all of their time working or preparing for work or recovering from work or doing all the chores they couldn't stay on top of because of work. I can blame fucking anything on having to work, it is truly the root of all fucking evil.
sometimes im like surely thereâs no way ive got this many things wrong. and then i meet someone with the exact same slate of conditions as me and remember how co-morbidity works
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When you tell someone about being mistreated because of your disability, there is a common response that goes something along the lines of, "But did you explain to them properly why you can't do x thing?" "Did you make sure they understood why you need x accomodation?" "Maybe they just didn't understand?"
For example: "Did you properly explain that the reason you don't do hugs is because of your autism?" or "Maybe they don't really understand how bad fibro fatigue is and that's why they got upset at you for concelling plans."
I hate these kind of responses. They give me the same vibe as being asked, "Yeah, but what were you wearing when you got catcalled?" They put the responsability for the problem onto the person who was discriminated against, instead of the one doing the discriminating. Disabled people should not be expected to go through grueling explanations or justify their needs before those needs are respected.
sometimes I forget standing up isnât painful and difficult for most people so Iâll be watching something like game changer and see the people standing behind their podiums the whole episode and think âwow donât they need to sit down. how can they still think coherent thoughtsâ and then Iâm like oh. yeah. I have a disease
iâm gonna hold your hand with a glove on when i say this
when disabled/chronically ill people tell you they canât do something, then that is not your cue to tell them that they can actually or that theyâll always find an excuse if theyâre looking for one.
when a disabled/chronically ill person says they canât do something, sometimes that doesnât mean itâs outside the realm of possibility, sometimes it means if they (attempted to) do that, they will seriously hurt themselves.
when a disabled/chronically ill person says they canât do something, sometimes itâs preventative care, and they refuse to do that thing to prevent a flare up from happening/their symptoms getting worse in the first place.
disabled/chronically ill people are not âlooking for excusesâ, they are giving you reasons why. something they donât even have to do! so maybe just accept the reasons they give you.
My Disability Studies professor said something that I think was very good and explains a lot about professional attitudes toward people with disabilities. This is what she said:
âWe [people with disabilities] are the last thing on the HR discrimination list. Companies always list things like, âwe eliminate discrimination on the basis of gender, race, religion, nationality, identity⌠oh, and disability.â Itâs just tacked on at the end. The others are mostly about being nice, respectful, and treating people equally. Not discriminating against people with disabilities is more complicated. You need to change your environment, code, the way you design things. You actually need to make changes, and most companies do not want to do that.â
I thought this was a really good insight. Weâre often thought about last, if weâre thought about at all. Accommodating us takes effort and a lot of people just donât want to make the effort.
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Happy disabled pride month to the undiagnosed. To those with no idea what it could be. To those who are pretty sure they know, but can't be certain yet. To those whose doctors are trying their best, and to those whose doctors aren't. To those with test results, and those without. To those whose prognosis isn't looking good. To those scared by the course of their symptoms, and with no idea what's going to happen next. Living undiagnosed is hard, and I wish you all luck.
When I took ASL classes, my teacher explained that interpreters should interpret EVERYTHING, including slurs and things that theyâd normally be uncomfortable saying. She said something along the lines of âdeaf people have the right to swear.â I think that applies to what theyâre allowed to see as well.
Why shouldnât deaf people be able to fully express themselves and consume media the same way a hearing person can? If everything you watched had random bleeps every time there was a swear word, youâd be annoyed, so why are deaf people not receiving the same consideration?
It's like they assume deaf people can't handle seeing these words.
Youtube always does a [_____] when a word like 'fuck' or 'shit' is said.
I've lost count of how many times I was watching a film on tv as a kid, or even a film on prime where they will write 'shoot' instead of 'shit' or 'screw' instead of 'fuck.'
This still happens, by the way. Very regularly. The last film I watched on Prime, the subs said 'darn,' instead of 'damn' and 'oh no' instead of 'shit.'
Oh, the worst one I saw- instead of 'get fucked,' it was 'get stuffed.'
please stop treating me like a child.
Even when I WAS a child, I still deserved to see 'damn' when a character said 'damn.'
I actually just watched a video about this from an interpreter who was advising learning interpreters to "interpret the fart."
in other words, an ASL interpreter is there to present the scene exactly as it happens to a deaf audience. therefore if the hearing audience can hear the fart, the deaf audience should too.
(she also brought up the inherent ableism in farting in front of a deaf person assuming you'd be able to get away with it.)
so yeah i wholeheartedly agree. subtitles should not be censored. Image IDs for screen readers should not be censored. There's probably a whole host of scenarios I can't think of where censorship is an option, and one should choose censorship in none of them.
One has a duty to present oneself the same way to a disabled person as one does an abled person.
Update, for at least the videos Iâve been watching. YouTube is no longer writing [_____] when a word like fuck is said.
They are giving no indication in the caption whatsoever that words they donât like are being said. It skips over them. Thereâs no space, thereâs no indication that theyâve been censoring a word. It just carries on from the previous âacceptableâ word to the next âacceptableâ word. No space to tell you that they have just censored something.
If you are for example profoundly deaf, and you happen to blink at that moment, or the camera is off the person whoâs just said the offending word, you donât know the word was said. Thereâs no indication that they have censored something. Iâm quite certain this is extremely intentional.
I think this is dodgy as hell.
But as I posted yesterday, the UK is trying to force YouTube to prioritise content that is approved by the UK government because people have stopped watching BBC. Personally, I find this incredibly Orwellian and dangerous. Itâs bad enough that they censor disabled people. Itâs bad enough that they treat us like we are children who cannot handle these big scary words like fuck.
But now the UK is pushing to sensor YouTube even more. This is a fucking problem.
