love 👉building on fire

you’re not selfish for wanting the same love and energy u give

the bad thing about having unhealthy habits due to mental illness, is when you DO do something healthy style you can't brag about about it because then people will then know you've been doing it yucky style all along. Like you can't brag you changed your sheets or brushed your teeth because then ppl will be like oh did you not brush your teeth regularly before? Thats yucky disgusting! So you just gotta keep it to yourself. And be proud alone, I suppose.

You are butch while masculine. You are butch while soft. You are butch while dominant. You are butch while loud. You are butch while submissive. You are butch while shy. You are butch while fat. You are butch while in touch with your inner child. You are butch while _____ (insert here).

You are butch while disable. You are butch while mentally ill. You are butch even away from community. You are butch while perfoming any type of ‘femininity’ or gender non-conformity. You are butch while in love with femmes. You are butch while in love with other butches. Your way of being butch is butch enough.

Thanks for being nice to me I’ll remember you forever

A “let me check with my wife first” type of butch.

You are butch while masculine. You are butch while soft. You are butch while dominant. You are butch while loud. You are butch while submissive. You are butch while shy. You are butch while fat. You are butch while in touch with your inner child. You are butch while _____ (insert here).

hey if ur reading this and ur in a bad spot mentally or anything i hope u feel better soon and have a good day

are you "self-aware" or are you intellectualizing your emotions because you don't know how to feel them?

“Do it scared” “do it alone” are all great tips, but my biggest takeaway from therapy is do it messy. This is especially true if you’re getting out of a burnout, which I experience often. Literally just do it messy. You don’t need to pick the perfect trail to walk, the perfect playlist to listen to, whatever the fuck it is. You don’t need to have a meticulous to do list and wake up at the exact time you planned and drink the exact amount of water you planned to drink. Like the biggest thing for people like me to remember is sometimes it’s okay to do it messy. Put on a random yt workout and just get it done in sweats. Do 5 minutes of a daunting task and go from there. Sometimes just getting up is a win during intense burnouts or depressive funks. Literally just do it messy.

your mental illness is mean and it’s a liar. You are never as horrible as you think. People love you. You are worthy

i hate diet culture so much. i hate how everyone steamrolls over my "i don't like talking about dieting." i hate seeing vibrant, beautiful personalities turn into someone who only talks about their weight loss. i hate when people brag abt how little they've eaten. i hate being expected to fawn over ppl for being on a crash diet. i hate when women go "hahah, i just don't really eat!" i hate when ppl use coffee or cigarettes to suppress their appetite and think that's healthy. i hate when i see the pain in my friend's eyes because someone around them lost weight and they feel Too Fat by comparison. i hate when people assume I'm unhealthy because im fat. i hate that this is something i've had to deal with since i was 7. i hate when fat people, stranded in a culture that villifies every aspect of their being, are asked to clap and cheer for thinness.

You have to let people love you. You have to let people get to know you. You have to let people help you. Being so completely selfless that you try to erase yourself off the face of the planet and never ask for anything and reject everybody's offers of support makes you very hard to love! Unfortunately. Emptying yourself out of everything that makes you, you is not actually what your loved ones want from you, generally. They want to make you happy! They will be so so sad if you don't give them the chance. It's not all selfish. I promise.

feeling burnt out, exhausted, or fatigued does not mean you’re lazy. remember that.

the most valueable skill a white leftist can ever learn is how to take an L with grace.

You gotta be able to take an L if your moral and ethical belief systems are to be capable of guiding you. Otherwise you just have an idealized self where you get really mad and scared when anyone points out it isn't actually you. How the fuck are you gonna walk the walk if you can't handle being told when you are not, in fact, actually walking it

you cannot just socially transition into being a good person you are going to have to settle for being a messy human being who has to try and fail and keep trying to get better like everyone else. yeah even when it's embarassing and sucks for you a lot.

Ya gotta learn to earnestly and honestly say "Oh shit, my bad."

And to then end the sentence there, not launch into a paragraph of explanation or panicked super-apology.

sick of the world trying to convince me i don’t have value or don’t deserve good things if i’m not being productive in a a certain way. guess what, i’m not falling for it! i deserve a good life no matter how much i do in comparison to others!!