How to Talk to Plurals (2/2)
(Note: pluralism means the same thing as plurality)
(text: "Are you sure that you're plural?" This question is completely pointless.
Deirdre: At best, it's harmless because there is no answer except, "yes, I'm sure." At worst, it can lead to prying questions about how they know they're sure.
"How do you know you're not just making it up?" Girl (thinking): I don't! Girl (speaking): I just know!
"You don't seem plural to me..." Girl: Well I am.
"How did you become plural?" Girl: I dunno!
"Are you getting professional help for this?" Girl: That's none of your business.
"Don't worry, I think you're not plural!" Girl (dizzy): How reassuring...
Deirdre: That last comment is especially unwelcome because it suggests that it is somehow unfortunate to be plural. (It's not.)
Girl (thinking): I can't be anything but plural, so take it or leave it.
Deirdre: In truth, pluralism is a way of identifying, much like gender and sexuality. And similarly, it is a spectrum, and you don't need to stay at one point in the spectrum forever. Plurals can become singlets if that is more true to themselves.
In summary: if you're plural, or suspect you are, remember that there are no rules to it. We're all writing the book together.
You don't need to fit into a rigit category to be plural, and no one can say your experiences aren't valid.
If you're not plural, treat those who are with respect, and don't let any preconceived notions about it get in the way of understanding them.
This guide doesn't cover the experiences of every plural, but hopefully it'll let you approach the topic with an open mind.
Girl's mom: I'll support you no matter what!
