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I say this every time, but people Do Not Realize just how short the timeline has been on gay people in kidsâ media. And itâs an ongoing fight, but this was 10 - 15 years ago.

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Research finds many hand dryers operate at noise levels that are harmful to children. Nora Keegan is the 13-year-old student who did the stu
I love it when a researcher from a marginalized group proves an important point.
Something that I get chills about is the fact that the oldest story told made by the oldest civilization opens with "In those days, in those distant days, in those ancient nights."
This confirms that there is a civilization older than the Sumerians that we have yet to find
Some people get existential dread from this
Me? I think it's fucking awesome it shows just how much of this world we have yet to discover and that is just fascinating
@makaeru peer review cos this made me check when the Sumerians happened and I forget how recent history is for every other continent. 7000 - 8000 years ago just isn't that long when you're in Australia, and the amount of detailed history we have access to here is wonderful and should be recognised more internationally
Source (non Aboriginal)
And a quote I picked out from a longer interview with an Aboriginal local elder about the area where he touched on the history
Source (the rest of the interview is really interesting and all transcribed, have a look if you're curious)
as a teen, i was constantly harassed by adults enforcing ''dress codes'' on me. I very much experienced this as sexual harassment. I think this is one of many cases where people would more easily understand this as sexual harassment if I described it as if it happened to an adult.
imagine being on your lunch break, and your supervisor comes over to your table, tells you to stand up in front of everyone. they draw everyone's attention to your thighs. they tell you that you have broken the dress code because of the length of your shorts. they tell you to go change (so you do not get the rest of your lunch break). they do this every single day at lunch. every day. so you read the whole dress code front and back, and you choose your clothing carefully to not break it. you bring a cloth tape measure with you to work because they will not believe you. this time when your supervisor tells you that you're breaking dress code, you pull out your tape measure and show that you are within the limit. your supervisor says "I bet you wouldn't want me to bring you to the boss and let him measure it, would you?" it's clearly a threat: if you don't obey then you will be put alone in a room with your boss and he will touch your thighs. you don't know how to respond. you're taken out of lunch again.
this was my experience at school. replace supervisor with "teacher" and boss with "principal." this was sexual harassment. fuck dress codes.
First Nations clean drinking water legislation tabled by the federal government on Tuesday removes key protections from the previous Trudeau
First Nations clean drinking water legislation tabled this week in the House of Commons is drawing criticism from leaders for its removal of key protections. First Nations leaders say it highlights how reconciliation no longer seems to be a priority in Prime Minister Mark Carney's "Build Canada Strong" economic agenda. Assembly of First Nations National Chief Cindy Woodhouse Nepinak told CBC News there are "red flags" in the new bill.
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years ago i got into so many arguments saying diagnosis itself isn't a privilege. it can be a manifestation of other privileges (e.g. rich, white, educated, country of residence) but by itself it is just one aspect of a larger system and what you really want is proper healthcare, which is not the same thing as a diagnosis. also be real. no aspect of being disabled - an oppressed class - is a privilege. and i was right
There is no actual, tangible reason why we allow people to starve, to be homeless, to suffer and die needlessly. Food is plentiful. Empty homes are plentiful. Medicine is plentiful. Itâs hidden away behind constructs and we pretend those constructs mean something. There is an empty home and a homeless family, give them it. There is a sick child and common medicine to treat it, give it to them. There is a starving person and so much food wasted by corporations or hidden behind a dollar sign, feed them.
genuinely so frustrating when youtubers swear or say something like "kill" or "suicide" out loud uncensored, but the subtitles censor it. like why the fuck, if YouTube is gonna get your ass for writing "kill myself", literally who wouldn't it get you for Saying It??? all it does is make me feel babied as someone who has sensory processing issues, and I can't imagine how much worse I would feel if I was completely deaf. why do hearing people get the uncensored version but we get the toddlerified end??? how is that fair?
after I wrote this post I lost hearing in one ear for a while and it only made this feeling worse.
I keep fucking thinking about this. people with hearing loss are treated as children who would fucking ignite if they saw the words Fuck, Suicide, or Kill. if the original material uses it uncensored, and the subtitles censor it, that's about as fucking blatant as it can be
not even getting into the subject of fucking "unalive"... if you don't want to say "murdered" or "suicide", English has many euphemisms for either??? unalive sounds like a word a kindergarten teacher came up with and the fact that so many people use it unironically is beyond confusing.
In the United States (where a lot of these creators or platforms are based) it's actually law that closed captioning is accurate and not changed from the spoken word, the FCC website out right saying: "Captions must match the spoken words in the dialogue and convey background noises and other sounds to the fullest extent possible." The problem being these rules were written before streaming and youtube, so they become exempt from those rules by technicality and yeah, having a hearing disability, I fucking hate it.
so glad we all get to be there for her final birthday. a little bittersweet
why would u wanna kill me ):
US CRIMES AGAINST HUMANITY & GLOBAL TERRORISM (An incomplete list)
US Use of Weapons of Mass Destruction The indiscriminate use of bombs by the US, usually outside a declared war situation, for wanton destruction, for no military objectives, whose targets and victims are civilian populations, or what we now call âcollateral damage.â
Japan (1945)Â
China (1945-46)Â
Korea & China (1950-53)Â
Guatemala (1954, 1960, 1967-69)Â
Indonesia (1958)Â
Cuba (1959-61)Â
Congo (1964)Â
Peru (1965)Â
Laos (1964-70)Â
Vietnam (1961-1973)Â
Cambodia (1969-70)Â
Grenada (1983)Â
Lebanon (1983-84)Â
Libya (1986)Â
El Salvador (1980s)Â
Nicaragua (1980s)Â
Iran (1987)Â
Panama (1989)Â
Iraq (1991-2000)Â
Kuwait (1991)Â
Somalia (1993)Â
Bosnia (1994-95)Â
Sudan (1998)Â
Afghanistan (1998)Â
Pakistan (1998)Â
Yugoslavia (1999)Â
Bulgaria (1999)Â
Macedonia (1999)
US Use of Chemical & Biological Weapons The US has refused to sign Conventions against the development and use of chemical and biological weapons, and has either used or tested (without informing the civilian populations) these weapons in the following locations abroad:
Bahamas (late 1940s-mid-1950s)Â
Canada (1953)Â
China and Korea (1950-53)Â
Korea (1967-69)Â
Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia (1961-1970)Â
Panama (1940s-1990s)Â
Cuba (1962, 69, 70, 71, 81, 96)
And the US has tested such weapons on US civilian populations, without their knowledge, in the following locations:
Watertown, NY and US Virgin Islands (1950)Â
SF Bay Area (1950, 1957-67)Â
Minneapolis (1953)Â
St. Louis (1953)Â
Washington, DC Area (1953, 1967)Â
Florida (1955)Â
Savannah GA/Avon Park, FL (1956-58)Â
New York City (1956, 1966)Â
Chicago (1960)
And the US has encouraged the use of such weapons, and provided the technology to develop such weapons in various nations abroad, including:
EgyptÂ
South AfricaÂ
Iraq
US Political and Military Interventions since 1945 The US has launched a series of military and political interventions since 1945, often to install puppet regimes, or alternatively to engage in political actions such as smear campaigns, sponsoring or targeting opposition political groups (depending on how they served US interests), undermining political parties, sabotage and terror campaigns, and so forth. It has done so in nations such as
China (1945-51)Â
South Africa (1960s-1980s)
France (1947)Â
Bolivia (1964-75)
Marshall Islands (1946-58)Â
Australia (1972-75)
Italy (1947-1975)Â
Iraq (1972-75)
Greece (1947-49)Â
Portugal (1974-76)
Philippines (1945-53)Â
East Timor (1975-99)
Korea (1945-53)Â
Ecuador (1975)
Albania (1949-53)Â
Argentina (1976)
Eastern Europe (1948-56)Â
Pakistan (1977)
Germany (1950s)Â
Angola (1975-1980s)
Iran (1953)Â
Jamaica (1976)
Guatemala (1953-1990s)Â
Honduras (1980s)
Costa Rica (mid-1950s, 1970-71)Â
Nicaragua (1980s)
Middle East (1956-58)Â
Philippines (1970s-90s)
Indonesia (1957-58)Â
Seychelles (1979-81)
Haiti (1959)Â
South Yemen (1979-84)
Western Europe (1950s-1960s)Â
South Korea (1980)
Guyana (1953-64)Â
Chad (1981-82)
Iraq (1958-63)Â
Grenada (1979-83)
Vietnam (1945-53)Â
Suriname (1982-84)
Cambodia (1955-73)Â
Libya (1981-89)
Laos (1957-73)Â
Fiji (1987)
Thailand (1965-73)Â
Panama (1989)
Ecuador (1960-63)Â
Afghanistan (1979-92)
Congo (1960-65, 1977-78)Â
El Salvador (1980-92)
Algeria (1960s)Â
Haiti (1987-94)
Brazil (1961-64)Â
Bulgaria (1990-91)
Peru (1965)Â
Albania (1991-92)
Dominican Republic (1963-65)Â
Somalia (1993)
Cuba (1959-present)Â
Iraq (1990s)
Indonesia (1965)Â
Peru (1990-present)
Ghana (1966)Â
Mexico (1990-present)
Uruguay (1969-72)Â
Colombia (1990-present)
Chile (1964-73)Â
Yugoslavia (1995-99)
Greece (1967-74)
US Perversions of Foreign Elections The US has specifically intervened to rig or distort the outcome of foreign elections, and sometimes engineered sham âdemonstrationâ elections to ward off accusations of government repression in allied nations in the US sphere of influence. These sham elections have often installed or maintained in power repressive dictators who have victimized their populations. Such practices have occurred in nations such as:
Philippines (1950s)Â
Italy (1948-1970s)Â
Lebanon (1950s)Â
Indonesia (1955)Â
Vietnam (1955)Â
Guyana (1953-64)Â
Japan (1958-1970s)Â
Nepal (1959)Â
Laos (1960)Â
Brazil (1962)Â
Dominican Republic (1962)Â
Guatemala (1963)Â
Bolivia (1966)Â
Chile (1964-70)Â
Portugal (1974-75)Â
Australia (1974-75)Â
Jamaica (1976)Â
El Salvador (1984)Â
Panama (1984, 89)Â
Nicaragua (1984, 90)Â
Haiti (1987, 88)Â
Bulgaria (1990-91)Â
Albania (1991-92)Â
Russia (1996)Â
Mongolia (1996)Â
Bosnia (1998)
US Versus World at the United Nations The US has repeatedly acted to undermine peace and human rights initiatives at the United Nations, routinely voting against hundreds of UN resolutions and treaties. The US easily has the worst record of any nation on not supporting UN treaties. In almost all of its hundreds of ânoâ votes, the US was the âsoleâ nation to vote no (among the 100-130 nations that usually vote), and among only 1 or 2 other nations voting no the rest of the time. Hereâs a representative sample of US votes from 1978-1987:
US Is the Sole âNoâ Vote on Resolutions or Treaties
For aid to underdeveloped nationsÂ
For the promotion of developing nation exportsÂ
For UN promotion of human rights
For protecting developing nations in trade agreements
For New International Economic Order for underdeveloped nations
For development as a human right
Versus multinational corporate operations in South Africa
For cooperative models in developing nations
For right of nations to economic system of their choice
Versus chemical and biological weapons (at least 3 times)
Versus Namibian apartheid
For economic/standard of living rights as human rights
Versus apartheid South African aggression vs. neighboring states (2 times)
Versus foreign investments in apartheid South Africa
For world charter to protect ecology
For anti-apartheid convention
For anti-apartheid convention in international sports
For nuclear test ban treaty (at least 2 times)
For prevention of arms race in outer space
For UNESCO-sponsored new world information order (at least 2 times)
For international law to protect economic rights
For Transport & Communications Decade in Africa
Versus manufacture of new types of weapons of mass destructionÂ
Versus naval arms raceÂ
For Independent Commission on Disarmament & Security IssuesÂ
For UN response mechanism for natural disastersÂ
For the Right to FoodÂ
For Report of Committee on Elimination of Racial DiscriminationÂ
For UN study on military developmentÂ
For Commemoration of 25th anniversary of Independence for Colonial CountriesÂ
For Industrial Development Decade in AfricaÂ
For interdependence of economic and political rightsÂ
For improved UN response to human rights abusesÂ
For protection of rights of migrant workersÂ
For protection against products harmful to health and the environmentÂ
For a Convention on the Rights of the ChildÂ
For training journalists in the developing worldÂ
For international cooperation on third world debtÂ
For a UN Conference on Trade & Development
US Is 1 of Only 2 âNoâ Votes on Resolutions or TreatiesÂ
For Palestinian living conditions/rights (at least 8 times)Â
Versus foreign intervention into other nationsÂ
For a UN Conference on WomenÂ
Versus nuclear test explosions (at least 2 times)Â
For the non-use of nuclear weapons vs. non-nuclear statesÂ
For a Middle East nuclear free zoneÂ
Versus Israeli nuclear weapons (at least 2 times)Â
For a new world international economic orderÂ
For a trade union conference on sanctions vs. South AfricaÂ
For the Law of the Sea TreatyÂ
For economic assistance to PalestiniansÂ
For UN measures against fascist activities and groupsÂ
For international cooperation on money/finance/debt/trade/developmentÂ
For a Zone of Peace in the South AtlanticÂ
For compliance with Intl Court of Justice decision for Nicaragua vs. US.Â
**For a conference and measures to prevent international terrorism (including its underlying causes)Â
For ending the trade embargo vs. Nicaragua
US Is 1 of Only 3 âNoâ Votes on Resolutions and TreatiesÂ
Versus Israeli human rights abuses (at least 6 times)Â
Versus South African apartheid (at least 4 times)Â
Versus return of refugees to IsraelÂ
For ending nuclear arms race (at least 2 times)Â
For an embargo on apartheid South AfricaÂ
For South African liberation from apartheid (at least 3 times)Â
For the independence of colonial nationsÂ
For the UN Decade for WomenÂ
Versus harmful foreign economic practices in colonial territoriesÂ
For a Middle East Peace ConferenceÂ
For ending the embargo of Cuba (at least 10 times)
In addition, the US has:Â
Repeatedly withheld its dues from the UNÂ
Twice left UNESCO because of its human rights initiativesÂ
Twice left the International Labor Organization for its workers rights initiativesÂ
Refused to renew the Antiballistic Missile TreatyÂ
Refused to sign the Kyoto Treaty on global warmingÂ
Refused to back the World Health Organizationâs ban on infant formula abusesÂ
Refused to sign the Anti-Biological Weapons ConventionÂ
Refused to sign the Convention against the use of land minesÂ
Refused to participate in the UN Conference Against Racism in DurbanÂ
Been one of the last nations in the world to sign the UN Covenant onÂ
Political & Civil Rights (30 years after its creation)Â
Refused to sign the UN Covenant on Economic & Social RightsÂ
Opposed the emerging new UN Covenant on the Rights to Peace, Development & Environmental Protection
Sampling of Deaths >From US Military Interventions & Propping Up Corrupt Dictators (using the most conservative estimates)
Nicaragua â 30,000 dead
Brazil  â 100,000 dead
Korea â 4 million dead
Guatemala â 200,000 dead
Honduras â 20,000 dead
El Salvador â 63,000 dead
Argentina â 40,000 dead
Bolivia â 10,000 dead
Uruguay â 10,000 dead
Ecuador â 10,000 dead
Peru â 10,000 dead
Iraq â 1.3 million dead
Iran â 30,000 dead
Sudan â 8-10,000 dead
Colombia â 50,000 dead
Panama â 5,000 dead
Japan â 140,000 dead
Afghanistan â 10,000 dead
Somalia â 5000 dead
Philippines â 150,000 dead
Haiti â 100,000 dead
Dominican Republic â 10,000 dead
Libya â 500 dead
Macedonia â 1000 dead
South Africa â 10,000 dead
Pakistan â 10,000 dead
Palestine â 40,000 dead
Indonesia â 1 million dead
East Timor â 1/3-½ of total population
Greece â 10,000 dead
Laos â 600,000 dead
Cambodia â 1 million dead
Angola â 300,000 dead
Grenada â 500 dead
Congo  â 2 million dead
Egypt â 10,000 dead
Vietnam â 1.5 million dead
Chile â 50,000 dead
Other Lethal US Interventions CIA Terror Training Manuals Development and distribution of training manuals for foreign military personnel or foreign nationals, including instructions on assassination, subversion, sabotage, population control, torture, repression, psychological torture, death squads, etc.
Specific Torture Campaigns Creation and launching of direct US campaigns to support torture as an instrument of terror and social control for governments in Greece, Iran, Vietnam, Bolivia, Uruguay, Brazil, Guatemala, El Salvador, Honduras, and Panama
Supporting and Harboring Terrorists The promotion, protection, arming or equipping of terrorists such as:
Klaus Barbie and other German Nazis, and Italian and Japanese fascists, after WW II
Manual Noriega (Panama), Saddam Hussein (Iraq), Rafael Trujillo (Dominican Republic), Osama bin Laden (Afghanistan), and others whose terrorism has come back to haunt us
Running the Higher War College (Brazil) and first School of the Americas (Panama), which gave US training to repressors, death squad members, and torturers (the second School of the Americas is still running at Ft. Benning GA)
Providing asylum for Cuban, Salvadoran, Guatemalan, Haitian, Chilean, Argentinian, Iranian, South Vietnamese and other terrorists, dictators, and torturers
Assassinating World Leaders Using assassination as a tool of foreign policy, wherein the CIA has initiated assassination attempts against at least 40 foreign heads of state (some several times) in the last 50 years, a number of which have been successful, such as: Patrice Lumumba (Congo), Rafael Trujillo (Dominican Republic), Ngo Dihn Diem (Vietnam) Salvador Allende (Chile)
Arms Trade & US Military Presence
The US is the worldâs largest seller of weapons abroad, arming dictators, militaries, and terrorists that repress or victimize their populations, and fueling scores of violent conflicts around the globe
The US is the worldâs largest provider of live land mines which, even in peacetime, kill or injure at least several people around the world each day
The US has military bases in at least 50 nations around the world, which have led to frequent victimization of local populations.
The US military has been bombing one Middle Eastern or Muslim nation or another almost continuously since 1983, including Lebanon, Libya, Syria, Iran, the Sudan, Afghanistan, and Iraq (almost daily bombings since 1991)
This, then, is a sampling of American foreign policies over the last 50 years. The FBI uses the following definition for Terrorism: âThe unlawful use of force or violence committed by a group or individual, who has some connection to a foreign power or whose activities transcend national boundaries, against persons or property to intimidate or coerce a government, the civilian population or any segment thereof, in furtherance of political or social objectives.â This sounds like the terrorism we just experienced. It also sounds a lot like the US policies and actions since 1945 that Iâve just described.
This is a version of an an original page atributed to Robert Elias, a US Professor of Political Science , a list which, like so many others, Â has otherwise âdisapperedâ
via https://web.archive.org/web/20161125052245/http://www.the-philosopher.co.uk/whocares/popups/warcrimes.htm

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australian sour patch kids have gluten in them i am truly at my fucking limit im crashing out im waging war against wheat idgaf anymore
oh is that one of those things where ableist companies put in traces of common allergens so they can just avoid the cost of making it safe
WHAT
A trend we predicted in 2016 continues.
US based but itâs similar reasons in other countries. and of course many companies have international locations. idk if thatâs why itâs happening with sour patch kids but this is a thing
I cannot even explain how ANGRY I am at this.
My nephew is very allergic to eggs, peanuts, tree nuts, and sesame. Last year my sister discovered all hot dogs and hamburger buns now contain sesame. Not "may contain", but listed in the ingredients. This year basically every brand of sliced bread also now contains sesame, making it very difficult to find bread items he can eat.
They're just adding it to their products, so they can just list it as an ingredient and not bother with worrying about cross contamination. And they aren't even bothering with telling anyone. Capitalism is going to kill us all.
"Which brings us back to Kelloggâs. Back in 2016, the company found a way around the added burden and expense of complying with the FSMA: they simply began adding trace amounts of peanut flour to their cracker products. Doing so allowed them to list peanuts as an ingredient of the product, freeing them from having to prevent cross-contact.
At the time, Kelloggâs notified Food Allergy Research and Education (FARE) about the impending change and left it to them to warn the allergic community. In this case, Pearsonâs didnât even bother as near as we can tell."
The peanut flour thing is happening all over. Watch out for things like breakfast bars, cookies, etc..
Check everything, even if it was safe last month.
What the FUCK.
My food sensitivities are mild, but I have a lot of mutuals with more severe ones, so signal boosting this hard
did you guys know that there are religions out there where actual, literal belief isnât all that important? iâve only ever been around christianity where belief is like, the number one most important thing ever, so i never even considered that there are cultures out there where the question of âis this all realâ never comes up because it doesnât matter
and you can also belong to multiple religions that seem to contradict one another, and you donât have to come up with some extra lore to tie them together. you can just be both.
sooooo many people say âreligionâ when they mean âchristianityâ. a lot of things that you might think are universal across all religions are actually just christian (and sometimes other abrahamic) things
I didnât wanna let Americaâs big 250 pass without a classic roadkill political comic . For people who donât keep up with the news or donât get the allegory erm imagine the lollipop is oil and the baby is a baby, but from a different country
Western passport holders will never understand. To go anywhere with a third worlder passport like a Filipino one, you need your tax returns, certificate of employment, bank statements, marriage certificates, sometimes a recommendation from a citizen of the country you want to travel to, everything possible to prove that you have a job and a family at home and you're not planning to be an illegal immigrant, JUST to get hit with a rejection because the embassy didn't believe you had enough proof.
Did you have travel plans? Already booked the plane tickets and hotels? Fuck you, better hope they issue refunds (they don't).
Americans and Western Europeans will never understand how insanely hard and bothersome it's to travel anywhere with a weak passport, let alone immigrate.
You want to study abroad? Show us proof that there is a quadrillion dollars in your bank account. Oh, an average monthly salary in your country is $400 and you plan to work when you arrive? You can't do that, silly, a student visa only allows you to work 2 hours every third Wednesday, and if we find out that you're working a second more we will deport you.
You want to work abroad? Better be a programmer, then of course you are welcome. Doctor, scientist, white-collar or, god forbid, blue-collar worker? You can fuck right off, your visa application goes straght into trash.
But if you marry one of our first-world citizens, then fine, you can come. Because we can't upset them, after all, they are a real person, unlike you.
EU Advice to people who have friends in places with weak passports- go to your department of foreigners and ask for something that called Formal Letter of Invitation or something similar. It usually is called something similar and costs a few euro/whatever currency you have. It will not be more than a fancy coffee at Starbucks or such place.
You will have to prove that you can afford a guest, have some income and also usually take responsibility for possible deportation cost.
But if you really are inviting a friend over, they will give you a formal document you can send to your friend. Then the friend applies for a visa while attaching the Very Official document with it. They will get the Schengen visa and most probably will get it expedited too.
It's some effort, but if it's for a friend it's worth it. And it's way less costly than the ridiculous loops the friend is being forced to go through and pay for multiple 3rd party services just to get a freaking visa for a month.

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There's this thing I never realized I did when I was doing it that I like to think of as "Ownership of Space"
And it's that thing where you mentally place yourself as the second, auxiliary party to someone else that you consider to be "In Charge" of whatever space or occupation or responsibility you are assigned to
And when you are IN that mindset, it *feels* like you're being responsible. It *feels* like you're being respectful, and helpful, and contributing to the load.
But what you don't SEE- because it *feels* like deference- is that the other person who you're seeing as The Authority you report to- by being assigned that role, has also been assigned the invisible load of BEING YOUR MANAGER.
This is by FAR most commonly seen in husband-and-wife relationships, where the man says, "just tell me what I can do to HELP- you don't have to do it all by yourself, but it's like you won't even tell me when you NEED help. You just do everything and then get mad at me for not doing it first. I can help clean. I can help with the kids. I can help"
But I also see it- and am guilty myself of doing it- at work, at school, in public- that mental, "this is THEIR space, and i will be respectful and helpful to THEM"- without realizing that subservience in this manner isn't actually a good thing. That it actually shifts the burden of responsibility to the other person. That aspect was totally invisible to me.
I didn't understand that when I was told, "if you see something that needs to be done, just DO it", or, "take the initiative", what they ACTUALLY meant was, "I am not above you", or "you have equal say in what kind of environment you want to live or work in", or "I do not want full control over what happens here, I do not want to order you around, I do not want to be in charge, what I WANT is to co-command WITH you"
Being in The Assigned Authority position NOW, that is all so much clearer.
I am the senior member of my team at work, and now, every time I train a newbie, every time I finish catching them up to speed and giving them a list of everything that needs to be done, my next big hurdle seems to always be, "now take pride in the space when I'm not around". "Now don't assume I'll tell you when something is due or what orders to plan things in".
Now, having been on both sides of the struggle, I can appreciate the sticking points here
TO THE PERSON "IN CHARGE": The person deferring to you doesn't understand the invisible labor you're doing. They genuinely believe you know more, you WANT more, you see things they don't, and that they are being respectful and good by staying out of your way and waiting on your orders. THAT is the bit that's not clicking.
TO THE PERSON "WANTING TO HELP": "Help" implies that you are providing assistance to a problem that belongs to somebody else. Stop thinking like that. Understand that the problem belongs to BOTH of you equally, and consider what kind of shared space you BOTH want. What is your SHARED GOAL? Not THEIR goal, but a goal that belongs to you too. Own your space.
This is not a Commander-Lieutenant problem. This is a Partnership problem.
You Are Co-Commanders On This Ship
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please please please help.