Delectable tea or deadly poison...?

Rent-seeking is the act of growing one's existing wealth by manipulating the social or political environment without creating new wealth.[1] Rent-seeking activities have negative effects on the rest of society. They result in reduced economic efficiency through misallocation of resources, reduced wealth creation, lost government revenue, heightened income inequality,[2][3] risk of growing political bribery, and potential national decline.

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

Children are desperate to teach the wonders of the world that they know, that they have just learned, and share it with anyone interested.  Adults pour passion they didn’t know they had into voluntary obligations, and crave a simple acknowledgment of that passion as being worthy and valid. 

“Dear third grader, tell me exactly why you chose <x> as you third favorite carnivorous dinosaur instead of second, as specifically as possible.”

my beloved and postcards with them

Remember how the Coalition misused over $100 million in community sport funding to target seats it wanted to win instead of going by merit assessment?

Or how the Coalition committed $660 MILLION to car parks that weren't needed just so it could pork barrel Liberal seats?

Or the ILLEGAL robodebt scheme that harassed welfare recipients and the government had to pay $1.8 BILLION in settlements for debt it illegally stole from the most vulnerable in society? (and also it KILLED people)

Remember how the Coalition actively campaigned AGAINST an anti-corruption commission? (Which Labor followed through on a promise and actually made).

I can't think of any scandals like that for the Albanese government. I have my complaints, sure, but they're based off policy disagreements. Like Albo needs to spend more money on the NDIS and housing - but that's still better than how the Coalition cuts money from both of those things PLUS literally wasted BILLIONS of taxpayer money on corrupt and illegal schemes AND their every single one of their policies are garbage.

Electing a Dutton government isn't just going to drive the cost of living up through his dogshit costly policies but you can guarantee he'll waste money on top of that with corruption, pork barreling, and quite likely commit a literal crime on top of it all. Dutton has a history of ignoring department advice and redirecting spending where he wants (like the time he slashed millions from community safety programs).

The Albanese government has saved taxpayers BILLIONS in several ways - some of them better economic policies and some of them is just not being super fucking obviously corrupt.

Separate post because this topic is a little tangential to that, but I think it does a great job of unearthing one of our very well-hidden internal biases, which goes as follows:

Good people don't need to be taught.

A good person (in this case, a good child) shouldn't need to be told to be gracious and grateful when given a gift. A good child should just know that a holiday tradition of gift-giving is a social performance to strengthen family bonds and that personal preference or genuine reactions are secondary to that performance. A good child should just know how to value gifts, how to express thanks, how to praise and compliment. No caretakers in their lives should need to put any effort into instructing or modeling these things.

Good people should just know how to be good. If they were really Ontologically Good, their inherent goodness would simply intuitively guide them to correct behaviors. If they can't do that on their own, in a vacuum, in the absence of cues, that's a sign of their inherent moral lack.

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...Which all sounds very reasonable and obvious, and surely a mistake that only fundie christian families would make! Except that people in the social justice sphere also do this all the time. It's not anybody's job to educate you. It's 2024, how do you not know this already? If you were a Good Person, you wouldn't need to be taught. You would simply intuit the correct philosophies and gravitate to them according to your superior internal moral compass.

If you were a Good Person, you would already know that everything you were taught by your family and/or background was wrong. You should have rejected it already. You should have cut off your family, your heritage, everything about your childhood and upbringing that was Bad and Wrong. You should have known it was all a lie.

If you were a Good Person, you should be able to find the correct way yourself. You should be able to seek out the proper educational resources, and distinguish them from bad advice leading you astray, and make sense of them all according to your own internal moral code.

If you were a Good Person, you would have found your way by the proper, dignified, official channels, not by reading a comic or watching anime. You shouldn't need entertainment or art to guide you. You should just know.

A Tea Chart I made to remember how to make a cup of tea for everyone who comes by the house.