yea some of my support needs only feel right ask paid carer or family do but think many people who not depend on other people care every day not understand (or refuse to) how much community & community care & mutual aid go into many of our livesāsometimes our community our friends our support system help us willingly, or bridge gap inaccessible Official services canāt/donāt provide, n we help our friends n community back willingly.
when care needs not met my friendsāwillinglyāhelp out they help look out for wheelchair accessibility feature they help me call doctors n other places that hang up on me without word because mechanical AAC voice they help me move n pack they help pick what clothes good for weather they help with back zippers n buttons when lose my they help me use microwave they drive me they help with ER times they look after me when go out n they still look after me even now thousands miles apart. n am look after them in my ways we share joy share sadness share anger when go through traumatic times we go through together am look after their access needs n thru their medical episodes n let them indefinitely borrow my mobility aids am not need anymore n let them put their stuff on my wheelchair. because we friends n it what friends do n we build our own lil queer trans disabled communities n future with authentic trust n care n mutual aid. they not my PCA it not same n anyone can easily see that fact but friends will be just as insulted as me if people devalue their efforts just because of that.
our care needs not just a service it not just transactions we not just consumers of service. many people who not depend on other people care every day not understand, or refuse understand, or even do understand but not care abt it because it nothing do with them, that there so much barriers to Official personal care attendants, that be our level of disability not include manifest PCA into thin air as symptom, that many of us simply not have them - it should not be privilege to have basic care but it be force that way.
it make sense that [people who do understand (they may even work in disability field) surface level of PCA process n how hard it be but not care abt it because it nothing do with them or their role] not understand [how much mutual & community care go into our lives]. because understand that mean they first need care abt us n see us as important n entangled part of their own community, that community members should help other community members.
people who not depend on other people care go on n on about appropriate-ness n liability (to them) n keeping all other people who not depend on other people safe protect them first n foremost before us, so quick to lecture us āeducateā us as if we not live this life, that real life a lil more complicated than what they learn in textbook or āmost classic caseā or lawsā
āsend message of. we not care abt what happen to you, we not going help. but moment our community of people who not need other people care need be in your direction we need make us safe by make your life hard. nevermind that you probably already done background checks n qualification check (if there any becauseā¦ well that another post maybe), or very real reason why it not done (something abt urgency of need every single day basic needs care to physically not die). nevermind that, if harm ever do happen, then.. idkā¦ person they routinely see naked, hold power over, n can literally easily physical overpower, may be first under harm.
but our carer our own n so their mistake our ownāliteral adult with their own minds n motivation n upbringing who our lives depend on who hold power over us. no one protects us from what may come from that but everyone scream when there even chance others mayyy be uncomfortable.
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