one of the biggest death knells of feminism is the notion that the only true sisterhood comes from coddling someone’s views and actions no matter how patriarchally complicit they are and that criticism is an act of internalized misogyny

we should bring back she/her as the generic pronoun

I <3 FEMALE DEFAULTISM

If it’s humiliating for a man to do then it’s humiliating for a woman to do, you’re just used to women being humiliated

There's a movie called "I Am Not an Easy Man" that was making the rounds on radblr recently. The plot is essentially that an average french man hits his head and wakes up in a world where women inhabit the male gender role and vice-versa. At first, he is outwardly angry at his treatment as an oppressed man but eventually begins to conform so that he can survive. I was struck by how ridiculous the men looked fully waxed, in revealing "dress-shorts", obsessing over their weight and penis shape and facial structure, constantly styled to appeal to a female gaze. It was funny at first until I realized that is how women look to men. Every time they see us decorated for their enjoyment they are reminded of their power over us, that we will humiliate ourselves because we have little choice otherwise.

i wish there was a way to say "you're right, but this is really ineffective and even counterproductive messaging to anyone who doesn't already agree with you" without sounding like an asshole