Trans men and cis women have a lot in common with each other that neither have in common with you. That isn’t your fault, obviously, but when you act like solidarity between trans men and cis women is collusion against you and your very identity as a woman, it makes it seem like you view womanhood as a fun girl’s club you aren’t being included in. At best, anyway. At worst, it looks like you actively oppose female solidarity, which… is only just barely distinct from actively opposing feminism.

Trans men shouldn’t have to hold your hand when they talk about the oppression they face for being female. They shouldn’t have to think about your feelings when they complain about periods or pregnancy or menopause. They shouldn’t have to worry they’re ostracizing you when they talk about their own childhoods as female children.

(in a reply to someone arguing that "Trans women are targeted and affected by "female oppression" all the time.")

I guess I wasn't aware that the taliban had also made it illegal for trans women to speak to each other, or go out in public without being covered from head to toe. I guess I didn't know that trans women are also more likely to die in car crashes even though they are significantly less likely to cause them. I guess I forgot that 12 states in the US have also banned abortion for trans women. And I must've forgotten, too, that the leading cause of death in pregnant trans women is homicide. I had no idea that 1 in 5 trans women were child brides, or that 5% of trans women are victims of female genital mutilation. Go figure. You are conflating transgender oppression with female oppression. Trans women are oppressed, but it's not for being female. That just isn't true, though. All intersex variations are classified as either male or female. Absolutely all of them. To say that, for example, ambiguous genitalia makes someone "less male" or "less female" than other individuals of their sex is intersexist. That is neither here nor there, though. Intersexism is absolutely an important topic of discussion, but it isn't what this post is about.