Fannish etiquette note: âYes, and...â
If youâre sitting around sharing headcanons or brainstorming fic ideas with somebody else, and you want it to be a happy, mutually pleasant experience, donât throw cold water on someoneâs idea just because you donât vibe with it. (If you hate it, them, and all their works, maybe youâd want to icebath them, but this advice is intended for people who are like âBut why canât I make friends in fandom???â)
Improv theatre has whatâs called the âYes, and...â rule. If you want to encourage people to be creative and throw ideas around, you have yo foster that process with your actions. In simple terms, this means: When youâre doing improv with someone and they introduce an idea, the way to make it better isnât to say âNope, bad idea, I donât like it.â Itâs to say, âYes, this is the idea, AND...â and then add something on that spins it in a more interesting direction.
If someone youâre building an idea with says, âAU where they all go on a relaxing beach vacation,â then yes, you definitely have the option of saying, âI hate tropical resorts because the workers are exploited and theyâre bad for the environment.â That would definitely kill that idea.
You could yes-and by trying to ameliorate the things you donât like: âRelaxing vacation... where they house-sit for a relative whoâs off on a scientific survey, so they donât get served drinks on the beach but theyâre responsibly tied into the local economy and helping local nature conservation efforts.â
Or you could yes-and by using your concerns to flip the idea on its head: âRelaxing beach vacation at a resort whose workers all go on strike their second day there, and the whale-watching tour is interrupted by revenge of the psychic dolphins who commandeer the boat to rescue a whale caught in a fishing net.â
So many great things can happen when you remember that youâre not creatively tied to someone elseâs ideas, but you do have the power to encourage them, but go off in your own direction.
This message brought to you by a tweet I just saw that literally replied to a fic idea to say, âI hate the idea of a [the fic premise] but I feel if it did happen [the characters would do the absolute opposite]â
You donât need to tell someone you hate their idea! You could avoid the conversation entirely if you felt nothing good would come out of itâkeeping your mouth shut is an underrated but truly noble choice.
But you could also just add a âyes, and...â by including a bit of affirmation and then trying out a new spin. Like, you could say, âInteresting idea! I donât usually see the characters doing that, but when I think about it, I imagine them doing the opposite. Hereâs my idea.â
It will make you way more friends than the other version. Trust me on this.