Sweet And Sour

1. Always confirm the same day that you guys are meeting. These men have crazy schedules and they can cancel on you same day, best to know before you do your hair & makeup. 

2. Never drive or uber a long distance to meet them. They should offer to come to you and if they don’t they should offer to uber you. I always get ubered to my dates, I never give them my real address obviously but somewhere close that I could walk or a place I could drive to and leave my car. Driving or ubering a far distance because he said he would reimburse you isn’t worth the risk. These men ain’t shit! they will lie to you. Don’t risk being out of gas or money, never worth it. 

3. Always vet them before you meet them, nothing worse than going on POT date to find out he wants to pay you 200 per meeting. ASk questions nothing to invasive but just enough to see if can meet your needs. If you want monthly allowances make sure he’s open to that. IF he wants to do per meet to start, discuss how much. You can obviously negotiate a better price in person, but make sure you guys are in the same range $$$.  Don't’ waste your hair/makeup and a cute outfit on a fuck boy who thinks he’s a sugar daddy. NEVER go on the POT with someone who gives you weird vibes, I mean if he’s weird over the phone he probably won’t be better in person, nothing is worth your safety. 

4. Be cute but comfortable, Opt for the heels that are more comfortable over the ones that may look better with the outfit.  Nothing worst than being out and having your feet hurt the entire time. 

5. Be sexy and alluring without showing too much. I have big boobs so no matter what I wear their gonna show, but I always wear dresses that aren’t  too tight or show that much cleavage. He may want to take you to social events with his colleagues or friends, you don’t want to show up on your first encounter with your boobs out or a dress that barely covers your ass. You want to give off a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets vibe. You don’t have to spend much to look great, Forever 21 or Zara has great dress options that are affordable. Macy’s always has in store sales on shoes ( Got a couple of heels from there), DSW also. A little black dress with some cute heels and some simple accessories can go a long way, ladies. For new sugars, you can spend under 100 bucks buy a cute outfit that you can re-wear to multiple POT dates. Ball on a budget until you can get him to take you, to Saks ;)

6. Knowledge is key! reading book  Ho Tactics and the art of seduction has really stepped my sugar skills up. Body language and confidence is everything! This may sound silly but I practice my faces in the mirror so I can get an idea of what I’m looking like when I say certain things, also what angles i look best in so I know how to tilt my head or smile. You have to mindfuck these to give you everything you want but never had. I always give eye contact it shows that you are really engaged it also turns guys on. I always order martinis or wine because of the way the glass fit in your hand. Eating a  olive off a  toothpick while eye fucking a guy will drive him crazy. Always ask follow up questions, whens he’s going on and on about his job or life, in general, show that your interested make comments be engaging. Also, brush up on current events, I use the SKIMM to help keep me up to date on current events. Be pretty but also cultured.

7. Always choose a high-end restaurant in your area. I usually yelp and look for restaurants with $$$ that has the best reviews, I legit have been to areas in D.C that I wouldn’t have been able to afford or even heard of. Set your standards high and don’t lower them. Don’t ever go out with a guy who thinks going to some cheap chain restaurant is acceptable. Like your makeup shouldn’t cost more than the menu. Gain knowledge on the nicest spots in your area, if he wants to take you somewhere lower end that’s the easiest way to spot a Splenda. If it doesn’t go anywhere at least you got to go to a nice ass restaurant, ate some good ass food, and drank some wine that cost as much your textbooks. Still a win. 

8. If you’re meeting for a quick date such as Starbucks ( which I don’t even recommend, they give me Splenda vibes)  make sure you choose a time when it’s not too pack. You don’t want to walk into a packed Starbucks with the line to door and no seats for your first date it sets an awkward tone. You want to be in a quiet setting where you can discuss the arrangement privately, without random people walking by every minute.  Choose a time after lunch, or later in the evening. 

9.Safety First! Never give out private information, give out fake email address, phone numbers, etc. The only thing I’m truthful about is that I’m a student and my age. Never get into a POT car, or go back to his place. I also send my friends my location so they know where I’m at all times. Also download a safety app, very useful. If a guy gives you weird vibe excuse yourself to the bathroom and call a uber, try to find a different exit and leave his ass. Never meet up in a sketchy area or place. Make sure the place is public and that it is quiet but moderately packed. Never meet up too late in the night, and don't’ over a drink. Overdrinking puts you in a bad head space which can lead to a bad situation that could be unsafe. I have no more than 3 cocktails on date depending on the time we are together. These sites are filled with psychos, be careful !. 

10. Last but not least Never give up the pussy until you get yours. Things happen maybe you drank too much, or he was really cute so the chemistry was there but it is never a good idea to sleep with POT before the arrangement has been hashed out.  This is not normal dating and he is not your bf. Unless he’s paying your bills, tuition, rent or aiding your makeup addiction why does he deserve pussy???? Always get your first, these men will fuck and dip out never to be seen again. GIving him quick access will not get your bills paid sis, don’t do it. Before you think about giving him some think about your rent that’s about to be due, the tuition you still have to pay, that car payment, or Rihanna new makeup line that’s about to drop.  Pussy is power use it wisely!

Test Drive… like a car? Have you ever bought a car? Okay, wonderful! So what did you intend to do with the car once you had it? You wanted it to take you to work, on vacation, on long drives with no destination. Why did you want that particular car? It was gorgeous, it was classy, it made you look good, it was a luxury, it offered the features you wanted.

So of course, you test-drove it.

But test-driving it didn’t mean taking it to work, or on vacation, or on long drives. It was a quick once around the lot with the salesman in the passenger seat and your license on lockdown back at the office. The drive was to see the car in person and to get a feel of you and the car as you would be home in the garage or out on the street together. You look good next to it, and you like the look of it. You checked, and it does have all of the features advertised.

So yes, Entitled, Smug POT. You can take me on a test-drive. We’ll go to a nice restaurant and you can look at me from across the table with the waiter present. Same hair, same breasts, same figure, same smile. You can chat with me and see if I make you laugh like I said I would. You can get a feel for you together with me in a classy setting, in public. See how you look with me on your arm. 

That’s my test-drive. But the sex! Oh, that’s just one feature out of many. The high-speed acceleration in that Porsche you looked at. Wonderful to think about trying out, but no dealership would EVER let you take a Porsche up to more than forty without money down. And besides, that’s hardly the point of the Porsche. And sex is hardly the point of an SB.

Or in any situation really.

If you notice a guy who has potential or you’re attracted to, the best thing you can do is eye contact. Not random but purposeful and distracting eye contact that sends a message.

Example: You are in a bar and see a man across the way, expensive suit, hot, ect ect. If he’s not glancing at you yet every now and then (he should be you’re hot as fuck) look in his general direction (not straight at him) until you see him look your way. Then clearly lock eyes, smile and look down still smiling. Don’t look to the side it shows disinterest like your passing over them for the next guy or not seeing them at all.

Now his interest should be piqued. Keep your peripherals open so you can tell when he’s looking at you again and do the same thing, with small changes in reaction. Sometimes a small wink or tilt of head or a slight smile with longer eye contact. Nothing over the top. It’s all about the obvious but small body language. 2 or 3 times of this I guarantee he will come over to buy you a drink.

Here’s something that’s been in my drafts folder for a while. Based on some of the posts I’ve read recently, I think it might come in handy…PLEASE DO NOT COPY AND PASTE. READ CRITICALLY. Take bits and pieces, make it your own, or summarize it in some way as a come back for those messages, texts, or dinner dates.

Him: Hi. Thanks for reaching out to my earlier message. Your pics are beautiful. While I completely understand the importance of chemistry…but should we get to a point where this matters, I’m a little uncomfortable with having our relationship defined by allowances. As I said in my profile, I am quite generous, and understand the importance of ‘spoiling my partner’ but still, the set allowance would probably not work for me. I hope you understand my thoughts….

Me: Thank you for your thoughts. I understand that you are in search of an escape and so am I. My escape would involve a real connection and a refined lifestyle. I am a little uncomfortable with having a relationship that is only defined by sex… especially when the guy is attached and somewhat unavailable. I’m a beautiful young woman with no lack of suitors. I have a busy social life and I’m currently working to build a business/ pursuing my degree. I chose this kind of relationship in part because I have so little time for love. That’s not to say that my (romantic) time is not very valuable to me. It is. What I don’t value are shoes, handbags, and/or expensive dinners. These are things that I can purchase myself. Furthermore, these do nothing for me in the long run as much as say you investing in my company/ education would. I hope you understand that I’d need tangible showings… actions that illustrate I am valued… that my companion wants to put a smile on my face/ make me feel special/wants the best for me. AN ALLOWANCE WOULD DO THAT FOR ME. By the same token, I want my companion to feel comfortable telling me specifically how I could put a smile on his face/make HIM feel special/ valued. In any case, I am a rare catch and therefore am in no rush to find the man who “gets it” and me. Good luck on your search!

I get compliments on my skin all the time. ALL. THE. TIME. Clients are constantly telling me that I have the softest skin they’ve ever felt, I have perfect skin, that they love touching me because I feel so smooth and soft. They even put it in my reviews! It’s something that I’m becoming known for. So, I thought I would share with you how I get and keep my skin so soft! 

Keep in mind that these are just the products that I use. I like Lush and Kiehl’s because I have very sensitive skin and I’m not allergic to their products. They don’t break me out plus they give the results I want! I believe you get what you pay for, and when your living requires you to be at your best for every appointment…you need to invest in the best products. 

In the Bath

First up, I usually take baths instead of showers. I’ve always preferred it but you can use this routine for either method. 

First, I use Lush’s Rub Rub Rub scrub to exfoliate from head to toe, with the exception of where I feel I have cellulite (butt, where my thighs meet my butt and the outer tops of my thighs). This scrub has moisturizers in it and smells great! If I’m in a hurry to get ready for an appointment, I will use this and skip the rest of the steps in the bath because it does have some moisturizers in it! Exfoliation is super important and I exfoliate 2-3 times per week to keep my skin super soft. That means going through lots of shower scrubs, but that’s okay. Skin care is an investment and it’s worth it. 

Next I use Lush’s Sugar Scrub on the areas where I feel I have cellulite. This scrub helps to reduce the appearance of cellulite and it actually works! The caffeine in the scrub helps plump your skin to even out lines and dimples. It comes in a bar BUT I put mine in a tub. When I get an order of them in, I unwrap all of them, get them a little wet in the sink and then crumble them into a container with a lid on it. If you don’t put it in a container, the ingredients will rinse out of it and leave you with a pile of sugar in a soupy mess. 

I use the Sugar Scrub and scrub HARD in a circular motion on my butt and thighs. I exfoliate within an inch of my life. I do not play around when it comes to scrubbing. Sometimes it burns when I sit back down in the water. That’s just how I roll. 

After I rinse off the scrubs, I reach for Lush’s Dreamwash. It’s a creamy, soothing shower smoothie that has a pretty neutral scent and is calming to the skin. 

Following the Dreamwash I rub Lush’s Snow Fairy body conditioner all over my body. I also like Ro’s Argan body conditioner but I feel that the Snow Fairy leaves less residue. With the Ro’s Argan I feel like I have a thick layer of film on my skin after I rinse it off. With the Snow Fairy, the filmy feeling is much less and it doesn’t feel sticky at all. It’s a little bit redundant with the Dreamwash, but if I had to pick one I would choose a body conditioner over the Dreamwash any day of the week. It leaves a great foundation for your lotion after you get out of the bath! 

After the Bath

Immediately after getting out of the bath I rub dry with a Turkish Cotton bath towel. If you want to feel like a fucking goddess, invest in some Turkish Cotton towels. They won’t make your skin any softer but you’ll feel like the GOT DAMN PRINCESS you are drying off with them. 

I go straight for the lotion, or body butter if I’m feeling particularly dry. The products I love the most are Kiehl’s Creme de Corps Lotion (DO NOT GET THE LIGHTWEIGHT VERSION), Kiehl’s Creme de Corps Soy Milk & Honey Whipped Body Butter, and Kiehl’s Superbly Restorative Argan Body Lotion. Sometimes I mix the Creme de Corps Lotion and the Argan Body Lotion together before applying. 

Be liberal with your lotion. Slather that stuff EVERYWHERE. Yes, everywhere. I even put it on my lady bits for the softest kitty ever (ON, NOT IN). Keep slathering. I put it everywhere but my face. Get flexible and cover every square inch of yourself. You should feel like you may have to wait to dry before getting dressed. 

I use this routine about 3 times a week and lotion up after every bath/shower (at least once a day, but I’ll lotion between clients too sometimes if I’m feeling dry). 

Tips for a Soft Face

Use a Face Oil

No, I’m not kidding. Even if you have oily skin, there is a face oil for you. I prefer Sunday Riley’s face oils. I have hormonal acne so I use their U.F.O. oil or their Luna oil at night. 

Exfoliate

She completely reformed the system in Alexandria, and Egypt at large; making it much more of a functional powerhouse. 

She did what 300 years of her ancestors couldn’t: Managed to get the support of both the Greek AND Egyptian subjects she ruled.

There is a sculpture that has been identified as her, through comparisons to coins minted under her rule, that proves beyond a doubt that she wasn’t particularly beautiful.

Even after Cleopatra died her influence on those around her lived on: her daughter, Cleopatra Selene, was the only child of Cleopatra’s to live to adulthood, and she became queen of Mauretania along with her husband Juba and it’s believed they married for love, which was extremely rare for that time period, especially among nobles/the upper class. Not only did she grow up in the house of her mother’s worst enemy and technical murderer, but she still went on to become a queen who possessed an equal amount of political power as her husband, even having her face minted on coins on the opposite side of his likeness, showing they were equal rulers.

⬆️ BOOST PT. 2 ⬆️

Non sugar announcement: I JUST SIGNED A LEASE!! This is my new one bedroom! Only the living room is featured obviously. I know the kitchen is small but the living room and bedroom have super high ceilings and massive Windows for beautiful light in the afternoon. I’m blessed to say that my parents are paying for this so I don’t have to use sugar money! Edit: It’s one and a half bath, the one off the kitchen is a half bath.

You all know what a new apartment means….SHOPPING. 😏💅🏼 I already have my eye on two bar stools from Nordstrom.