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It's not just about the estrogen. It's about the fact that they are openly admitting that they'd prefer to be a girl, passed "the button test", and openly state that it's really only internalized transmisogynistic caricatures about what trans women look like that are holding them back.

Every beyond people shaming those trying to help OP get over their clear internalized transmisogyny and repression, there’s a lot of people in the notes calling OP a ‘specimen’ or a ‘interesting creature’ or using dehumanizing language acting like their suffering is a performance for their amusement.

The way that repressed transfems’ suffering is turned into a form of entertainment for non-transfems is just cruel. And seeing these comments come not just from cis people but also from trans people is making me sad.

It's not just about the estrogen. It's about the fact that they are openly admitting that they'd prefer to be a girl, passed "the button test", and openly state that it's really only internalized transmisogynistic caricatures about what trans women look like that are holding them back.

Every beyond people shaming those trying to help OP get over their clear internalized transmisogyny and repression, there’s a lot of people in the notes calling OP a ‘specimen’ or a ‘interesting creature’ or using dehumanizing language acting like their suffering is a performance for their amusement.

The way that repressed transfems’ suffering is turned into a form of entertainment for non-transfems is just cruel. And seeing these comments come not just from cis people but also from trans people is making me sad.

The implication of removing the space is that being trans isn't just one way a woman can be, like being tall or being brunette, but that women who are trans require a whole other noun.

Like, listen. We both get talked over by men, it sucks. But I also get talked over by women. I get talked over by everybody. And if I raise my voice to make myself heard, I will get kicked out of whatever workplace or social group because raising my voice one time will be characterised as "scary" and "aggressive". And if I complain about someone talking over me, I will not receive sympathy or commiseration, I will be told that I need to unlearn my male-patterned behaviour of "speaking with the expectation of being listened to", a behaviour I never had anyway because everyone has always talked over me ever since I started speaking.

The same logic applies to any expression of misogyny: I experience the "normal" form, plus a whole lot extra, plus the lack of access to solidarity and support for people who experience misogyny. If I had to put numbers on the contributions to my general misery from each form of oppression I face, *misogyny* would not reach even one tenth of the contribution made by *transmisogyny*, an all-pervading oppression that makes anything like a "normal" life almost impossible.

Today I bought a train ticket from a ticket machine, but when I tried to use it to get through the barrier it didn't work. My first thought was not "I should go and complain about this", it was "Welp, better buy another ticket and hope that one works," because any interaction with a service worker where they can see my face and hear my voice has a high chance of ending in harassment and a decent chance of ending in physical violence.