nonononono oh my fucking god
For starters, Iâm happy your mom and dad and you and your sister are happy, thatâs fantastic, Iâm glad it worked out.
but this is seriously fucked up
GROWN-ASS MEN. SHOULD NOT. BE ATTRACTED. TO TEENAGERS. NO. NO. NO.
Iâm a 17 year old dude and I physically can not be attracted to someone more than a year younger than me, because they are immature, they just are, no matter how âmatureâ they are, they. are. fucking. CHILDREN. I AM A CHILD. I have changed so, so much since just last year, and I know I will change even more this year. Teenagers ARE CHILDREN. They are STILL going through puberty, they are still growing, their minds are NOT adult yet. Even if they are 18, theyâre still trying to find their way in the world and their brains STILL ARENâT MATURED. You ask ANY 30+ year old about their 18 year old selves and 99% of them will say how naive they were or how they wouldnât make the same choices they made then, now.
The fact that your mom ACTED mature as a kid and had her head screwed on straight is great, but that makes it even worse to think that she could handle that kind of relationship. Thatâs like saying the 12 year olds that are super precocious and intelligent are ready for a relationship, just because theyâre ~so mature.~
What if she was 16. What if she was 15. What if she was 14. What if, what if. Sheâs still mature for her age, right? What makes those ages any less okay?
NO 27 YEAR OLD GUY SHOULD BE ATTRACTED TO A FUCKING MINOR. NO 27 YEAR OLD GUY SHOULD WANT TO DATE A MINOR. NO 27 YEAR OLD GUY SHOULD ACT ON THOSE URGES. BECAUSE YOUNG GIRLS ARE RAISED TO BE INSECURE AND HAVING A MATURE MAN TELL THEM THAT THEYâRE DESIRABLE IS A HUGE CONFIDENCE BOOST AND IS MANIPULATION WHETHER THEY KNOW IT OR NOT.
It is an adultâs RESPONSIBILITY to say no. If a minor likes them, or if they happen to develop feelings, even if they shouldnât. Just donât act on them. It is very, very easily to not act on feelings. It is your job to not be a creep and take advantage of a naive child.
IT IS NEVER OKAY FOR ANYONE TO DATE/COURT/INTERACT WITH A MINOR IN ANY SEXUAL OR ROMANTIC WAY. EVEN IF THEY HAVE ~NO BAD INTENTIONS.~ ITâS MANIPULATIVE AND A BIG SHIFT OF POWER EVEN IF ITâS ~EVEN~ AND ITâS SO SO SO CREEPY.
PLEASE DONâT PUT THIS OUT THERE FOR YOUNG GIRLS, OR BOYS, OR NON-BINARY KIDS TO SEE.
Because it is. not. okay. Even if it does work out eventually, it shouldnât have happened in the first place.