ENTER THE DUCKPOND

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny" (according to tMRA chuds, not my roommate), right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

It can also be found on Google Drive here and on Bluesky here.

she did not experience "male socialization." when i look back on our childhood, it is easy to understand that there was no privilege to that concept. she was forced to try and shrink herself into the shape of a man, and was abused when she didn't succeed at playing the part. being "raised as a boy" only highlighted the stark incongruity between what was expected of her and what she was. this repeatedly led to her facing violence.

It can also be found on Google Drive here and on Bluesky here.

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She literally went “debate me! Debate me!” Over and over like the grifter she is and when she couldn’t get what she wanted and when “no” wasn’t enough she resorted to retaliatory sex-pestery, posting an image of somebody’s body with intention to shame and embarrass and spawn more waspish tittering from her internet followers.

(1) A person (A) commits an offence if—

(a) A intentionally shares a photograph or film which shows, or appears to show, another person (B) in an intimate state, (b) B does not consent to the sharing of the photograph or film, and (c) A does not reasonably believe that B consents.

(2) A person (A) commits an offence if—

but then you learn that most other men have like 0 problems with plain as fuck cheese sandwich. they fucking love plain as fuck cheese sandwich. they're like "how can we reinvent plain as fuck cheese sandwich?" and "plain as fuck cheese sandwich is under fucking attack". and you're like. does it *have* to be cheese sandwich? can we add to it perhaps? and then everyone looks at you a little funny. and they're like "well you could always try swiss cheese". and you're like no i want like an additional ingredient, i want to try ham, or try toasting it. and they get a little threatened by the suggestion. you offer them to try it and they feel repulsed by it. and you don't get it cause like, it's just a bit more ham? but you never really let go of the cheese sandwich either, even though girls are out there eating ceasar salad. you're like wow that's so many more interesting ingredients, can't i try that but for cheese sandwich, and change it up a bit? but you never let go of the idea that it has to still be a cheese sandwich because it's all you have. it's all you ever fucking get. you COULD be eating anything in the world but there's this pressure on you to continue going on with cheese sandwich forever because what if it's bad? what if you change it and don't like it? what if you try ceasar salad and it's awful and it feels like you're marked for life forever for it? is soup even something that's *for* you? are you allowed to have soup? nobody has ever offered you soup. or ceasar salad. all you get is cheese sandwich. and it's scary to say no to it because what if you never have it offered to you again?

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No one doing this should be allowed to call themselves a feminist.

For a lot of people, the queer experience is one of powerlessness in all realms but identity. Your parents can make your life hell for being queer. Your school or work can dress code you. Your doctor or therapist or government can bar you from HRT or PrEP. Little can be done about that on an individual basis. But you get to decide your identity. That part is entirely within your power.

So when they see someone online saying "Your identity is inherently part of X category" or "If you have X identity, that means you have Y traits or privileges," that reads as an attack on their whole concept of queerness. Queerness is about responding to people applying labels or categories with "You can do what you want forever," because in their life, that is what queer liberation has meant. The core value of their queerness is that identity is self-determined, never determined by an external party. That has had value and represented a form of personal liberation that is narrow but meaningful.

Of course, this isn't how the world works. Being a man or a woman generally does impact your traits and privileges. Queer liberation also has to be for more than internal personal identity. It has to actually affect the material world and put food and shelter and employment and HRT where queer people can reach.

TME/TMA categorization isn't a tool we use to tell people how to identify, it's a tool we use to understand how we can materially liberate ourselves from the power wielded by our parents, schools, workplaces, doctors, therapists, and governments.