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Here are tons of signs that you're intersex:

You naturally have a large clitoris (numbers are complicated) or small phallus (<2.7 inches erect or <1.5 inches flaccid)

You have parts that look like an intermediate between a clitoris and a phallus (clitorophallus)

You do not have a clitorophallus at all (ie, no clitoris, no phallus; nothing)

Your urethra is lower or higher than usual (for phalluses: should be centered on top of the glans -- for vulvas: should have several millimeters of space between the clitoris, urethra, and vagina)

Your urethra is not externally visible

You have a penis or phallus with an opening between the base of phallus and anus.

You have a vulva without a vaginal opening, or have a small, easily irritated or nonelastic opening

You have a vulva with partially or completely fused labia (begins from the bottom of the vulva or from the clitoris - may have a webbed appearance rather than flush skin)

You have a penis with very small or undescended testes

You went through androgenizing puberty and have prominent breast tissue

You went through estrogeninizing puberty and have little to no breast tissue.

You went through both androgenizing and estrogenizing puberty

You never hit puberty, had very little development during puberty, or had a late onset puberty.

You have had imaging tests that show "missing," differently shaped, mixed, or otherwise unexpected internal genitalia.

You have had unexplained medical issues regarding sex traits or genitalia since childhood or adolescence.

You have any of the above signs and are struggling with fertility

Other family members display similar traits (note: this is *not* necessary as not all intersex variations are inherited)

You have had DNA testing and the karyotype came back with an unexpected result (ex: XX instead of XY, or an error message)

You have had high or low levels of sex hormones since puberty (it's okay if all you have are signs that they were high or low in childhood)

You have widespread body hair or any amount of facial hair alongside an estrogenizing puberty

You are experiencing androgenic alopecia and have close-to-female anatomy.

You are unable to grow body/facial hair and have close-to-male anatomy.

You have a very androgynous face, or your face passes as a different gender from your body (this one is Subjective and not indicative on its own)

You have unexplained scarring in the genitalia area. If this one is you, please get in touch with InterAct Advocates, Genital Autonomy, or online Intersex communities before you dig for info.

This is an extremely sensitive topic and may be traumatizing (CIMI / IGM). You also want to make sure what you've found are scars, instead of natural tissue - intersex bodies may develop extra tissue in some places (ex: vulvar hypospadias and hooding of the urethra)

Alright. That's all I got for now. If you're starting to question things now, it may feel scary at first, but you don't have to do it alone. The intersex community online has so many amazing resources and wonderful helpful people in it.

Until their bank decided they would only do 2FA through their app randomly one day, when they would just send a text before. They found this out because they had just gotten their new debit card, which did not come with the code attached to the letter: they had to log on to their account to see it.

So:

Nepeta's phone is incompatible with their bank's app, which is required for 2FA

They can't buy a new phone online since any online purchase would require 2FA

Any IRL purchases, or withdrawing money, would require knowing the card's code

Learning the card's code requires logging in to their account, which requires 2FA through the app

The way we resolved this is I bought a slightly more modern reconditioned phone online for them, the cheapest option. Which I still very much could not afford because I've always lived the struggler life and at that point in time I was happy if I had more than 50€ on my account, which means that took me well into the red.

So. I had negative money and they couldn't buy things. Some people I knew IRL were nice enough to give me some cash, but all my friends were in some way homeless and/or unemployed because I'm cool like that so that meant our daily food budget was ~50 cents for 2 weeks. For 2 people. We would literally just eat a quarter of a baguette each a day.

Then their phone arrived, they were able to log in, reimbursed me for the price, and all ended well.