Jess & Sam & Dean

listen i'm a slut for Dean Winchester lingerie kink but i do believe, in my heart of hearts, that "she made us try on her panties" is load-bearing. that man has a secret soft spot for all kinds of denigrated feminine shit he'd consider shameful and forbidden to seek out on his own initiative. he wants so so so badly to get forcefemmed in the bedroom, where it Doesn't Count, and "a hot chick made me do it as a sex thing" is a get-out-of-jail-free card where the embarrassment factor is at least consistent with the image he feels obliged to uphold. i don't think "noncon kink as a way to be absolved of the shame of wanting sex" would do much for him because he has no shame about that, but he has all kinds of shame about Girly Crap and particularly about seeking it out. forcefem kink that works on similar logic would fucking HIT.

also this may be unpopular and it's certainly inconvenient for the most popular ships in SPN fandom, but i also think getting forcefemmed by a dude would be a VERY different dynamic than a girl inviting him into her world and giving him a little push to get him through the door. like, a guy he's sleeping with trying to wifey-fy him, even as a bedroom game, inherently carries huge risk of faceplanting and hitting every branch of the Dean Neurosis Tree on the way down: masculinity status anxiety (extra-potent Comparative flavor), related internalized homophobia, covertly-gendered childhood parentification and spousification, not being good enough for people to stick with him as-is, etc. and if any of those exposed nerves get tweaked in a vulnerable moment, he is Going To defensively lash out before trying to brush the whole thing off as a joke. which isn't to say that it can't be done or that all the feminization-kink fic out there is necessarily OOC, more that it'd take a lot of groundwork and implicit trust--about the gender shit specifically--for m/m Shame-Absolving Forcefem to ring true to me, rather than "close enough for fic purposes with the requisite porn-logic handwaving taken as a given." whereas with a girl he would be (and canonically is) on board in a heartbeat.

Neither enemies to lovers nor slow burn but a secret third thing called Schrödinger's intimacy. We are in love and we are not in love do NOT open that lid I swear to God.

as it gets warmer let's all remember the two most beautiful accessories a girl can have this summer are hairy legs and a bunch of bruises from bangin around