High Fanatsy Please And Thank You

Her sister locked her up "for Nesta's own good," even though that same sister knows full well—after spending so much time complaining herself—what it's like to be in the same situation.

Amren, who claimed to be Nesta's friend, preaches to everyone about "keep reaching out your hand," yet abandoned Nesta the moment Nesta acted as rude as Amren always does to everyone else.

Cassian acted like a predator, badgering her until she was too tired to maintain her boundaries.

Mor thought it was a good idea for Nesta to go to CoN and live there, putting her in the same environment Mor herself knows is cruel and dangerous to women.

Rhysand was consistently cruel to Nesta, so threatened by her that he repeatedly endangered her safety, threatened her life, and insisted she work under his supervision.

Azriel was complicit in many of these scenarios.

The only reason Nesta actually got better was because of her friendship with Gwyn and Emerie. It was them. And I don’t want to hear, “WitHOuT rHYs, NeStA wOUldN’t hAvE mEt GwYn AnD eMErIe” because without Rhysand and Feyre’s stupidity and narcissism (they think they’re the only ones who can prevent the war somehow *gag*), Nesta wouldn’t be traumatized by that damn cauldron in the first place and wouldn’t have been in that war. As if she didn’t already have enough unresolved trauma from her childhood.

Rhysand's excuse for not telling Amarantha her real name was because he thought he felt something for her. he only acted and went to calmanai on that little feeling.

Rhysand dressed Feyre practically naked forced her to drink wine and gave him a lap dance

Rhysand makes horrible sexual remarks about his mate to tarquin calling her breasts as ripe apples. (dude wtf? irl I would be creeped out if my crush ever said that to me in public in front of a person i barely know like seriously ??)

when Amarantha's curse was broken Tamlin regained his magical powers and killed her immediately. Rhysand went flying across the room.

I understand that the title might have you thinking the worst, but please hear me out.

I didn't have a relationship with my son for basically all his life. This was due to my circumstances at the time: I went through a major personal tragedy and was severely injured, to the point of being on life support. To this day I have a lot of issues with my health.

I recently reconnected with my son. I immediately invited him to meet my boss (M92), in hopes that I could set him up with a job opportunity. I feel that this is significant. As far as I know, my son has been working in menial jobs in agriculture, but then apparently chose to leave that life and - to my shock - join a criminal syndicate.

I felt as if getting a good government job would be a way to turn over a new leaf in his life, especially given his past. However, he immediately became combative. I attempted to give him some guidance in managing his emotions, but he rejected that as well.

I'm sad to say that the argument became physical. Some blows were exchanged, but in the end, I was angry enough to strike him. I immediately felt very bad, and decided to offer him the government job on the spot. He rejected me again, and chose to leave very abruptly. I haven't had any contact with him since.

So, AITA?

Edit: Yes, I admit that to call it striking him was an understatement. To clarify, I cut off his hand.

Edit: However, I feel like it should be stated that I myself am a quadruple amputee and we have excellent healthcare.

Edit: I did not immediately identify myself as his father when we met. I think this was my mistake. I think he would have been much more receptive of my message had I done so. As it stands I only told him of our relationship after I had struck him.

Then, between courts, we have Helion wearing Spirit Halloween's take on the ancient Grecian tunic; Feyre's Spring Court wedding dress looking like an 1830s fashion plate; and Dawn heavily implied to have traditional East Asain clothing (e.g. kimono, hanfu, hanbok).

On top of all of that, some of the Dawn Court's small cities ". . . specialized in tinkering and clockwork and clever things. . ." which -- combined with Lucien's metal eye and Nuan's mechanical hand -- implies a sort of post-industrial revolution time period. However, a decent chunk of the fandom says that ACoTaR is medieval; which, yeah, it's medieval themed in the first book -- sans the "dress" Rhysand forces Feyre to wear UTM.

The wild inconsistencies in ACoTaR's inspiration leads, not to a rich and diverse world, but a world that seems ramshackle and haphazard -- like it's creator simply threw together a board on Pinterest and called it a day. This is a major part of why the world building is so abysmal, it relies on convenience to the plot and whatever pleases the aesthetic whims of the author. Cultures deemed "pretty" or "badass" are thrown together, irregardless of how far apart they actually are. This is not only disrespectful to the narrative, but to the readers and the cultures used as inspiration.

Nesta: *doesn’t go hunting back in the cottage*

The fandom: SELFISH CUNT.

Nesta: *was willing to whore herself out for her family, advocated for the humans in the HL meeting, got allies, used herself as bait, shielded Cassian’s body with her own, scried during the war, helped the wounded, helped the women of the library battle their biggest fears, held the line for the Valkyries, saved Feyre, Rhysand, and Nyx, saved thousands by giving the mask to Bryce*

Saw a comment saying "Feyre died, Rhys was raped, Az was set on fire, Amren was in a prison, Mor was beaten and used like a pin board and Nesta became poor in her youth lol"

Let's review the things Nesta went through for the illiterate ones who jump at any chance to dismiss a woman's trauma, shall we?

had her palms beaten raw by her grandmother at the age of seven for missteps in her dancing lessons

groomed by her mother as a child to seduce elder men and was led to believe she was only as worthy as the title she married

was almost raped by Tomas Mandray and physically assaulted when she attempted to fight back.

neglected by her father, the man who was supposed to take care of them and bring food to the table

was put in a position where she wanted to starve to death just so her father would get up and provide for them

was shoved into the cauldron against her will (which she described as having molten ore poured into her veins and her human blood boiling) had her bodily autonomy stripped from her, and died as a human

watched her father's neck being snapped right after he told her he loved her

she became depressed and reclusive, "feeling nothing" after the war ended

she couldn't take baths from her trauma of the cauldron, she had to wash herself using buckets

she couldn't endure small spaces due to the cauldron

had to endure the cold in her apartment because the sound of cracking logs reminded her of her father's neck being snapped

was locked up in the HoW because men once again think they know what's best for women against her will

was SAed by the kelpie, monsters known for raping women before they eat them