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YK WHAT…FUCK IT. YES IM MESSY. YES IM DIRTY. YES I MASTURBATE TOO MUCH. YES I SPEND TOO MUCH MONEY ON UNNECESSARY THINGS. YES I DONT EXERCISE FREQUENTLY ENOUGH. YES I WALK OUT WITH MY MAKEUP UNBLENDED. YES. i hannah horvath. i am issa rae.

my general opinion on what people should be "allowed" to portray and what topics they should be "allowed" to explore in fiction is that you can make whatever art with whatever themes you want but i'm also allowed to think the way you handled it was tasteless and should've been done differently. my negative opinion on your handling of sensitive topics is the price of admission for publicly showcasing your work. this is not a pro-censorship stance because i am not The Government

this is getting really popular so i’d like to add the important caveat that your criticism of a work is no more unassailable than the work itself. just as one is entitled to be critical of something someone else is entitled to disagree with that criticism. i add this because some of you pretend to give a fuck about thoughtful analysis and then when someone points out flaws in your argument you declare that all criticisms are valid. this is untrue. the status of a hater is no more sacred than that of a liker. get off your high horse and engage in the thoughtful discussion you pretend to believe in or perish by my blade

Since I hate having to do my own searches to verify stuff, here’s a Science Daily link and the journal article it cites for any similarly lazy-but-conscientious people after me. (And the University of Michigan press release, for what it’s worth.)

keep thinking about how I wrote in my dissertation about how every time a new form of public/social space emerges it's immediately popular with kids and teenagers who see it as a chance at freedom and then adults colonise it and kick them out. this happened with malls in the 80s and diners in the 50s and pool halls in the 20s. my dad was doing research on this trend in like 1975. and I was like "yeah so this is going to happen to the internet" and then five years later every government suddenly decided to ban kids from everywhere online. I hate being right especially when I don't even get paid for it

also yeah the thing about Eating Pussy is that it's like... telephoned from "men are performatively disgusted by vaginas as a way of affirming their masculinity through misogyny" and also "men dont really know how to pleasure women during sex and often do not care to" but by this point it has just kinda been flattened to "express morality by participating in a specific sex act"

also the flipside to this (ha) is the way Men Getting Pegged is still, like, reinforcing the idea that being penetrated is synonymous with weakness/femininity/subservience, even if it's being used on the surface for #girlpower stuff. like yeah cis men generally have baggage around being penetrated that they should probably get over (i do not think trans men need to shoulder that burden, considering) and a more feminist egalitarian man is more likely to have done that work, but. maybe think about the implications if you see a male character obeying a female character in a nonsexual context and go "haha i bet he gets pegged"

crazy how quickly dust accumulates. i should be allowed to put my trinkets on a shelf and not touch them and they remain in perfect condition forever. dont even get me STARTED on the inside of a computer. why do i have to brush your teeth. youre technology.

miss you (the money i spent)

girl u need to slow down. your observations are too astute. your conclusions are too insightful. youre illuminating truths known to too few. calm down girl

It's really funny how art can be so important and enriching and sometimes downright life-changing but every single piece of art about how important and life-changing art is is the lamest shit ever.

hearing a beloved friend say the words 'can i be mean for a sec' is like watching an angel descend from the heavens and kiss you on the forehead