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Replacing curse words with silly alternatives literally improves your mood. I'm... a VERY terrible person when it comes to cursing. I use those words in simple conversations. Instead of using "um" as a mental buffer, i usually end up saying "fucking" or something.

When something agitates me, i get the urge to say multiple curse words. But I quell that urge by saying shit like "Fiddle dee dee" or "son of a beesting". And it leaves me less angry than outright cursing would, because 1) cursing only seems to conduct my anger a little more, and 2) i can't take myself seriously when I say "fudge-nuggets" and internally laugh at myself.

A good litmus test for me is saying out loud, "I am uncomfortable because _______."

If I fill in that blank with something actionable, such as, "I am uncomfortable working with this coworker because she informed me that autistic people do not deserve jobs," then that's something I can pursue with our employer, because it's discriminatory. But the thing is that the actionable part is the inappropriate thing she said, not my own discomfort.

Sometimes I fill in that blank with something that is a valid discomfort, but it's not actionable. "I am uncomfortable with this coworker because she is trying to lose weight for her own health and keeps making broad thoughtless generalizations about how everyone needs to lose weight for their health in a time when I'm trying to gain weight for my health." This is a valid discomfort, she shouldn't be doing that, but it's not actually hurting me and it's not coming from a place of malice. The solution to my discomfort is to take matters into my own hands and simply limit my contact with this person as much as possible. (If it was not the same person as in the first example I would say " or attempt to communicate with her and politely get her to be more thoughtful." But it is the same person as in the first example so like. There's other layers here.) If this is not possible then it may become actionable, but for the moment it's a personal issue.

Sometimes I fill in the blank with something incredibly stupid. "I am uncomfortable with this person because they wear tank tops." < This is stupid. This is not a valid discomfort. There may be a reason why I feel that way, but ultimately I need to self reflect and get over myself. Nobody is hurting me or potentially going to hurt me because they wear tank tops.

we're looking to create an AI policy, and when we were talking about this, my boss (older millennial) was genuinely shocked to hear that younger people do not (seem) to view AI positively (a la the recent commencement speakers being booed)

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