Drink your coffee, embrace the silence, do not take people seriously, do not take life upon yourself, do not exaggerate your emotions, and do not please anyone against your will.

Heterosexualism and the Colonial / Modern Gender System, María Lugones 

Colonial Dependence and Sexual Difference: Reading for Gender in the Writings of Simón Bolívar (1783-1830), Catherine Davies

(you can download those last two articles here if you don’t have access to jstor)

The Coloniality of Gender, Maria Lugones

Romancing the Transgender Native, Evan B. Towle and Lynn M. Morgan

Scientific Racism and the Emergence of the Homosexual Body, Siobhan Somerville

The Empire of Sexuality, Joseph Massa

Women and Men, Cloth and Colonization: The Transformation of Production-Distribution Relations among the Baule (Ivory Coast) (Femmes et hommes, pagnes et colonisation: la transformation des relations de production et de distribution chez les Baule de Côte d'Ivoire), Mona Etienne

The Invention of Women: Making an African Sense of Western Gender Discourses, Oyèrónké Oyěwùmí

“Some Could Suckle over Their Shoulder”: Male Travelers, Female Bodies, and the Gendering of Racial Ideology, 1500-1770, Jennifer L. Morgan

White Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence, Sunny Woan

The veil or a brother’s life: French manipulations of Muslim women’s images during the Algerian War, 1954–62, Elizabeth Perego

Women of Color Seen As Always Sexually Available, Jaclyn Friedman

This was early on in our marriage, these are just the glasses we use every day.

Fast forward to when my son is five years old. He has learned to read. He has graduated from sippy cups.

Good things take time. If you truly want success in anything be comfortable with the idea of waiting, for long periods, with no visible results. If you're an instant girlie you're on the 47875 instant abs workout this year because you went to the gym seven days in January and there was no abs, and still no abs but Alison has been doing it consistently and now looks like Sophie Richie. The older the wine the finer it is. The older the money the more influence it has. The older the person the more value they bring . Old is gold. Slow is sure, slow is safe, slow is grind. Instant is low quality. Instant is a lie. Instant is a scam.