The art of focusing on what you want is the most important thing you'll ever do.
If you ask my man he's an anti feminist. Actually abolish feminism. Feminism ruined the world. In action, however, he's more feminist than I am. He thinks relationships should be 70/40 where he takes up 70% of the work and I'll do 30 because being female is hard enough. He thinks bride price should be paid to the bride not her father as back up money in case the wedding doesn't work out she has a backup. He thinks (knows) my money is my money his money is our money. He has more to say about women getting hurt in media and the glorification of female pain than I do. However, if you ask him, feminism is bad. What's important to me is a feminist, not someone that says they're a feminist. That's why he's my man.
When I'm booking an Airbnb / place to stay all I care about is wifi, swimming pool and hot water plus location. All these other things are useless to me. There's sauna there's gym there's bla bla no one cares. No you can't charge me more for things I don't care about. Is there a pool?wifi? Hot water shower? Booked. Charging me extra for shit I won't even use is funny who cares about gym do I look like I work out (I do). So I don't let places overcharge me for bs I don't care about.
3. I don't care about follower count because this is Tumblr I'm not getting paid. If it was Instagram id care. A LOT. Id be kissing up trying to placate everyone making sure I've served everyone's tiny little feelings because I will be getting paid. And I'm a gold digger I do, in fact, only care about money. So if Iog in and I have a new follower okay I guess who cares. If Iog in and I lost fifty okay. What do I care about? Having somewhere to pour my mother energy. That's it.
3. I had a topic I went to therapy for and as soon as I sorted it out I dropped out. No I don't want to spend hours talking about how shitty my daddy was that's past. Also I have a diary and I also studied psychology I'm here for this ONE thing because I can't figure it out. So when my first therapists kept trying to get me to trauma dump instead of dealing with the topic at hand I dropped them until I found my last therapist and made it clear from day one I'm here to talk about this thing. Yes I know my daddy is shitty and that ruined me. It's not something I'm willing to pay 3/4 of my salary for, though, so let's talk about this one thing. And when I felt huh I understand it now? Bye. Thank you.
4. I'm more nutrition focused than taste focused. So if you give me the best tasting thing BUT the nutrition is wack im not touching it. For this reason I almost never eat out because I need to know what you're putting in my plate I will not spend my money to buy cancer and autoimmune diseases etc. So even if you drag me to a seventeen Michelin star I'm getting fruit juice and specifying do NOT add anything squeeze that damn fruit. I don't careeee I want to know what's on my plate. So seven star two star one star negative five stars I'm getting fruit juice and if there's none I'll take salad, get two bites and throw the rest out. I'm too spiritual for that careless shit, my body is my temple.
5. What's important to me is feeling welcome. So if I was to go to four seasons and they made me feel unwelcome I'll just check out same day and go find some Airbnb in the countryside where host would worship me for existing and be there. Roadside cafe small business where they pack my orders with utmost care and write me a note and pin a picture of me on the wall>>> Prada or Hermes or Michelin star.
6. What's important to me in clothes is durability. Second third fourth fifth sixth ninth hand cloth with gold stitching, color still intact and material that's durable , comfortable and environmental friendly. So Chanel / miumiu and their annoying ass polyester aren't touching me I'll buy the 100% cotton from a zero name brand for 20$ that will last me my whole lifetime , not give me micro plastics and not look like chewed cud after every wash.
a) know what's important to you
b) stick to that.
What's important to you??? Yeah focus on that forget all else.
