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saying that the aries symbol looks like ovaries

2. having "woman" in your bio

3. a lesbian making a joke about how people call themselves lesbian when they are really bisexual or het

4. a tim's employer making a post celebrating women in stem and not including him

5. commenting on how people are reluctant to use the term "women"

6. lesbians being associated with vaginas

7. saying that?? the dairy industry is tied to feminism??? because it harms female (animal) bodies??? i genuinely am baffled at this one how is it not satire

8. hating men

9. using the word 'male' or 'female'

10. saying that lesbians are better

if you've ever watched a movie with your film buff friend and chatted about it afterwards, that friend might have pulled hours more of conversation out of the same 90 minutes of screentime, and wondered how the fuck they did that - it's not raw intelligence, it's a skill that's been honed. And I learned a lot about film from talking to friends who knew about film, and reading critique by film scholars

literature works exactly the same. so if you want to get more out of your reading, there are things you can do to train that. Find a book or short story you think you've got a pretty good grasp on, preferably from a widely read & respected author like Ursula K Le Guin or Ray Bradbury (if you're new at this don't swing for the Toni Morrison or the Samuel Beckett yet unless you feel very comfortable with the complexity of the text - the point is to develop a complicated new skill on good foundations). Then go to JSTOR, create a free account, and look up criticism on the story you've chosen. Find something that looks readable to you and at least somewhat interesting. Read that article, and look at what that writer got out of the same story you've read that you didn't get. Do you see the critic's points? Did they teach you something about the text? Go reread that story and see if the criticism has changed how you read it. Are you seeing more? Are you thinking about the implications of a line that you hadn't noticed before? Does the story feel richer now?

you don't have to read more deeply if you don't want to (but i'd recommend it, i genuinely think it makes you a better person)

if you want to learn to read more deeply, the resources are out there. try to find critical literature (that is, academic writing that analyzes the text) on works your familiar with so you can get a sense for how to do that analysis too

learning to deep read literature can help you deep read many areas of your life

i don't want to drag you into the "can trans women have periods" thing but i just find it crazy how anything is transmisogyny now, biology is transmisogyny

and the thing about acts like "blowjobs" and "handjobs" is right in the name: it is a service rather than a mutual act. men don't give women "fingerjobs" or "tonguejobs". but they have a dick that you gotta service. a handjob will be performed in a car. a blowjob will be performed under the desk. you are not having sex, the woman is performing a task on the male organ that needs sucking and rubbing and licking if the man is to be content and satisfied.