I'll die on the hill that expecting women to remove hair that men are not expected to remove is misogynistic body policing.
Your body is your own. Body hair and facial hair do not become "unhygienic" or harm anyone, just because they belong to a woman instead of a man.
Every woman who doesn't do the hair removal demanded of her is participating in staking the feminist claim that women's bodies exist for ourselves, not to fulfill the aesthetic preferences of people with power over us.
I'm grateful to every woman I ever knew who showed me that it's possible to just stop removing body hair and (for many women in many situations) it's literally fine. No one in my life even comments on my pit hair or leg hair, except for a kid once in awhile, which gives me the chance to say things like "Most grownups grow hair there! Some grownups remove it, but I don't want to."
I'm also grateful to the transfeminists who taught me to see the gender role enforcement in the demand that women have no facial hair.
Even when the removal of certain hair feels necessary for safety from harassment or abuse, understanding that the stigma against female facial & body hair is misogynistic (and frequently specifically transmisogynistic and racist) can make it easier to identify the structural problem, instead of buying into the propaganda that there's something fundamentally wrong with your body if you grow this hair at all.
You have every right to decide what purely cosmetic work you will spend time, money, and planning on, and what isn't worth doing. Regardless of what you decide, you should have the right to live free of harassment, discrimination, and other forms of body policing. So should everyone else.
If people treat you badly in attempts to enforce this gender role, that's because they're misogynistic, not because you're doing anything wrong.
