guards! put them in the pear wiggler!

Nonbinary people are not your enemy.

Nonbinary people are your siblings in the struggle that is systemic transphobia. Our collective pain, our collective erasure from society is the goal. We are allies to each other.

Gendered liberation is not your enemy.

Gendered liberation as a goal is there to allow us all to exist freely in the ways that are most comfortable for us all. The goal is to uplift us all, to liberate us all, to give us the ability to have autonomy and agency over our own expressions, lives, and bodies — this inherently includes you and your right to find comfort in your identity and presentation however it may manifest.

Gender abolition is not your enemy.

I know that's a scary sounding one. It used to scare the shit out of me too. Especially right now. Especially when, if you are a USAmerican trans person, our government is directly attacking our right to exist publicly and privately. Especially when TERFs and other radfems have completely bastardized the concept of abolition into a blunt anti-trans weapon.

Gender abolition is not about telling you that you have to stop being a woman or a man — especially if you're a trans lesbian or gay trans man. Gender abolition is also not about reassigning coercively assigned physical sex as the "true" marker of someone's identity.

The goal of gender abolition is the dismantling of the roles and structures we forcibly and coercively assign to gender identity, often with a focus on the impact of imperialism and settler colonialism on those structures (when done within a solidarity oriented framework). Much like other forms of abolition work — like prison abolition — it is a practice meant to dismantle and repair generations of systemic harm and trauma.

I know that that seems lofty, especially if you are white. You may feel especially disconnected from that struggle and simply want to exist in the world you're already familiar with in a way you are already familiar with — but this fight is bigger than just you.

Audre Lorde — notable black, lesbian, feminist scholar — once said "I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own." and in that same spirit, you are not free while any trans person is unfree, even when their shackles are very different from your own.

her name was Marsha P Johnson, and we have her to thank for so much.

remember, the first Pride was a riot, and she was one of the brave souls who endured it to help carve the path which so many of us walk today. she helped found several activist groups regarding LGBT safety and wellbeing. and she was absolutely radiant, too.

And like... you do get that that is kinda insane, right?

Because this is something that so often leads to suffering. And I am saying this as someone disabled, who had so many issues due to this in his childhood.

Just three examples: when I was 7, I was supposed to get checked for autism. My mother did not want an autistic child. Since she just could have a "neurotypical" child by refusing diagnosis, she did just that.

When I was 12, my mother had decided I needed a certain plastic surgery (one that had a minor health benefit, but still was largely a beauty thing). I did not want it. I really, really did not want it. We still went through almost the entire process until thankfully there was a doctor who went: "Wait, this is elective. I am refusing to do this on a child that does not want it."

And when I was 14 my mother refused to get me to the hospital when I had severe food poisoning. She refused me hospital treatment for almost two weeks. By the time I got actually taken to the hospital I was almost dead.

And here is the thing: all of this should just not happen. The doctor when I was 12 was cool, but... he refused to do the surgery because he had the right to make a conscience call. Legally my mother was in the right to force me into that elective surgery. And that just should not be the case.

A lot of children die and suffer due to their legal inability to consent - or refuse consent - to medical treatments. And I wish y'all would understand that.

it effects everything.

being trans is easier when youre white.

being gay is easier when youre white.

being disabled is easier when youre white.

being a woman is easier when youre white.

being autistic is easier when youre white.

oppression is eased when you are white, as you get extra privileges, and your whiteness is seen as a positive characteristic that in some ways counter-balances your other forms of being a minority. whiteness controls everything.

you are automatically way more innocent in your own oppression as a gay, trans, disabled person because of your whiteness.

three things:

1. it’s true

2. white people get pissed when i bring this up/wear this shirt

being human is making things easier for each other, even if we had it harder ourselves.

why wouldn't you do everything you can to make that new trans girls life easier.