Domino the Maned Wolf

omniamorous

a polyamorous term for when you're dating, or want/seek to date, everyone! this excludes people who exclusively state they dont want to date you.

~ TRANSpuppyboy !! 🐶

🐕 ;; an identity for one who identifies as a puppy boy or wants to be a puppy boy !!

apati- (ykw)

an attraction to the idea of cheating on your partner。

I dont support actually cheating on your partner! (💙 wink wonk) this is just a term to describe an experience

emoji code is 🤫

＊coined by Sonico!

transprogrammer

~ TRANSracealter !!

🌈 ;; when one is transrace because of alters in their system being that race in source/headspace/etc

Like oh, nooooo, you don't want the dirty perverts so much as liking or reblogging your posts with zero commentary because they'll contaminate it with their predatory fetishes between fully consenting adults that they're literally not involving you in in any way simply by existing as kinksters and liking/reblogging your posts.

Like "please don't tag as ddlg/abdl" or "please keep comments/tags sfw" I can understand but this is literally just more of the puritan mindset that having a kink means any interaction with sfw content whatsoever is corrupting it somehow. Like sorry, people are still gonna find it sexy. You can't control that lol. People won't interact in any material way with it that is visible to you... and will still get aroused by your content. Possibly even get off to it. What now?

Like I still respect it, ofc. Not just because I follow DNIs when I see them, but because even with my mostly sfw account I don't want to be around anti-kink people at ALL. Like ew, no thanks.

Maybe also though it bothers me because these are the same kinds of people that call ddlg and abdl and stuff equivalent to the horrific trauma I endured as an infant? I truly despise those people (at least the ones that aren't victims themselves, which is most of them by their own admission. The ones who are victims, I have sympathy for at least). But like... this is literally a form of trauma recovery for many victims too, and non-victims are uwu uncomfy so they claim it's the same as what was done to us... despicable behavior.

And while I say I can understand "do not tag as kink"... I also think that's ridiculous? Like I can respect it and disagree with it. Not wanting unsolicited nsfw comments? Sure. Someone finding something kinky that you didn't intend that way, and having to deal with that discomfort? If that bothers you, you better never wear high heels, bare feet, fishnets, crop tops, chokers, have wet hair in public, visibly need to use the restroom or fart or burp in public, or carry plushes, drive a car, etc etc etc ad infinitum. There are kinks for EVERYTHING, including everything that's not innately sexual. Tbh I think people should get. over. it.

But like I said, I still can respect not wanting it tagged as such even if I think that's silly. Maybe you just don't wanna know. That's whatever. It's at least semi-reasonable.

The other thing is "kink, ddlg, ..."

DDLG is kink. Separating it out just makes it entirely clear that you have a problem with "problematic" kinks on some imaginary basis that they do harm to a group of people that is literally completely uninvolved in said kink. Repeat after me: consenting adults participating in kink are not sexual predators.

Anyway, you know, curate your experiences, I'm not saying that saying DNI isn't still valid or that people shouldn't still respect that. It is valid and people should respect that. I'm just also allowed to think doing so in the first place is bullshit, and call people out for the reasoning BEHIND putting it up.

Sure, maybe it's just a personal squick or trigger. Maybe you're actually pro-those-kinks but want nothing to do with them for personal reasons. But in my experience, this comes from the type of people who will range from conflating fully consensual kink with the type of horrible assault that caused me deep and lifelong trauma; to the type of people who will actively harass survivors who cope using these kinks and innocent non-survivor kinksters enjoying it alongside them, alike.

For example, some gay men feel objectified by BL works but some other gay men actually enjoy BL, identify as fudanshi (male fans of BL) and relate to BL characters.

Some women hate "damsel in distress" trope, other women feel validated looking at a fictional woman whose value is not tied to her achievements, who is important and worth risking lives for her regardless of what she can or can't do.

Some abuse survivors believe any fictional depiction of abuse that's not all pain and suffering is romanticising it. Other abuse survivors such as myself experienced pain and suffering mixed with happy moments, genuine romantic feelings and great sex so "romanticised" abuse in fiction is an actual representation of my experience.

L-liflux and Sh-taflux !

[pt : L-liflux and Sh-taflux]

For transage transl-li and transh-ta beings who fluctuate between being a l-li/sh-ta and not being one !

Low spoons so no image ids rn, help appreciated !

Please let me know if these are accidental recoins T T

Made this ' cuz I identify as transl-li and l-liflux !

Every argument against transids is the same shit we've seen used against trans people, systems, ace people, nonbinary people, neopronoun users, the list goes on. We have heard the same kind of arguments used and repackaged over and over again, so much so that I sometimes can't believe we're still here, fighting the same fights, over and over.

But I think its because society isn't really facing the root of bigotry based on identity. These fights come in waves, and continue to go on, with nested little communities here and there that agree with this label, but not that, condone that label, but only in this way, etc, etc. As identities gain visibility, they must pass the ~leftist community peer review, which means years of awful discourse, harassment, and ultimately, maybe, some kind of assimilation into certain communities list of acceptable identities, acceptable ways of being, acceptable opinions.

I don't want that to happen with the transid community. I don't want it to be a process of picking us apart to see which of us deserves to be accepted, and under what terms and conditions. I don't want to wait for the next wave of visibility to hit another community, and watch another battle go down about whether or not they deserve to exist. Whether we deserve to exist.

I don't think it will, but it could. Transid thought so far seems to get at the actual root of identity politics. It doesn't matter how you see yourself, who you think you are, or are supposed to be, what you want to become, who you are in the inside, no matter how unusual, controversial, or different from the body you inhabit, or what people expect you to be. It doesn't matter how important someone might think that identity is, how frivilous, silly, or weird. There's no peer review that needs to happen with transid identities, no handwringing about whether its proper, whether its allowed, whether its moral to identify a certain way. Because harm is material, it does not happen simply due to identifying in a way someone else doesn't like.