she’s gay alex

I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and let you rethink your stance considering I’m not bloodthirsty like the original poster. I just want people like you to learn some humility and leave people who are not actively causing you distress, much less actual harm, to leave us be. I have no interest in causing you harm. I am not the bogeyman you convinced yourself I am. I just want to exist and be with the people who have willingly associated with me.

cant say my experience is exactly like yours (assuming you just told me your experience), but i can say ive been sexually assaulted/raped by every man ive ever been with, and then some, have been targeted by bullies for my sex, physically, emotionally and verbally abused by my father and brother who are vocal woman haters, and have attempted suicide and been hospitalized after being pushed over the age by male abuse, so yeah. thats also why i thought i was trans for a few years because i hated being female and being oppressed and sexualized for it…. just food for thought. i guess yall really dont believe in sex based oppression then huh. you really thought i was gonna tell you ive had a perfect life bc im a privileged rich white “cis” woman lol. no child, i havent been playing victim, ive quite literally been victimized by men for as long as i can remember for being female. how are you not aware of sexism?

anyway i dont think youre a bogeyman, and im not scared of you. i just thibk targeting women who believe in sex based oppression is a very disgusting and bigoted stance held by many of your bedfellows and im always going to criticize it whether you folks like it or not.

im confused why theology got brought up by furrytech, since its completely irrelevant to this specific discussion about terfs. also, furrytech did word her initial comment in a somewhat confusing way. i assume what she meant was “maybe if terfs spent a day in the shoes of a trans woman, they wouldn’t be shitheads to trans people”, not “cis women have never experienced oppresion ever”.

that said, ghoulgirl’s responses aren’t a shining example of proper discourse either. her first paragraph, which is a shining example of theological illiteracy, sets the tone for the rest of the response; riddled with fallacies and poor manners.

nobody on this post, and i doubt anybody at all, has said that rich, able-bodied, neurotypical white cishet women dont experience oppresion on the axis of being a woman, because that’d be fucking stupid. thats like saying a working class white cishet man doesnt experience any oppression on the axis of being working class, or that an autistic white cishet boy has a perfect priviledged life because he’s white and male. your opression isn’t somehow less valid if you only experience one or two axis. furthermore, nobody targets people who know that misogyny towards cis women is real except like, incels and other manosphere types. those are rather silly things to say, and very easy points to dispute and stand against. so if nobody said these things, why is ghoul responding to them.

well, you’ll notice that ghoul put lots of words in furrytech’s mouth, and somehow dragged a mysterious “y’all” into the equation. unless furry’s account is run by two people, that kinda makes this look like ghoulgirl is strawmanning. that’s a terrible way to go about the discourse, and makes you look like you aren’t confident your beliefs will hold up to opposing views in earnest.

there’s another very bad discourse tactic in this post that i see a lot on here, and have been guilty of myself in the past. calling someone you’re arguing with “honey” or “child” is infantilizing them, and makes you look like a stuck up prick. it certainly wont endear your position to the other person. it doesn’t do anything to help you, so it’d be wise to cut that habit out.

now, putting asside ghoul’s bad discourse manners, this whole response is absolutely ridiculous. ghoul made a snarky comment that implied furrytech was less intelligent and furry got emotional. maybe the thought that furry had been dealing with more obnoxious transphobic pricks on tumblr prior to this interaction just didn’t occur to ghoul. maybe furry had been dealing with some big name bullies in the terf tumblr circle, or had just dealt with some white terfs being absurdly racist, or a number of other things that could have made furry more prone to hostility. hell, maybe she just had a bad day! but that didnt matter.

instead of considering what furry had said, that maybe she SHOULD leave people who arent hurting her alone, what does ghoul do?

she tries to one up furry tech’s trauma, and then brings up that she thought she was trans because of it, seemingly for no reason.

now, i cant say i know what ghoul was thinking when she said this, but it seems like she’s implying that her using a label that didnt actually fit is somehow the fault of others who use that label. its the same argument as “i thought i was ace because internalized homophobia, so that means asexuality is inherently homophobic!” and its still just as absurd.

Irish is the native language of Irish people. It’s an ancient language that is on the brink of extinction as a direct result of colonialism and cultural and physical genocide.

Names like Saoirse (freedom), Áine (radiant), Aoife (beautiful) etc are traditional Irish names. They’re spelt “funny” because Irish is a different language from English, and has some sounds that aren’t found in the English language.

suspicious! that’s a great point, anon, because if all of the characters were over 18 there would be no reason to have a fake ID. the only reason you’d need a fake ID if you were over 18 is if you felt like buying alcohol in the US (because here, the legal drinking age is 21).

it wouldn’t even make sense that someone over 18 would still be in high school, unless they flunked. the oldest you could be in high school (given that you didn’t flunk any years) is 18, but that would depend on your birthday. i was only 18 for the last 2 months of my senior year.

His old internet persona was “evaxephon” - feel free to google what he did before he became yanderedev because it is fucked up.

Stolen art/assets/designs present in his game or videos 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13

He will be openly nasty to his fans. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

Lead artist mulberry also treats fans badly, traces art 1 2 3 4

Characters he sells merch of are just bought unity store assets (he has mentioned this himself before, but a lot of fans don’t know, so I’ve put it here). 1 2 3 4

He treats his volunteers badly (this is why most assets are very inconsistent - people need replacing constantly after having enough) 1 2 3 4 5

Spends an unholy amount of time on “damage control” (ie he personally approves the posts and even comments that go up on reddit, youtube, wordpress), which when added up with his streaming hours and effort spent on making rant videos, leaves very little time to be put towards the game. 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Claims his game is 18+ and complains about young fans and young people in general, but hasn’t age restricted his videos and lets kids into his server. 1 2 3 4

Is still openly perverted in his discord server (where there are children as young as 10 present) 1 2

His income comes from donations, merch, youtube, twitch, and patreon - he claims he keeps $3500 montly to himself, which he gets from patreon alone. Yet he isn’t spending any of this leftover money on the game (and has asked for a kickstarter anyway).

(I can understand keeping stuff like twitch and youtube revenue, even if donating fans may mistakenly think it’s going towards game development. But game donations? Also, he has mentioned here where some (but not all) of the game’s patreon money has gone, and claims to be saving a large amount. If this is the case, can’t he prove it with a bank screenshot? And why the kickstarter?)

UPDATE - a new issue regarding his patreon!

He’s manually kept his old r*pe fanfictions up, and is proud of them. 1 2

What he cares about is himself, his money and his reputation - more than he does about the game 1 2 3

(”eva” means yanderedev, referring to his old name “evaxephon”)

He doesn’t actually understand a lot about coding, most likely due to refusing to learn new things - explanation from a programmer

Refers to facts people are using to call him out “propaganda”; then comparing fans who don’t listen to these facts to superman whilst slandering those who do; as if that isn’t a form of propaganda in itself, a manipulative tactic.

Portraying all the “hate” stemming from the lack of Osana, his past, and the slow development, when the issue is much more complex and involves many things he as done wrong - more manipulation.

Repeatedly says “I feel bad” and talking about how the controversy is affecting him emotionally; rather than actually addressing any of the issues that are sparking the controversy; or displaying concern, interest or understanding for how other people might feel; and turning situations around so they are about him - which is another manipulative trait. 1 2 3 4

(Of course he would feel bad after it all, that’s totally ok and understandable. What isn’t ok is using that as an excuse for your actions, and then keep acting that way.)

His reason for adding the option for a female senpai is actually to cater to the straight male lesbian-fetishizing audience

Although people are able to grow and change and this may not be very relevant now, he’s been a lot less discrete about his nastiness and grossness in the past - something to consider. 1 2 3 4

(Warning: the third link is very biased - but it is a good compilation of screenshots and evidence. Please try to form your own view!)

An important issue with the game itself regarding how it’ll likely never get done (although personally I do enjoy the game itself - but don’t want to support yandev)

More general evidence/points to consider 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12

Please do your best to look at this objectively to form your own opinion! The main purpose of this post is to help inform fans of yanderedev about this, as it seems most if not all of them have no idea. Once you’re informed, please do whatever you like - as long as you don’t go around being a troll! It is important not to affirm yanderedev’s notion that those who are criticising him are all just stupid haters.

there was a dude who made rape porn of some of the underage characters and deadass had a zine he called “victim girls”

In the few months I’ve been modding at fuckyeahasexual and touring ace Tumblr, there’s been a very. Steady. Stream of info that detail horrifically abusive situations and overall poor mental unhealth. Two a week in the inbox if I’m lucky, usually around seven-ten.

And there’s been so many, I can officially categorize all 500+ of these kinds of asks and submissions into an extensive bulletlist of Why Asexual Exclusionary Radicalism Is Incredibly Toxic And Shitty;

Coming Out To Family, Friends, And Employers

“My parents keep telling me that I’m something else, and it’s making me doubt my sense of judgement, not just about my sexual identity, but also about everything in general.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers keep referring to me as an inanimate object in a manner that’s clearly meant to humiliate and devastate me. Nothing I say will get them to stop.”

“My parents vocally/bodily forced me to undergo medical examinations, some of them concerning my sexual organs, many of them concerning blood tests and other trauma-centric procedures.”

“My family is intervening with my private life by changing my schedule to include exercise, socialization, friend influences, and whatever they think can ‘change’ me.”

“My friends/co-workers no longer respect my bodily boundaries when I came out to them, because they no longer see me as someone who should be respected. They regularly touch, fondle, grope, and prod me without permission, and/or verbally harass me, and don’t take my objections seriously.”

“My family, friends, and co-workers no longer just harass me, but also anyone I’m currently dating because they view my significant other as pathetic, underserved, or even being abused.”

First Few Days Of Dating

“My date got irrationally angry and confrontational when I came out to them, in a manner that made me fearful.” (SO many of these.)

“My date immediately lost any respect they had for my boundaries, no longer asked for consent, and {tried to} force themselves upon me.” (A lot of these, too)

“My date tried to verbally circumvent any boundaries and issues I confessed to, and it made me feel like I was in danger.”

“I didn’t come out to my date at first, and when they found out, they radically changed their behavior in an attempt to control and manipulate our new relationship to their benefit.”

Long-Term Relationships

“My partner has forcefully and radically changed our long-term relationship after finding out about my asexuality, and I’m now trapped and controlled in a way that I wasn’t before.”

“My partner broke up with me/is fighting with me because of my asexuality, and trying to make it seem like I’m hurting them. It’s made me doubt myself and my ability to trust my own intentions.”

“My partner is slowly changing from what was once supportive of my asexuality, and I’m wondering when I have the right to be worried and when I’d be overreacting. I’m aware of the worst case scenario, but I also worry that I’m being selfish and childish - which are things I’ve been told all throughout my asexual experience.”

Self-Care And Self Development

“I don’t trust my ability to say either yes or no in sexual situations, and this has extended to my life in general. I don’t feel comfortable in my ability to self-determinate.”

“The lack of authority, definition, and schooling of the concept of asexuality has made me very uncomfortable with what I think I am, and that uncertainty haunts me every waking moment.”

“I think it’s too late/too early to tell if I’m asexual, but the longer I hesitate, the worse my mental health and emotional wellbeing gets. I’m effectively stuck.”

“I see no benefit in coming out, or even identifying as asexual. There’s no positivity, role models, or supportive community for what I consider a big and scary part of my overall identity.”

“I think this was sexual abuse, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I think I was treated badly by my parents/friends/partner, but I’m wondering if I’m just being selfish and childish.”

“I want to believe that I’m deserving of equal freedom and human respect paid to other, not asexual people, but people tell me I’m being selfish and childish.”

“No one encourages this part of me. And that makes me feel forgotten and abandoned in general.”

Shut the fuck up about your petty beef with tumblr bloggers and youtubers and Archie comics or whatever. I literally do not care, I can’t care. I see these messages every goddamn day - this post was written and drafted a month ago, and I very easily compiled most of this bulletpoint list from scratch, just by eyeing what I see in the askbox and what comes across my dash. 

‘Ace discourse’ anger is empty and so meaningless. This is what I see by being part of this one 17k follow asexual ask blog for maybe half a year. I am so Done with all the faux rage posts and all the false positivity about how it’s ok to NOT be ace and all the acephobia that falls perfectly in line with the gaslighting typical of acephobia-101 while also having the audacity to claim it not so.

Hey, instead of being a giant piles of garbage, try reading up:

“Aces don’t face oppression”

Intergroup bias toward “Group X”: Evidence of prejudice, dehumanization, avoidance, and discrimination against asexuals

Prejudice against the asexual community

Battling Asexual Discrimination, Sexual Violence And ‘Corrective’ Rape

Somewhere on the A-Spectrum: Agender, aromantic and asexual people face misconceptions, aggression

Asexuality and Rape

Asexual Men and Rape

Men, masculinity, asexuality, and rape

Religion and Asexuality Overview

Religious intolerance of asexuality: x,x, x, x, x, x

Asexuality and race/racism: x, x, x, x,x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x

Do you want to?

Asexual oppression and all that

Asexuality and Victim Blaming

Why We Need Mental Healthcare Without Asexual Erasure

AAU Campus Climate Survey on Sexual Assault and Sexual Misconduct shows that “Asexual/Questioning/Not Listed” report a higher rate of sexual assault/harassment/violence than heterosexuals, regardless of gender

Asexuality was listed in the DSM as HSDD (Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder) until 2013, making it officially a mental illness that would be treated with therapy and medication. It is still in the DSM, except that you can ‘opt out’ if you self-identify as asexual, which is great except that asexuality is still so unknown that there undoubtedly many people who are asexual but don’t know that it’s “a thing”. This means that who knows how many asexuals have been sent to therapy and told they’re sick, then been “treated” for their orientation to try and force them to experience sexuality “correctly”.

In short, our orientation has been and continues to be pathologized, and asexuals have been put through corrective therapy: x,x, x, x, x

Acephobia Exists

Why Aro/Ace awareness is important to me

This is an example of acephobia.

Sure, it could’ve happened to anyone. But it happened to an asexual BECAUSE OF THEIR ASEXUALITY.

no one gets to tell me that my objectification is magically ‘less potent’ because it’s due to my asexuality.

“I WANT to make the community unsafe for you”

It’s All A Fucking Joke, Right

Posts of people describing the hardship they’ve faced for their asexuality:x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x, x

The blog @acephobia-is-real has so many submissions and examples of hatred, harassment, hostility, and abuse, of aces who have been raped and/or sexually assaulted in an attempt to ‘fix’ them, and made suicidal due to aphobia and/or their own perceived brokenness, that it would be pointless for me to try and link any. Just go and start reading. Try their suicide tag.

There may be dissatisfyingly little research done on asexuality, but there has been enough done to prove that they do face discrimination, no matter how hard some may find that to believe. But guess what? You, an allosexual person, do not get to say shit like “aces don’t get kicked out” or “aces don’t _____” any more than I as a white person get to say that things I don’t experience must not happen to black people either. Just because you haven’t experienced it personally or witnessed it with your own eyes doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. You haven’t walked in an ace’s shoes, you don’t know what they deal with. Period.

Not even other aces can tell asexuals that their experiences aren’t real or aren’t valid. Different people can deal with different amounts of oppression, that doesn’t mean the lack of oppression is the default “truth”.

Nobody is trying to say that asexuals have it “as bad” or worse than gay or trans people, but we don’t HAVE to “have it worse” to beincluded and for our experiences to have merit without being compared to anyone else’s. Let me say that again: our experiences have merit without being compared to anyone else’s.

“We just want to protect our safe spaces”

Aphobes have:

Repeatedly misgendered and mislabeled people

Informed rape victims that their assaults didn’t happen the way they happened (which is a form of gaslighting)

Made light of their own rape apology

Compared asexuals to pedophiles

Compared asexuals to Nazis

Harassed people who wanted to be left alone

Made jokes about asexuals committing suicide

Told suicidal asexuals to “stop whining”

Admitted to recycling biphobia

Created a ‘yourfaveisaphobic’ blog

Admitted to hating the ace/aro community

Asserted that asexuality should not be taught in schools (because it “sexualizes minors” or because gay/bi/pan minors will ‘mistakenly’ identify as asexual)

Told asexuals to die: x, x, x, x, x (tbh this is only a tiny sample and I don’t have the heart to go digging for more)

Are all aphobes this vile? Maybe not, but this is still the disgusting, hateful attitude festering in the gatekeeping community, and it stinks like shit. The examples I have provided above are only a fraction of the harassment and abuse that is perpetrated on a regular basis.

“Het aces/aroaces are straight”

Some het aces identify as straight. Some het aces don’t identify as straight, they identify as asexual, and it’s not your place to label them against their will. There is no world in which aroaces, people who experience no attraction to anyone, are straight.

“Straight” isn’t a sexual orientation, it’s a position of power.

A-Spec Identities are Not Secondary.

Invisibility is Not a Privilege.

“passing privilege” is not a real thing.

Straight-passing privilege: a myth

Bad arguments against allowing a-spec to identify as queer

Having your identity erased is not a privilege.

asexuality, like bisexuality, is deliberately misunderstood by out groups in order to exclude us.

ace/aro people don’t “only” experience attraction to the ‘opposite gender’ or any other. that’s the point. we also experience a lack of attraction, either romantically or sexually, and that lack of attraction is part of our identity.

Straight is not default.

How many straight people do you know that want to kill themselves because of their orientation?

The closet is not a privilege

“We accept SGA (same-gender attracted) and trans aces”

Firstly, SGA (same-gender attraction) is a term that was used and is still used in Mormon conversion therapy, so as one can understand,a lot of people are very uncomfortable being labeled with this description. Secondly, it enforces a gender binary of “same” and “opposite” gender that leaves a large number of nonbinary people out in the cold. Is a genderfluid person only “same-gender attracted” if they’re attracted to other genderfluid people who are genderfluid in exactly the same way? How about agender, intergender, demigirl/boy people? And before the argument “well they’re included as trans” is made, there are plenty of nonbinary people who do not identify as trans. I’m one of them.

The standard of “SGA and trans” as requirement for entry to the LGBTQ community is used nowhere outside of aphobic tumblr, and it seems crafted specifically for the purpose of excluding aces, aros, NBs, intersex people, and others not deemed “gay enough”.

(SGA did NOT come from ‘SGL’, same-gender loving. That is a term created by black queer people and not to be appropriated by white people.)

Discussion of the history of the word ‘queer’ and why it’s better than ‘SGA’: x, x, x, x, x

There are also many “SGA and trans” aces who are against the gatekeeping and feel that they are hated by these aphobes.

You’re not protecting me by being an ace/aro exclusionist.

What we hear when you say “I only support SGA Asexuals/Aromantics”

my favourite thing is when aphobes try to tell me that their aphobia doesn’t apply to me / affect me because “[i’m] queer for other reasons”

okay, you wanna know why I’m for including all aces in the LGBT+ community?

Why your acephobia and arophobia is really just bullshit

it really annoys me when I see Discoursers say they support LGBT+ aces, just not cishet ones.

when you say “i accept sga and trans aces and aros but not cishet aces/aros because they’re straight”

Suffering! Suffering?

when people ‘accept’ sga/mga/non-cis aces and aros, but not others, what it actually means is they accept the part of you that isn’t directly tied to your asexuality/aromanticism

if ur gonna fuckin claim those four letters cover them & the whole damn community, they sure as fuck can cover aces as well

“Ace discourse” is really a Tumblr-only thing

I’m a lesbian ace and I’ve never felt more worthless and disgusting than this ace discourse

The reason even trans and bi/gay/pan/etc asexuals get defensive when you talk about cishet aces/aros not being part of the LGBT+ community is because you’re erasing a part of our identity??

If you talk shit about aces/aros with the disclaimer “cishet” it still affects all aces. Saying “notably cishet aces should all go die” still makes all ace/aro people feel like they are being called out.

Your “discourse” is harmful to all asexuals. And PS, your rhetoric is literally indistinguishable from TWERF rhetoric.

“The LGBT community has always been about fighting homophobia and transphobia/we came together to fight homophobia and transphobia”

“Homophobia and Transphobia”: What does the LGBT+ community fight for?

The modern American movement was first known as the “gay community” when cis gay men refused to even accept lesbians, then the “gay and lesbian community”. (Good reading on the subject.)

“After the elation of change following group action in the Stonewall riots in New York, in the late 1970s and the early 1980s, some gays and lesbians became less accepting of bisexual or transgender people. Critics said that transgender people were acting out stereotypes and bisexuals were simply gay men or lesbian women who were afraid to come out and be honest about their identity. Each community has struggled to develop its own identity including whether, and how, to align with other gender and sexuality-based communities, at times excluding other subgroups; these conflicts continue to this day.” (source)

“From about 1988, activists began to use the initialism LGBT in the United States. Not until the 1990s within the movement did gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people gain equal respect.” (ibid)

These are scans of a gay magazine from 1999 showing that 48% of those surveyed did not believe that trans people should be a part of the gay community.

The community’s boundaries have always been in flux

Insisting that LG people have always been accepting of bi and trans people is incredibly revisionist and does a great deal of injustice to those who have been excluded.

Despite the fact that bisexual and transgender people have always been around, and have done great things for the community, they have faced a great deal of lateral oppression from the LG part of the group that did not want to see them get an equal share of attention, support, or legitimacy. This post is not about proving LG transphobia and biphobia, but it’s so rampant that I don’t feel like I need to provide sources whatsoever. Nevertheless, here’s a collection of biphobia, and the blog@terf-calloutdocuments some of the violent transphobia on this site, particularly in the lesbian community. This post is an example.

“The A stands for Ally so that closeted people can be the community without being outed”

No one is saying that we don’t care about closeted people, but a) even if you’re a closeted L, G, B, or T, you are still a L, G, B, or T. Allies do not need to be part of the acronym to be intrinsically welcomed. As someone said, this is like saying the ‘B’ in BLT stands for ‘bread’. We can pretty much safely assume that a sandwich is going to include bread, we don’t have to go of our way to give it a letter. Either you are outing every “ally” as a closeted queer person, or you are giving 100% cis straight people an LGBTQ member card, the very thing you are arguing against by trying to exclude asexuals.

Furthermore, this puts forth the argument “I’m willing to let cishet straight people into the community for the sake of a few closeted people” while at the same time stating “I’m not willing to let the A stand for asexuals because I don’t think letting cis heteroromantic asexuals into the community is worth giving all asexuals representation and support”. Which says that you consider asexuals less valuable and more of a threat than cis straight people.

Bonus: The History of LGBT(QQIAAP+)

“Aces have never been a part of the LGBTQ/queer community”

Asexuals recorded as “Group X” in the 1948 Kinsey Reports

What is asexual history? The 19th and 20th century

From The Westminster Review, a political magazine, in 1907; an essay by Helen Fraser called Women’s Suffrage, on how if women got the vote, butch and ace women were gonna dominate the whole thing and screw it up for all the Real Ladies.

The Spinster Movement, and how they were treated as queer

From “Feminism,” by Correa Moylan Walsh, 1917

the “aces/aros were part of the bi community until they very recently chose to split off, so stop telling them that they have never been queer or that they don’t belong in ‘the LGBT community’” masterpost

asexuality existed before David Jay and AVEN

“Where were you when…?” A History of Asexual Inclusion (Part One)

“Where were you when…?” A History of Asexual Inclusion (Part Two)

“Stop tokenizing bi and trans people/stop comparing bi/trans and ace experiences”

We’re not the ones doing it. They are comparing them, themselves.

Bisexual person discussing the similarities of anti-bi and anti-ace arguments

Pansexual person discussing the similarities in treatment (Follow up post)

Bisexual person recalling ace inclusion and discussing the similarities

Bisexual person discussing “SGA discourse”

Panromantic genderfluid person discussing lateral aggression

This Blog Explicitly Welcomes All Ace/Aro Folks As Part Of LGBTQIA

Bisexual trans person discussing the nature of asexuality

Trans lesbian discusses the identical nature of TWERF and aphobe rethoric

Pansexual person tells you to Cut It Out

Bisexual person discussing how the unifying common point of the community is deviation from the cisheteronormative norm

Bisexual genderqueer person says that the bi community and the a-spec community have a deep history together and have always been allies

Bisexual trans person discusses how we can relate to each other

Trans lesbian TAKES. YOU. DOWN.

Bisexual person arguing that all asexuals are queer

“I have proof of an asexual being homophobic/transphobic/racist/a terrible person”

Of course there are asexuals who are terrible people. There are legions of gays and lesbians who are racist and transphobic. Does that make them not gay/lesbian? Does their bigotry invalidate their sexual orientation, or remove the L and G from the acronym? No, I don’t think so. Some asexuals being bad people doesn’t justify you trying to invalidate all of us.

“’Allosexual’ is a bad word because ____”

I actually have an ‘allosexual’ tag just for posts about why ‘allosexual’ is a perfectly fine word: x, x, x, x, x. x

“The split-attraction model is homophobic”

What we call the split-attraction model was first described by Karl Heinrich Ulrichs, a gay advocate from the 1800s, as “disjunctive uranodioning”. (source) (credit to this post)

“The term ‘corrective rape’ was coined by South African lesbians and should only be used by lesbians”

No one means any disrespect to lesbians or other victims of corrective rape, but this is not a correct statement.

“We’ll Show You You’re a Woman” describes the violence directed towards LGBT people in South Africa, stating, “Negative public attitudes towards homosexuality go hand in hand with a broader pattern of discrimination, violence, hatred, and extreme prejudice against people known or assumed to be lesbian, gay, and transgender, or those who violate gender and sexual norms in appearance or conduct (such as women playing soccer, dressing in a masculine manner, and refusing to date men).” It goes on to say, “Much of the recent media coverage of violence against lesbians and transgender men has been characterized by a focus on “corrective rape,” a phenomenon in which men rape people they presume or know to be lesbians in order to “convert” them to heterosexuality.”

The Wikipedia article on corrective rape in South Africa states that, “A study conducted by OUT LGBT Well-being and the University of South Africa Centre for Applied Psychology (UCAP) showed that “the percentage of black gay men who said they have experienced corrective rape matched that of the black lesbians who partook in the study”.”

It is not only lesbians, but also bisexual women, transgender men, gay men, and gender non-conforming people in South Africa who experience corrective rape. This is not in any way meant to minimize the horror of the epidemic or shift attention away from lesbians, but other victims, including asexuals, deserve attention as well. Do not silence or speak over victims of rape by policing their language.

“Aces are valid, they’re just not queer/LGBTQ”

You cannot in one breath say “Asexuals are valid” and in the next deny their experiences. Spend five minutes in the community and you will see testimony after testimony from aces describing their abuse, their sexual assault(s), the countless times people have called them confused, broken, wrong, mentally ill, inhuman, sinful, and how these experiences have left them feeling hopeless, alone, alienated, subhuman, depressed, and suicidal. Almost every asexual out there will tell you a story of how their orientation has caused them pain and struggle, and you can’t call them valid while at the same time calling these experiences invalid and nonexistent.

Bonus: This is a list of all the mainstream LGBTQ groups that include asexuals.

“Form your own community!”

a) We do have our own community, because every letter in the acronym has its own communityand yet is still part of the acronym, b) you fucking shits won’t stop sending us hate and bombarding us with shit meant to trigger and harass us.

“Aces take resources from other LGBTQ who need them”

I’ve seen some pretty wild claims about this one, insisting that asexuals “steal” things such as scholarships, beds at homeless shelters, food and space at pride events, suicide hotlines, and so on, yet I have never seen any actual proof that any “stealing” has ever taken place. For one thing, I thought “you’ll never get kicked out or fired for being ace”, “no one is suicidal because they’re asexual”, so why would you think aces need these resources? Either we don’t need them or we don’t use them, you can’t have it both ways.

For another, how heartless do you have to be to tell asexuals that they can’t use suicide hotlines? Do you realize that you’re saying that asexuals should be denied life-saving services? That, in essence, asexuals are suicidal due to their orientation, but you think they’re not “queer enough” so they deserve to die? Because that is the logical progression of refusing someone suicide prevention, and that’s the message aces receive when you tell them they are “stealing” suicide prevention.

LGBTQ resources offer them to asexuals, andbenefit from us using them.

Lastly, do you not realize we are alsoPROVIDING resources? We are bringing bodies and minds to the community, we are here to be voices, to volunteer, to bring encouragement, information, and support. We earn our keep. You just have to admit that you don’t WANT us here.

Corrective rape against asexuals is a real thing

Asexuals do face discrimination in the workplace

We had to lobby for our sexuality not to be diagnosed as a mental illness

Asexual people are often afraid to come out to their friends and families, and for good reason

People will literally think of someone as being less human if they are asexual

These issues have the potential to affect ALL asexuals

Nasty shit aphobes do

(Thanks to @livebloggingmydescentintomadness for these)

My own contribution:

Living in a world where the media is overflowing with sexual imagery and where society constantly puts value on sexual intercourse, virginity, and related topics - who can forget the phrase ‘sex sells’? - men and women who do not experience sexual attraction (the definition of asexuality) and who are sex-repulsed or masturbation-repulsed (as many asexuals, myself included, are) feel alienated and ‘broken’. We also face erasure in terms of representation, being either grossly underrepresented or represented as cold, harsh, and ‘synonymous with celibate’ people. Let’s not forget erasure from LGBT spaces - I have many times been told that asexuals do not belong in the acronym or in “our spaces”, even though asexuals have the capacity to be homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, etc, as well as transgender or nonbinary. And, if we don’t belong in LGBT spaces, and we clearly aren’t heterosexual, what do we belong? Nowhere, it seems. Of course, the argument also drifts to “asexuals don’t experience oppression”, which is false.

Examples of asexual oppression:

http://autumndiesirae.tumblr.com/post/118710018295/aces-dont-face-discrimination

Asexuals are the highest targets for corrective rape:http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/06/20/asexual-discrimination_n_3380551.html

There’s something fundamentally wrong with the public school system that can’t be fixed by throwing more money at it, though it would definitely work better at what it thinks it’s trying to do if it had more money.

Plus I just posted something about how its really gross that people think the budget is the one solution that’ll fix everything because they wanna pay teachers more but how dare we give money to kids.

It’s not like were pro teacher here. I’m pretty sure I’m anti teacher. I dont even know if teachers are totally necessary. If they just point to a book and tell you to read it and scream at you if you dont, I’m pretty sure we would be better off without them. The vast majority of the budget should go to students, school buildings, supplies, and lunches.

Pink Diamond: lived in isolation for years as the other Diamonds treated her like a dumb kid and other gems treated her like a goddess, meaning she was completely fucking alone for years.

Pink Diamond: was LITERALLY STARVED OF LIGHT, SOMETHING REBECCA SUGAR STATED CAN SERIOUSLY HURT GEMS, for minor inconviniences to the other diamonds

Pink Diamond: FINALLY gets a friend in the form of Pink Pearl, who she tries to treat as an equal, and because of this, Pink Pearl is BRAINWASHED and turned into White’s Puppet. In other words, she learns that getting too close to other gems will get them a fate worse than death

Pink Diamond: realizes that the other diamonds are not only abusing her, they are comitting actual genocide and wiping out entire ecosystems, so she attempts to stop them from doing that. when reason fails, she effectively kills herself and starts a new life as someone who can actually have some semblance of freedom.

Pink Diamond: spends the rest of her time on earth trying to heal corrupted gems, likely suffering from severe ptsd in silence until her death.

RM imitating black people

RM saying the n-word

RM in dreads

this fucking mess on suga

mouthing/saying the n word

not specifically related to this post but still mention-able:

holocaust photoshoot (the photoshoot mentioned) (tw: antisemitism)

her nonprofit the imagination library sends out monthly books, completely free of charge, to any child that wants it. anyone who knows anything about reading education will tell you that simply putting books into children’s homes is the best way to promote literacy. they even have braille and audio options!

She's supported charities benefiting Appalachia and shut down racism and misogyny for decades. She's incredibly brave.