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Movie etiquette is dead.

I thought it was only my personal experience but I've seen many having the same issue I did at the theater when I went to watch a certain movie and I have to speak up because this genuinely breaks my heart.

Imagine paying for a movie ticket. A movie that would have likely never been appearing to the cinema if not for the support of so many people in the independent industry. An occasion of a life time. A pathway to make this happen more often and support small groups that aren't supported by the money hungry hollywood. I was expecting excitement, but not at the level it went. Before the movie started everyone was loud and I get it, they're excited, they're happy to see one of their favorite content on screen. Some of them are screaming their lungs out but you put up with it, it's fine. Then the movie starts. The text about being silent and turning your phone off pop up. And then something happen. Everyone kids/teenagers in the audience starts BOOING and they keep talking. Then there's a song, and Everyone in the audience sings along which would have been a sweet moment if not for the countless phones flashlight turned on waving around and burning your retinas like it's some sort of concert. Some annoyed shouts for everyone to shut up. People leave the room to get their ticket refunded. An employee comes in and screams that if people don't shut up they'll just cancel the screening all together like scolding some kids who cannot behave. And that's precisely what it was. Children who cannot behave. Where is the respect gone to ? This is a public place. This is a place were you come in to WATCH movies. To enjoy a quiet moment with only you and the screen. I am disappointed. I am angry. I am mortified. Has our world been spoiled by convinience ? I do think so. I feel sorry. Sorry that such a beautiful movie who's shaken me to my core, has been spoiled in more ways then another. I feel sorry that a creator who spent years of their lives making something so special be slendered by such a bunch of ungrateful brats.

Portrait of a Sunflower

Paint the reality you want to see. Paint the dead flowers back to life.

@redrobin-detective it is in fact a really great subversion of the “teenage protagonist successfully has the Adult Institution scrambling and fumbling, due to his cunning teenage wiles.” Ed DOES fancy himself cunning, but he’s literally only getting away with this because Bradley Is Letting Him. For the first several seasons they’re just letting him.

like if you are marginalized it is in your own self-interest to interrogate and deconstruct the cultural narratives that position you as subnormal. this is what starts a lot of queer people on wanting to reform the world into something more compassionate and egalitarian.

Misogyny is not just prejudice experienced by a woman. It is not simply something that happens TO a woman. It has nothing to do with the woman. It’s about the misogynist.

Bigotry is not determined or defined by the target of that bigotry. The bigotry is stored in the bigot.

Misogynists will be misogynistic towards any person they associate with femininity, including cisgender men.

When a misogynist cis man tears another man down for liking something he thinks is girly, he is still being misogynistic.

A cis male coach telling his cis male student he runs like a girl is being misogynistic.

A cis woman punishing her son for wanting a “girl” toy or policing her boyfriend’s hygiene habits and interests for anything she considers emasculating, is being misogynistic!

When a woman gets in a car accident and is injured more severely because the safety testing on that car was only done using crash test dummies and models based on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the medication she takes for her injuries doesn’t work right or has unexpected side effects because it was only tested on men, she’s experiencing misogyny.

When the tools she uses at work that are the wrong shape for her hands, and the jumpsuit that’s part of her uniform which she has to take off completely to use the bathroom, and all the spaces she moves through and everything within them are designed with the assumption that an average male body is the only body that matters— she is experiencing misogyny.

Misogyny is the belief that women are inherently inferior, and the systems and institutions built around that belief. It can be experienced by anyone, and anyone is capable of having misogynistic beliefs and doing misogynistic things.

Bigotry is not about the target. It’s about the bigot, and what the bigot believes, and the way those bigoted beliefs have shaped our world.

I don’t care what race gender or sexuality you are, you were raised with racist, sexist, homophobic beliefs. Because it’s literally impossible not to be.

I dont think I have ever let it affect my care. I hope I never have, and its my responsibility to keep interrogating my judgements and decisions towards my patients to make sure I never do.

Let’s play the biggest game of kick the can on the internet.

But you are responsible for your own safe spaces. You can block tags, block words, block people.

“But i thought fandom was supposed to be a safe space” —yeah you have to curate it.

Unfortunately one persons’s safe space may be another persons’ trigger. That’s ok. Simply block them, block the tag, block the word etc. They can do the same for you.

I don’t know who said it first, but “I need to be able to express my anger without shame” and “I need to be away from yelling and loud noises” are both valid needs people can have for a safe space that really aren’t compatible with each other.

So are “I need to process my trauma” and “I need to not meet any trauma.”

Or “I want a safe space to tell/read the stories that speak to me” and “those stories are distressing to me.”

Insisting that your needs are the only needs anyone should have is not a safe space, it’s its own act of violence.