Bystander apathy is a myth invented by the New York Times to cover up that the police were called by several residents of the building, but the cops refused to act. The cops then told the Times that 38 people just watched her die (a seemingly arbitrary number and a physical impossibility based on where the attacks occurred), and the Times ran with it. In fact, Kitty was alive when the cops got there, and was being held and comforted by one of her friends who lived in the building because one of the people who saw her get attacked from across the street called her friend to go get her. Because people care.

So when people write all those apologist articles about call-out culture and other instruments of violence in feminism, I don’t think they understand that the people who most deserve those things can usually shrug off the effects, and the normalization of that violence inevitably trickles down and affects the weak. It is predictable as water. Criminal justice applies punishment under the conceit of blind justice, but we see the results: Prisons are flooded with the most vulnerable, and the rich can buy their way out of any problem. In activist communities, these processes follow a similar pragmatism. Punishment is not something that happens to bad people. It happens to those who cannot stop it from happening. It is laundered pain, not a balancing of scales.

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"Male socialization" and "female socialization" as concepts are simply not real. Whatever anecdotes you can come up with to justify them can be easily dispelled with an ounce of critical thinking. For every "Man" who had a high paying tech job and heterosexual wife before transitioning, there are a dozen "boys" who spent their childhoods getting yelled at, beat down and spit on for not performing "manhood" correctly. Sometimes they're the same person. Sometimes those "boys" don't survive long enough to become women.