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Remember some songs how they take you back and you actually relive that moment. Nostalgia hits. Every song that takes you back to a memory is the exact depiction of your situation back then.

How do you bring your mind to rest ? Why some thoughts keep nagging in your head ? How to end this viscous cycle? How to be at peace with yourself and with others ? I am sure, somewhere out there, who suddenly comes across this post, might feel it. You do not want to think of a person or a situation but you are unable to come out of it. You want to resonate with that person but then this seems to be the most tiring job. You keep on throwing certain hints, talking in third person but the person is unable to get or might be, just giving a cold shoulder to you. Maybe its me, who has to bring certain changes, being less critical of others, unnecessary trust issues but what’s wrong in setting boundaries then. Okay! If I open up then the other person will also get a way to be more comfortable with me, but I am not trusting.Why its so hard to do something for yourself, or take a decision for yourself? Why you should understand and other is just hurt and feeling bad? Why other cannot think that everyone has a life to live and own decisions to take. That’s all on my mind!

‘I was not able to do this because of him or her, She/He dos not allow me to take a chance.’  I do hear people saying so but I strongly oppose this. No one can stop you or force you to venture into a task or opportunity. It is all your insecurities and inferiority complex which shuts you or holds you back. I back in my school days was unable to raise questions, make the first move for any opportunity because I was afraid to move forward. It was my mind that gave rise to self doubts, insecurities and inferior thoughts. What I learnt from my childhood days was, you cannot just wait and think to make the first move and if your friend is confident and courageous enough to stand for himself/herself , then you cannot blame them. At the end its you and you only. In a group there will be people who will be already so confident, who will be timid and shy, who will be good in any specific thing..we can support each other, motivate each other but at the end the efforts are required.

I do not know why i am feeling like writing so much today, maybe i had a productive weekend or is it hormonal fluctuations overpowering my emotions and mood...OKAY! What so ever! I got a pet last Saturday. My Dad was driving past an area in Punjab called BANUR and this little fellow was running along our car. All of a sudden my Dad who love dogs but from a distance, said do you want to pet him? I was a bit surprised and elated at the same time. I said,”YES”. We gave him a boiled egg to eat and put him in the car. Its just third day and i am so empathetic for him. I do not mind waking up at 6:30 in the morning to take him for a walk, cleaning his pee and poop. I am at my office right now and i am thinking what he might be doing, he might be crying and sad and missing me. This is unconditional love where we give our 100% to a creature without expecting anything in return. If there are expectations and greed, then it was always out of motive. I do not know why humans cannot love other humans with this selfless motive and why it is always with an animal. Why our thought process changes from person to person. My words may sound conflicting and they will be because everyone have their own opinions , maybe after sometime my own opinions change and we cannot stick to just one opinion because they change based on circumstances , situations and surroundings.

As we grow we see a sudden change in our nature, in our personalities, in our taste , in our choices and this change comes all of a sudden. What i remember is back in my primary school days , even till my high school i used to hate turtle necks because i felt suffocated and itchy. Few months back all of a sudden i started wearing a yellow turtle neck sweater, which was gifted to me by my grandma 6-7 years back. Earlier in school i used to enjoy big friend circles and i used to be on my toes for them . I even have big friend circle now also but i have understood you can have many friends in general and a few good friends or just two or one. Stepping into college i experienced freedom and that gave me wings to think and i had a strong urge of going to far of places and abroad, this was six years back but suddenly i have experienced a shift in my thought process...I now think, excel in your life but there is a family behind . Rise, at the same time stay connected to your roots. Thousand thoughts emerge in our mind , thousand die, thousands get modified, thousands get changed...maybe this is sense and sensibility.

Today, going to my job , i booked a cab and i do not know if it is surprising for people who would read it but it is surprising for me. My Cab driver was a lady and i haven’t seen it before. i was overwhelmed by the fact that this is such a great incidence of women empowerment. we do not need to indulge ourselves in violence and abuse to make our mark or to make people recognize us. Its just willingness to step into the world where people do not see you as a potential candidate. Actions speak louder than words.

Master the skills of when to say sorry and when not to.

Eradicating the generation gaps #love #motivation