Bilbo in love (is a Concerned Husband)
You know, I must admit I donāt have as much depth to add about Bilbo as I did Thorin. I read up a lot on Thorin because he fascinates me, and I have a lot of Richardās personality and interviews to go off of for filling in the blanks. Iāve not read up nearly as much on Martin Freemanās take.Ā
However, I would offer: Ā Bilbo is meant to be a 20th c. repressed English (specifically: Oxford) gentleman. Heās modeled after Tolkien himself to some extent, as someone who dreamed of dragons finally getting the chance to face one with his own unique skills.Ā
As to Bilboās repression: heās not stoic or brooding. Heās grouchy. Heās vocal about when the dwarves are irritating him, eventually, and heās not shy when it comes to complaining about problems. But itās always quite mild. Even when heās angry at the dwarves he never really explodes, he never gives them a straightforward order toĀ leave, which I think the dwarves would have understood. Everything in Hobbiton is about appearances and respectability. One can make pleasant conversation or small-talk, or exhibit outrage, but showing the depths of emotions not so much.Ā
So what does Bilbo in love look like? Bilbo in love is Concerned.Ā
(All credit to thorinshielding for the gifs, an excerpt from this post about Bilbo looking at Thorin when Thorin isnāt looking)Ā
Which is funny, because I honestly believe Bilbo fell in love firstĀ
(And only left Erebor because he could not stay with Thorin no longer there)
Bilbo in my mind is unaware of how in love he is. I think in part because, as Martin Freeman said, Thorin is a bit mysterious to him. Heās a legend, heās not part of Bilboās world, heās from the books and maps. I think Bilbo has trouble connecting the idea that what he feels for Thorin is more than awe until Balin asks him to put it into words. But he was in love throughout, and I think on some level it was the dragon sickness that brought it out of him, because it gave him the chance to take care of Thorin.
I shy away from such gross generalizations as āBilbo is a caretakerā. I donāt actually see him as parental (he shies away from very small children except as a storyteller), for example, even if he is domestic in the literal sense (I think Thorin is domestic too, the only difference is he doesnāt have a home). But I believe, like Thorin, he shows his love by taking care of others and protecting them, and thatās one of many very interesting parallels between them. As Richard said, itās two people from wildly different backgrounds finding each other in an improbable place and understanding one another. Bilbo shows his love by helpingĀ Thorin get his home back, notĀ Thorin son of Thrain son of ThrorĀ get his kingdom back. He shows it by leaping up to defend Thorin from Azog, from asking Thorinās permission before giving orders to the company to get in the barrels, by keeping the Arkenstone from Thorin because it would make his sickness worse, by being theĀ only personĀ who mentions that Thorin isnāt eating or sleeping, not just that heās obsessed with gold. Bilbo knowsĀ immediatelyĀ that Thorin is better when he charges out of the mountain, and his first concern isnāt fear for his own safety (Thorin did just threaten to kill him after all), but to get the news to Thorin as soon as possible that heās walking into a trap. His first instinct when he finds Thorin on the battlefield is to take care of him and heal his wounds. (*sob*)
Bilbo in love is demonstrating the very hobbit-y priority of taking care of the health of the person theyāre in love with, just like Sam making sure Frodo ate on their quest, or Pippin finding Merry on the battlefield and his first words to him being āIām going to take care of you.ā Thatās hobbit-speak for āI love you.ā They donāt necessarily say it with grand gestures or poetry or valuable gems or mithril armor. To a proper English gentleman like Bilbo it would be unthinkable to make such grand gestures, or demonstrate overt affection anywhere but in private.
He shows it instead with his concern. With small, every day acts of love that keep the darkness at bay.Ā