gendered bathrooms are so fucking stupid.
there are two bathrooms at the starbucks i frequent. one women’s one men’s. and i just watched a lady wait outside the occupied women’s for 15 minutes before giving up and leaving rather than just using the unoccupied men’s.
before you ask if i’d be okay with a man going into the women’s were the roles reversed: yes. of course. it’s a single bathroom. it’s not like anyone is going to run into anybody while in the bathroom. it’s one door that leads to a toilet, sink, and changing table (both bathrooms have the changing table– a win for dads everywhere.)
the only thing that separates them is the dumbass sign on one that says women’s and the other dumbass sign that says men’s.
and you bet your ass that if i need to go, and one of them is occupied, i go use the other. it shouldn’t be a big deal.
would getting rid of gendered bathrooms fix all of trans problems everywhere? no probably not. but if they aren’t designated for one set of people vs another set of people then you can’t really stop a butch or trans woman from going into the “women’s” bc she looks masculine, bc there isn’t a women’s.
there’s just the goddamn bathroom.
