Climactic Splashes

353 days to go. A horrible day at work. An old grandma who looked as if she wouldn’t harm a fly called me a pencil-pushing capitalist dupe. But then I came home and cooked chicken with cream, mushrooms and port, and it was total bliss.

another fact is that 500 calories isn’t even enough for a new born.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/04/17/bush-torture-memos-commer_n_188190.html

In a footnote to a May 10, 2005, memorandum from the Office of Legal Council, the Bush attorney general’s office argued that restricting the caloric intake of terrorist suspects to 1000 calories a day was medically safe because people in the United States were dieting along those lines voluntarily.

“While detainees subject to dietary manipulation are obviously situated differently from individuals who voluntarily engage in commercial weight-loss programs, we note that widely available commercial weight-loss programs in the United States employ diets of 1000 kcal/day for sustain periods of weeks or longer without requiring medical supervision,” read the footnote. “While we do not equate commercial weight loss programs and this interrogation technique, the fact that these calorie levels are used in the weight-loss programs, in our view, is instructive in evaluating the medical safety of the interrogation technique.”

Another another friendly reminder that the Minnesota Starvation Experiment subjected adult men who were VOLUNTEERS to 1,560 calorie diets and the psychological effects were so profound that one volunteer cut three of his own fingers off and could not remember why.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Minnesota_Starvation_Experiment

These men were volunteers who knew exactly what they would be going through and when it would end, and who believed they were doing it for a good and moral reason (the research was used to help rehabilitate victims of starvation and famine at the end of WWII).

And these are the things we are expected to engage in FOREVER to stay at a “healthy” weight.

Reading about the Minnesota Starvation experiment was my wake-up call.  It was what kicked me out of my eating disorder.  The guy missing three fingers, whatever his name was, he was the last straw for me.

“I’ve just seen a face, I can’t forget the time or place where we just met. She’s just the girl for me and I want all the world to see we’ve met.”

You have to understand. Improv comedy has rules you follow. And rule number one, the Golden Rule: NEVER CONTRADICT. You never take what someone suggests and say “no, not that, this instead!” You never reply to a joke with “No, I don’t want to do that!” You roll with it. You ALWAYS roll with it. The ridiculousness added on top of ridiculousness peaks into a primo superdense ball of hilarity incarnate.

And his reply to something offensive was “Nope. Stop the bit. Nope. Nope. Nope. You fucked up.”

I’ll bet you money Wayne Brady would do the same if a white person on the show dropped an N-Bomb, and people would be understanding. Colin stood up for an oft-maligned group, whose members include one very personal to him, and completely ground that show to a grinding halt by saying “No. That’s not fucking funny.” and ruined the joke. This is a man who builds his entire career off of making jokes, and he /ruined another’s/.

I’m sorry, Colin isn’t just a god amongst improv comics. He’s not just funny as all get-out and witty as hell. He’s a stone-cold badass, and he deserves recognition.

Well, even if so, is it getting screwed over at a level comparable to getting drafted? (Taking into account, of course, that one who hastens to volunteer is not going to still be a civilian when conscription starts.) Here, I’d hope that the answer of “no” would be relatively uncontroversial.

First: the expectations are, when you look at it, not as dissimilar as you might think. An unwilling mother and a drafted soldier are both expected to spend a large portion of the ‘best’ years of their lives protecting other people, with no real regard for their own desires. They are fed a romanticised, bullshit view of what their new role looks like. But it’s a decision the rest of the wold makes without any regard to what they want- if you’re in a place where you can’t use birth control or get an abortion, the decision to get pregnant is literally as random as a lottery pull.  

Soldiers are more likely to die… but pregnancy and its complications can kill you in all kinds of fun, horrible ways. The death rate for drafted soldiers in Vietnam was about .002%. The current maternal mortality rate is about .0001%, with the full benefit of modern technology. Without that technology, depending on the country, it’s more like 3-9%.   

A good chunk of Vietnam veterans never saw combat at all- somewhere from 50-75%, depending on the source; only 5-10% of soldiers, drafted or otherwise, were ever intended to be in combat at any time. ‘An army marches on its stomach’, and a good chunk of the work in any army is keeping its stomach full. Boredom, loneliness, discouragement, and isolation were bigger problems for most Vietnam vets than being shot at. And interestingly enough, these are the same kinds of complaints young mothers have, especially if they’re also housewives. 

Am I saying that being a mother, willingly or otherwise, is equal to being a combat soldier in a war zone? Hell no. But being the mother of a toddler is probably equal, in both physical and emotional intensity, to peeling potatoes and fixing the wi-fi in an army base somewhere, which is what most drafted soldiers would be doing. 

But there are a couple things that make being shoved into motherhood, IMO, worse than being shoved into the army.

Difference #1: duration. Most soldiers in Vietnam did 1-4 tours of duty, and each tour was a year long. Most mothers have active care of their child for at least 18 years; if you have more than one child, it can be much longer. My mom’s family has nine kids; mom’s youngest sister was ten when I was born. And even after your kid grows up, you’re still expected to play a major role in their life.

Motherhood really is a lifetime commitment. And if it’s one you did not sign up for, do not want, and can’t egally escape… Do you really think that that’s a negligible problem? Do you think a commitment for one year, even if it’s one that carries an increased risk of dying, is worse than a commitment for the rest of your life?

Difference #2: societal expectation.  I don’t think anyone expects you to be happy about being drafted unless your father is a drill sergeant from an 80s Teen Movie. But imagine they did. Imagine getting drafted is supposed to be the happiest day of your life - if you’re foolish or scared enough not to enlist- and getting a deferment due to poor health is a tragedy.

Imagine that you do have a medical condition that keeps you from being in the army, whether or not it was something you wanted. Imagine your family trying to hide their disappointment from you. Imagine random strangers treating you like you’re evidence of society degrading, because you’re not playing Your Role As A Man- or worse, giving you unwanted advice about dodgy ‘natural’ cures that will totally let you go out to the front. Because that’s definitely what you want, right? 

Imagine that you make it through school and start looking for jobs, and no one will give you one because you’re a young man of military age. After all, you could go off to war at any time, right? Why would they want to invest in someone so unreliable? Imagine that this is illegal, and yet they keep doing it, because it makes financial sense. 

Imagine that once you do get a job, you’re overqualified, underpaid, and overworked. Imagine that your coworkers take a huge interest in your personal life and keep asking you why you’re not in the army, are you in the Reserves, my cousin is in Reserves and he says- and so on, and no matter how much you try to shut them down, they keep at it. 

Imagine having to do the complicated signaling dance of making sure people know you’re not some kind of filthy awful pacifist, but you’re not going to run off and leave your employer high and dry.  Imagine being passed up for promotions in favour of women and older men, because your bosses still think you might go off to war any day now.

Imagine that even as you get older, and you pass out of the ‘military age’ bracket, people start trying to console you for not having served, trying to think up ways you could still take on the ~role of a soldier~, or start trying to pigeonhole you into some political box or another based on your lack of service. 

Imagine how all of that feels. Even if you were pro-draft, it’d make you a fucking pacifist, wouldn’t it? 

Well, that’s the way that our society treats women who can’t be mothers. 

Difference #3, tying into #2: scale.  

Here’s the thing: if you insist that there is one correct role for a specific group of people, that that one correct role is the only thing that will make those people happy, and that if they stray from that role they are either broken and sad or broken and dangerous… a lot of people are going to fall through the gaps. This is true no matter what that group is and no matter what that role is-  and the bigger the group and the more confining the role, the worse it’ll be.

If you insist that anyone with a vagina should be A Wife And Mother, regardless of how fit they are for it, how much they want to do it, or how happy they’d be… even if most people-with-vaginas are happy to be homemaking mothers, they’re still 51% of the human race.  A tiny minority of half the human race is still a huge number of people. 

There are about 323,000,000 people in the USA as of 2016. About half of those people are women, and about half of those women are of childbearing age- between age 15 and age 40. About 8 million women total are the right age to bear children. About 10% of women are infertile; so in total, about 7.9 million women in the USA can get pregnant/have kids. If even just 1% of those women don’t want to have kids, that’s still 79,000 people in the USA who are being forced into a life they don’t want- roughly the population of Santa Fe.  And, while research on this is shaky, it seems like the actual number is more like 20%.

That means there are 1.5 million women who do not want children; a little more than the population of New Orleans. And a sizeable proportion of those women are being pushed, none too gently, towards motherhood anyway, whether by restrictions on abortion, lack of proper sex ed, lack of proper parenting ed, or just plain old social pressure.

As of my research, the various Army branches take men between the ages of 18 and 34. There are about 4.3 million men in the USA in that age range. About 20% of those men have one or another disability that would keep them from serving- so about 4.2 million men could serve in the army to begin with. 

AFAIK during the Vietnam war,  somewhere from 7-9% of eligible men were drafted. That means, if the US reinstituted the draft today, about 400,000 men total would be in danger of getting drafted. 

In terms of sheer scale, “women being pushed towards motherhood that they don’t want” is a bigger problem than “men being forced into army service they don’t want”, even if the draft was active right now. And… well, it isn’t. The draft is so politically toxic that it’d be difficult to get people to consider reinstituting it. As of today, I’m in no danger of having to go to the draft office, and neither are you.  

 I get it. It’s creepy and dehumanising to have to carry a card around that basically says “I am government property”. I think the draft is morally wrong. I’m a pacifist; I do not think the US should be fighting half the wars it’s trying to fight to begin with. If I wasn’t disabled, I’d be a conscientious objector. I’m annoyed and occasionally saddened that a good chunk of the Left seems to care more about who’s directing what blockbuster or who’s speaking on what campus than about what fucked-up shit the government is doing, and the forever war/symbolic draft/military surveillance are all part of that. 

I don’t think any percentage of men (or women) should be drafted at all. But I think ‘women being pushed into motherhood they do not want and are not ready for’ is a great big awful screw-over of equal proportion to the draft. The only thing that differs it is that as of right now there are no legal consequences for not being a mother, but hoo boy, do certain conservative lawmakers want to change that.