i was thinking about MCU!Steve Rogers again and his relationship with women and Bucky Barnes and i believe that while it is hidden pretty well it is another case of homoerotic tension written in the narrative stemming from pure misogyny.
like there is the standard MCU baseline misogyny we saw in the early days but it's deeper than that.
Steve's awkward, stilted, half-forced romance scenes were clearly not played solely because someone was angling for signaling him as gay. if the audience can see it, there's no way active professional filmmakers didn't know.
and it's not like they couldnt keep the queerbaiting of that era without sacrificing Steve's romance scenes. they did need to make us "believe" in the end Steve could at least be bi, if not outright deny the setup they made and claim him as straight.
and it wasn't like they couldn't write moving romances elsewhere. for all the problems between Pepper and Tony, the audience could believe they were genuinely in love.
but if you compare Tony and Steve, what is the absolute major difference there? not in personality or anything. but character?
it's that Tony fundamentally is a misogynist. and Steve is not allowed to be a misogynist.
it is genuinely as if the creators behind Steve Rogers could not conceptualize a man that was fully respectful of women and also attracted to them.
like they couldn't wrap their heads around it.
so when we get his flirting, it's awkward and forced, and when we get his kissing scenes, it's as if the kisses themselves elicit no response.
because they can't imagine a man fully respectful of women to be an active participant without showing off his "male prowess".
and so we get "so obviously written as gay MCU!Steve Rogers".
that's my theory anyway.
anyways, thoughts spawned from @headspace-hotel's post about gay!Steve Rogers.
I think part of it comes from misunderstanding of some of Steve's key traits.
I think what they were trying to go for is portraying Steve as sexually naive. Part of this is because his enhanced body is new to him and he hasn't experienced people being attracted to him, but part of it is that Steve is a deeply good character and writers and audiences consistently misunderstand that as meaning "straight-laced"/goody-two-shoes/Allergic to Fun.
This says a lot about how the writers view men and manhood.
particularly I feel like the godawful ending he was given in Endgame was one of the most misogynistic plot points pertaining to this because of the logic underpinning why it was seen as a resolution to Steve's arc... he is granted access to a woman, as though he's earned a prize. There is never any question of whether Peggy would WANT to be with him, even though she literally married someone else.
It's kind of interesting how Steve is characterized in early MCU as "not a real man" (thinking of "everything special about you came out of a bottle", and "nice boots Tinker Bell") like, the artificiality of what he is is so emphasized whether intentionally or not. And later MCU changed his appearance to be more "manly-looking" (muted colors, beard). Doling out a female side character to him is a way of Granting Him Manhood.
So this is interesting to me, in part, because of how Steveâs flirting was viewed when Winter Soldier first came out. Back then there was a segment of people who said it was âproofâ that âwomen donât go for nice guysâ or that women always play hard to get. Steveâs awkwardness was framed as him giving up too easily, being a doormat, and sometimes that it made him look kinda gay. On the other hand there were people who went through this interaction as a great example of how to give and receive a soft no. Steve asks âKateâ out. She says she has a ton of laundry. He offers to let her use his machine, making it clear he just wants to get to know her and that an initial negative doesnât set him off. She doubles down, mentioning how gross her work is but ends the conversation with something like âanother timeâ. So Steveâs awkward, probably because this is supposed to be his first time asking a lady out since he was unfrozen, but doesnât exhibit any red flags. Now, the moviemakers were probably trying to make him seem old-fashioned in this politeness but itâs interesting to think of it in the context of the broader misogyny of the cinematic universe and how thatâs what really stalls out a possible Steve/Sharon pair. Because Steve isnât that awkward around people generally - his opening scene with Sam feels a lot more naturally flirty than the bit with Kate. While Natashaâs surprise kiss makes him uncomfortable, heâs generally open and trusting with her (itâs why heâs so angry she and Fury were hiding things from him). But the MCU seemingly couldnât do an egalitarian type relationship and so, his only romantic moments with women are carefully framed in a more formal past and go very stiltedly in the present.

















