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GRABS you by the THROAT. stop using "narcissistic", "slow", "depressed", "bipolar", "schizophrenic" and the literal R slur (i'm not saying it.) etc etc etc as insults. I don't care if you're neurodivergent and doing this you're still an ableist prick

Autistic social anxiety is not "social anxiety" in the typical sense. An anxiety disorder is defined as an "irrational fear". So for example, imagine someone who is afraid to speak in case everyone looks at them and goes "what the heck are you saying you wierdo." If that person is neurotypical, then the chances are that they're very unlikely to get that response. Therefore their fears are irrational, and that is true "social anxiety". If you put an autistic person in that scenario, on the other hand, then probably the reason they're afraid of that response is because they've received it many times before. They're fear is based on repeated past experiences, therefore it is not irrational and not the simply an anxiety disorder. That's why people giving the classic social anxiety responses to autistic people is so unhelpful. "Just go out there and talk to people, it'll be fine," or "keep pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and you'll get more confident," don't work if the problem is real and not just in your head.

i feel so defensive and protective of people with ARFID like if i had a disorder that made my brain register 90% of food as poison for no reason and i had a bazillion people on the internet constantly calling me a manchild who needs to just grow up and stop being a picky eater i would start killing people

people with ARFID and people with very few autism safe foods and people with contamination OCD and people in ED recovery and everyone else with a complicated relationship with food that no one takes seriously GET BEHIND ME!!!!!!!

thanks for the part about moving on quickly. Most of the time apologies just make everything worse. I know others might have different experiences but as a gender queer person it just bothers me when ppl are very apologetic about misgendering me

Reblogging because I keep saying “it’s fine I don’t mind [normative set of pronouns]” to people from my country -that doesn’t have a singular they-, because I don’t want to feel like a burden, but after that I feel terrible. It happens with my name as well. If the rare people I’m out to would use she/him pronouns I actually would be fine with it, but they only use the one they’re used to refer me as and I hate that I’m not confident enough to correct them. I can’t even ask my closest irl friend to have my contact in her phone be my chosen name

Applies to genderfluid people as well bc my ex boyfriend Did not acknowledge my genderfluidity at all 🫶

killing him with fires

[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at myself] its over