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she was my first love and we were madly in love. however, I was too young for serious relationships and chose career over love.

Now I’m 30, recently I met her in a shopping center, she’s now happily married and has a son. We sat in a cafe for four hours talking about everything, we both confessed we had the best time of our lives together.

well I came home and simply burst into tears,  how stupid I was to exchange the love of my life for all this.

Don’t let “your" people go.

- Anonymous Author

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

  Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

  Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

  Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

  Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

  Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

  Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

  Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

  Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

  Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Arthur Miller (via tanya-nicole)

An Empath is a person who has the ability to feel and share other people’s feelings and pains. Empaths are very sensitive to their surroundings, what they eat, and who they are around.  Naturally, Empaths are kind, good-hearted, spiritually attuned, and excellent listeners.

Are you an Empath?

You know stuff without being told

Public places, like malls or busy grocery shops, can be overwhelming

You feel others emotions and pains by taking them on as your own

Seeing violence, cruelty, bullying is unbearable.

You know when someone is lying to you

You pick up physical symptoms off of other people such as colds, body aches, headaches, pains, etc.

You have digestive disorders or lower back pains.

You are always looking out for the underdog. Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws your attention.

Others will always want to unload problems on you, even strangers.

You are a good listener.

You are constantly tired and drained of energy.

You are drawn to healing, holistic therapies, and all things metaphysical. 

You have a creative streak and a vivid imagination.

You have a love for nature and animals. You find yourself constantly outside connecting with animals and seeking refuge in nature.

You need lots of alone time or you will go crazy.

You get bored or easily distracted if not stimulated.

You find it impossible participate in things you do not enjoy.

You strive for truth and honesty

You are always looking for answer and knowledge. You always are found with you nose in a book.

You like adventure, freedom, and traveling.

You have a messy room, desk, locker, etc.

You constantly and seem to be in your own little world.

You find rules, routine, and control imprisoning.

You find yourself prone to gaining weight without necessarily overeating

You are able to sense the energy of food and often do not eat meat from an animal that was mistreated.

You have been labeled as overly emotional or too sensitive.

Your feelings are hurt easily.

Animals and children take a natural liking to you.

You are fairly quiet especially in crowds.

If you answered yes to all or most of these you are definitely an empath.

Ways to cope with Empathy:

Allow yourself to have lots of quiet time without electronics. Curl up with a book and put on soothing music instead.

Take time out of your day to sit in nature

Pet a dog, cat, horse, rabbit, etc.

Meditate

If crowds are overwhelming, eat a high-protein meal beforehand (this grounds you) and sit in the far corner, not dead center.

Ground yourself

Cleanse your space, aura, and chakras of negative energy

Practise breathing exercises

Carry or wear protective crystals

Develop a energy shield for your body

Crystals for Empaths:

Rose quartz - Helps push away negativity, provides a bit of extra energy, excellent for grounding.

Black tourmaline - Protects from negative energy.

Amethyst -  Helps to heighten and sharpen an empath’s intuition.

Lepidolite - Eases any anxieties empaths have when around other people. This crystal is well known for its power, peace, and its ability to promote luck, love, and sleep.

Malachite - Removes emotional blockages and helps calm when you are in a stressful situation. Absorbs any negative feeling you might hold inside of you.

Amazonite - Helps balance emotions.

Citrine - Repels negative energy. Relieves depression and mood swings. Opens the mind to new thoughts, helps with dream recall, and increases self esteem.

Obsidian - Repels negative energy, grounds you, and balances emotions.

Aqua Aura Quartz - Deflects and traps harmful energies.

Essential Oils for Empaths:

Basil - Lifts fatigue, anxiety, and depression.

Frankincense - Has an uplifting effect, prevents people from draining energy, helps your concentration, and clears mind clutter.

Geranium - Uplifting, decreases anxiety and nervous tension.

Jasmine - Mood enhancer, balances emotions, boosts self-esteem and lifts anxiety and depression.

Lavender - Balances emotions, relaxes body and mind, and clears negative energy.

Marjoram - Calms emotional trauma

Rose - Mood enhancer.

Sage - Uplifting, grounding, relaxing, prevents people from draining energy, and good for anxiety.

Vetiver - Calms nerves.

Ylang-Ylang - Relaxes and good for anxiety.

Resources:  Christel Broederlow, drjudithorloff.com, davidwolfe.com, dayinthelifeofanempth.blogspot.ca, theknowing1.wordpress.com, eathanlazzerini.com

Comment if you are an empath and a way you cope as an empath. Let’s see how many empaths are out there!

May the moon light your path!

annnnnnd here’s all of season one

annnnnnnnnnnnnnd all of season two

like my grandmother ‘loved’ me, but she also was always trying to change me.  she tried to take me away from my (catholic bisexual) mother.  she made me wear dresses when i was there.  she always tried to get me to go to church and was always asking me if i was dating a boy yet

i spent years feeling guilty that i wasn’t what she wanted me to be until my mom told me one day “she never bothered to know the real you”

and it’s true.  any time i tried to show her something about myself, even cook for her, it would be dismissed, and a replacement would be offered.  even northern food was somehow a sin.  

she loved me what she thought i should be, she never loved me.