Coincidence and Fate Figure Largely in Our Lives

@glumshoe

Name's Ship. Bona fide weirdness magnet and general-purpose nerd. Many other functions. *wishlist*

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ive been a fan of your blog for the longest time (at least since 2016) and im also just recently engaged!! i feel like all of us are grown up now lol. congrats to you and your partner :’)

God yeah I mean I was 17 when I first made a tumblr (because my high school crush had one) and it’s wild having basically grown up here. Half my lifespan as of this fall, I think. I would say it’s been a humiliatingly large part of my life, but I met all my best friends and my fiancé here.

Thank you and congratulations!

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anyone tried pyridostigmine/mestinon for POTS?

congrats on the engagement!!!!!

thank you! it’s technically old news now (since August) but we haven’t been talking about it openly until recently haha

we do want to have a proper wedding but all that is pending more stable health and pip has some procedures to get first. but we have had a fun time dreaming up plans for Evil Wedding with seating arranged for maximum personality conflict.

I’m engaged

#medically thing are dire and this is almost year old news HOWEVER we’re finally talking openly about it lol

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I’m engaged

In what?

;)

I’m engaged

Howdy! I'm also a post top surgery tman and (ironically) went through University of Michigan for it all. UM offers financial assistance for ALL patients even gender dysphoria diagnoses. It's often called financial accommodation. State of MI allows 240 days (approx. 8 months) from the first date of an invoice billed to apply for financial assistance, with proof of income and medical need, before sending to collections or payment plan/care credit. Dr's from other non-UM facilities may need to fax referral letters to UM, but I'm not familiar with that since I'm all UM-coded. Personally, I used Dollarfor as a nonprofit that specializes in filing these types of things! They're free, easy, habla en español, and it works!! $3k I did not have to pay!! Once approved, assistance lasts one calendar year from date of approval (ex: billed on 2/1/20, approved 4/1/20, accommodation lasts from 2/1/20-4/1/21). During accommodation, copays and invoices are waived, not prescriptions however :/

I am so sorry you were botched from Dr Wolf but if you want to spread the word, my referral was from UM's Dr Randolph jr (he/him), surgeon was Dr Tsu (she/her) and resident Dr Berlin (he/him). I even got my hysto done two years later at ann arbor, surgeon Dr Stroumsa (they/them) and resident Dr Kelly (he/him). They were all very kind, very understanding and lovely with post op care.

That’s great info! Thank you!

#I really liked Dr. Tsu when I met her

do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

I went to him because he was 1.) the cheapest possible option and since I needed crowdfunding that seemed best 2.) within driving distance of my friends who’d be able to host me. I didn’t have any complications and I don’t hate my results, so the fact that he stopped offering free revisions after COVID (including for people who had their surgeries before the pandemic) and ghosts everyone isn’t a huge deal personally. I do have moderate to severe dog-earring right in the middle my chest which limits what clothing I can wear and have inquired about possible revisions with other surgeons (so far no one has been willing to operate on other dr’s work and have told me I’d need to pay the price of a full secondary top surgery). Dr. Wolf famously ghosts all his patients after surgery and has strict weight limits.

HOWEVER I accompanied my friend to their top surgery at the University of Michigan last year that made Dr. Wolf’s entire process seem back alley and sketchy by comparison. My friend had extensive pre- and post-surgical monitoring and extreme sanitary precautions. Dr. Wolf just had me take off my shirt and slapped me on the operation table still wearing my street clothes and then scraped me up and sent me home the moment I regained consciousness. His bedside manner was offputting and uncomfortable. It has been impossible to contact him ever since, even to ask politely why my stitches look so different from his other results. Other people with much worse results have also been ghosted.

OH AND ALSO when I asked if he could swap my left and right nipples just for the hell of it he said “yeah sure lol” but apparently you’re not supposed to do that because there is the risk of like, manually metastasizing cancer cells. lol. I did ask for it and I think I am at very low risk for breast cancer but I do think a responsible surgeon should at least know about and warn you of that possibility before agreeing to it.

my friends and my ex were great caretakers who made the recovery process easy and kind of fun but knowing what I know now makes the whole experience retroactively a little bit traumatic

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An additional anecdote: My roommate got top surgery with this guy during our freshman year of college, and he had no family or other friends in the area to accompany him. On any normal day I would've skipped class to do so, but I had a quiz worth like a fifth of my grade and not enough advance warning to ask if I could take the alternate time (my roommate told me about this literally the morning of).

Dr. Wolf operated on an unaccompanied patient and let him get in a Lyft by himself immediately post-surgery.

A week or so he had to go back in to deal with a minor complication, and wanted to go by himself again. So I emailed Dr. Wolf to ask if I should push back and insist on coming with this time, and got this reply:

We always feel safer for the patient to have somebody with him. If it was the hospital, they would refuse to even do him without somebody with him.

I guess it technically beats operating on him alone a second time, but straight-up admitting that a hospital would never do the kind of thing he does is... telling, I think.

wow yeah I don’t love that

he seems to have been a lot more communicative in the past when he offered revisions but I don’t know if his other policies used to be better

also correction: there was a one week follow up appointment where he changed the bandages and told me it looked fine but there was no other communication after that. also he used penrose drains which I didn’t personally mind but was a lot grosser for my caretakers because it meant I was just oozing directly into my bandages, soaking through them, and staining clothes/bedding.

do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

I went to him because he was 1.) the cheapest possible option and since I needed crowdfunding that seemed best 2.) within driving distance of my friends who’d be able to host me. I didn’t have any complications and I don’t hate my results, so the fact that he stopped offering free revisions after COVID (including for people who had their surgeries before the pandemic) and ghosts everyone isn’t a huge deal personally. I do have moderate to severe dog-earring right in the middle my chest which limits what clothing I can wear and have inquired about possible revisions with other surgeons (so far no one has been willing to operate on other dr’s work and have told me I’d need to pay the price of a full secondary top surgery). Dr. Wolf famously ghosts all his patients after surgery and has strict weight limits.

HOWEVER I accompanied my friend to their top surgery at the University of Michigan last year that made Dr. Wolf’s entire process seem back alley and sketchy by comparison. My friend had extensive pre- and post-surgical monitoring and extreme sanitary precautions. Dr. Wolf just had me take off my shirt and slapped me on the operation table still wearing my street clothes and then scraped me up and sent me home the moment I regained consciousness. His bedside manner was offputting and uncomfortable. It has been impossible to contact him ever since, even to ask politely why my stitches look so different from his other results. Other people with much worse results have also been ghosted.

OH AND ALSO when I asked if he could swap my left and right nipples just for the hell of it he said “yeah sure lol” but apparently you’re not supposed to do that because there is the risk of like, manually metastasizing cancer cells. lol. I did ask for it and I think I am at very low risk for breast cancer but I do think a responsible surgeon should at least know about and warn you of that possibility before agreeing to it.

my friends and my ex were great caretakers who made the recovery process easy and kind of fun but knowing what I know now makes the whole experience retroactively a little bit traumatic

the dog earring isn’t awful, just distracting and disheartening, but it’s simply not worth $$$$$ to correct. if it were at my armpits instead of the middle of my chest it probably wouldn’t bother me.

I also never got an explanation as to why he did external stitches that scarred like Frankenstein when none of his other results look like mine—I assume it’s because I have thinner skin than his other patients. this part doesn’t bother me but I imagine it would bother other people.

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do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

I went to him because he was 1.) the cheapest possible option and since I needed crowdfunding that seemed best 2.) within driving distance of my friends who’d be able to host me. I didn’t have any complications and I don’t hate my results, so the fact that he stopped offering free revisions after COVID (including for people who had their surgeries before the pandemic) and ghosts everyone isn’t a huge deal personally. I do have moderate to severe dog-earring right in the middle my chest which limits what clothing I can wear and have inquired about possible revisions with other surgeons (so far no one has been willing to operate on other dr’s work and have told me I’d need to pay the price of a full secondary top surgery). Dr. Wolf famously ghosts all his patients after surgery and has strict weight limits.

HOWEVER I accompanied my friend to their top surgery at the University of Michigan last year that made Dr. Wolf’s entire process seem back alley and sketchy by comparison. My friend had extensive pre- and post-surgical monitoring and extreme sanitary precautions. Dr. Wolf just had me take off my shirt and slapped me on the operation table still wearing my street clothes and then scraped me up and sent me home the moment I regained consciousness. His bedside manner was offputting and uncomfortable. It has been impossible to contact him ever since, even to ask politely why my stitches look so different from his other results. Other people with much worse results have also been ghosted.

OH AND ALSO when I asked if he could swap my left and right nipples just for the hell of it he said “yeah sure lol” but apparently you’re not supposed to do that because there is the risk of like, manually metastasizing cancer cells. lol. I did ask for it and I think I am at very low risk for breast cancer but I do think a responsible surgeon should at least know about and warn you of that possibility before agreeing to it.

my friends and my ex were great caretakers who made the recovery process easy and kind of fun but knowing what I know now makes the whole experience retroactively a little bit traumatic

do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

I went to him because he was 1.) the cheapest possible option and since I needed crowdfunding that seemed best 2.) within driving distance of my friends who’d be able to host me. I didn’t have any complications and I don’t hate my results, so the fact that he stopped offering free revisions after COVID (including for people who had their surgeries before the pandemic) and ghosts everyone isn’t a huge deal personally. I do have moderate to severe dog-earring right in the middle my chest which limits what clothing I can wear and have inquired about possible revisions with other surgeons (so far no one has been willing to operate on other dr’s work and have told me I’d need to pay the price of a full secondary top surgery). Dr. Wolf famously ghosts all his patients after surgery and has strict weight limits.

HOWEVER I accompanied my friend to their top surgery at the University of Michigan last year that made Dr. Wolf’s entire process seem back alley and sketchy by comparison. My friend had extensive pre- and post-surgical monitoring and extreme sanitary precautions. Dr. Wolf just had me take off my shirt and slapped me on the operation table still wearing my street clothes and then scraped me up and sent me home the moment I regained consciousness. His bedside manner was offputting and uncomfortable. It has been impossible to contact him ever since, even to ask politely why my stitches look so different from his other results. Other people with much worse results have also been ghosted.

OH AND ALSO when I asked if he could swap my left and right nipples just for the hell of it he said “yeah sure lol” but apparently you’re not supposed to do that because there is the risk of like, manually metastasizing cancer cells. lol. I did ask for it and I think I am at very low risk for breast cancer but I do think a responsible surgeon should at least know about and warn you of that possibility before agreeing to it.

do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

I went to him because he was 1.) the cheapest possible option and since I needed crowdfunding that seemed best 2.) within driving distance of my friends who’d be able to host me. I didn’t have any complications and I don’t hate my results, so the fact that he stopped offering free revisions after COVID (including for people who had their surgeries before the pandemic) and ghosts everyone isn’t a huge deal personally. I do have moderate to severe dog-earring right in the middle my chest which limits what clothing I can wear and have inquired about possible revisions with other surgeons (so far no one has been willing to operate on other dr’s work and have told me I’d need to pay the price of a full secondary top surgery). Dr. Wolf famously ghosts all his patients after surgery and has strict weight limits.

HOWEVER I accompanied my friend to their top surgery at the University of Michigan last year that made Dr. Wolf’s entire process seem back alley and sketchy by comparison. My friend had extensive pre- and post-surgical monitoring and extreme sanitary precautions. Dr. Wolf just had me take off my shirt and slapped me on the operation table still wearing my street clothes and then scraped me up and sent me home the moment I regained consciousness. His bedside manner was offputting and uncomfortable. It has been impossible to contact him ever since, even to ask politely why my stitches look so different from his other results. Other people with much worse results have also been ghosted.

do not go to Dr. Kenneth Wolf for top surgery

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A very well meaning kind person emailing me to let me know another blogger on tumblr has been posting about MCAS and saying it might be nice of me to reach out to them:

Me, who has been friends with this blogger for years and texting them about this for months:

#That’s so sweet #but man I am so sorry Joy that you are tumblr’s default MCAS Resource #Joy has been a great help to us and I’m deeply grateful but we are trying to do our own research also

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do you still have that vine where someone asks what your gender is, like "no but whats in your pants" and its like. infinite clown handkerchiefs.

I don’t have any of my old vines but I’m sure it’s out there somewhere.

Do you still have that vine of you slapping mothman's cheeks?

I do!

cabbage-with-legs

The link doesn’t work. I’ll never see his beautiful cheeks

OOPS lol I forgot I had embedded it directly from vine because tumblr’s video uploaded was so garbage in 2016. I know it’s out there in vine compilations and somewhere on an old laptop but otherwise I’m not sure.

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