So many instances in my life this past month of men blithely assuming that I cannot do basic home repairs. “Do you have someone to help you?” No, asshat. I’m the one doing the work. Get over it, and tell me which aisle the supplies are on.
Let’s add in not listening to the words that come out of my mouth.
“Hey, the water is leaking at the meter and I need you to contact the plumber who fixed our stuff last time.” (Doesn’t call a plumber.) (Has some random friend come over.) (Spends over an hour assessing the problem.) (Determines that we need a plumber.) {I am now seeing red. Did this man really think I don’t know what work requires a plumber and what work we can do ourselves? IT’S LIKE HE DOESN’T EVEN KNOW WHO I AM. We’ve been married nearly 20 years, for the record, and I’ve been doing most of the household repairs this entire time. How? How does he not believe my assessment of the situation?}
(Enter the Friend)
“What if the meter is the part that’s leaking?” “The city already came and said it’s on my side.” “But what if the meter is the part that’s leaking?” SO. MANY. TIMES. IN. A. ROW.
“Do you have a home warranty?” “No, I don’t waste my money on stupid insurances thanks.” “But most people get some kind of guarantee for the first year they own their home.” “That wouldn’t make any difference because we’re in our third year, and also I never had anything like that.” WE. REPEATED. THIS. ENTIRE. EXCHANGE. TEN. FUCKING. TIMES.
(Exit the Friend)
Then, this man yelled at me that I needed to get more information from the city guy. I am fucking speechless. “We have a water leak at our meter and the city guy said it’s our responsibility” AUTOMATICALLY EQUALS “this is Expensive and requires a Plumber with Equipment.” But sure. *I* didn’t ask enough questions.
ACTUAL PLUMBER CAME TODAY.
*He* was delightful. It’s so easy to not treat a woman like she has no knowledge or skill. Like. Gah.
Anyways, he said they’ll start digging 8 am tomorrow and be done by 1 pm and the price is not exorbitant.
I’ll be very relieved to have this fixed.


















